[CHANDLERS WISH]

Everyone is really giving you good advice here...

She probably never experienced someone doing things for her.

You have never been in a relationship to work out the pros and the cons.

You have a good heart but deep inside, it's hurting of giving and getting nothing in return.

You are chalk and cheese... face it, to give you should never expect back, but to love you should receive love back, your taking the words "literally"... and your sitting back and waiting again for her to come back.

Off course she will, you drop everything to get her what she needs, gives her her favourite foods, buy her expensive presents, take her to fansy restaurants on special occasions...

Your into sport, she's into partying.

Your a giver, she's a taker.

You have dreams, goals, plans, they all sound good in the fantasy world of what all young ladies want, financially stable, a picket fence and pets... We can visualise and in that, she sees future, and your so giving, aweee, but then reality steps in, yeah but I like to party you don't, I'm not interested in what you do, nor am I ever going to compromise, I expect you to do things for me, cause you will, but I am not going to do anything for you why should I? I'm a princess, I'm a taker... You will look after me for the rest of your life.

That's the picture.. Not pretty really is it.

Get out there and mingle with others, go out on dates with other girls... Don't wear your heart on your sleeve. First love always is hard to let go of as you know no different.

But, if you meet others and date, you will see so much of a difference you'll probably wonder why your doing what you doing and have done...

First love is the reason your letting her use you like a fishing rod, reel in, send out, reel in, send out.

USED.

[smiley414]

ok someone once told me that if it doesn't work the first time..chances are it's not going to work the second, third, or even fourth time. you're obviously doing everything you can but if she really loves you like she says she does, she would be trying just as hard. it can be really hard to move on especially when you feel things were going great but a relationship involves two people, not one. i'd have to say it's better to move on and find someone else that will appreciate all that you're willing to do for them.

[Demanding penguin]

she cheated twice. I found out sunday, did not sleep that night. All of my friends knew, they just didnt want to be the one to tell me because the were afraid I would get mad at themm. Perfect example of diffusion of responsibility.
The first time, was halloween. I talked to her at 1130 that night, she asked me to pick her up in the morning. I picked her up at 630 in the morning, she acted like nothing was wrong.
The second time was at New years. Again, I stopped by from a different party just to say hi, she was wearing the shortest dress, obviously showing off to other guys, I got mad, and left. So instead of talking to me to try to fix it, she hooked up with another guy. I came back 10 min later to say, "I'm sorry I was so mad, have fun tonight, baby". Again, acted like nothing was wrong. No shame, no guilt, no heart, no soul.

Our 6 month anniversary was 5 days after she cheated, she let me do all of these things knowing that she wasnt interested in me as much anymore, and probably didnt want to be with me.

All of my friends had been telling me what she does at parties, how she flits with a lot of guys, I tried not to believe it, but it finally got brought up to her, by me. She denied, and got incredibly mad at me, again.. I went to a party, someone took a picture of me and the girl, she saw the picture and again, got incredibly mad, she told me she was jealous.
How the does someone have the nerve to do something like that? Honestly? I've talked to all of her friends that I am friendly with, and they all agree with me entirely.
She has been away on vaction for the past week, I found out the day she left. I have yet to talk to her in person, and I couldn't be more excited to.

It has been not even been a week since this happened, and I have at least three beautiful girls already lined up. My friend asked his friend (girl) who could I get, she said, "He could have his pick from anyone in the school". They have seen how I treat a girl, and they dont even hesitate.

She had no soul, no heart, no shame, no guilt, no conscious, no regrets, nothing. I just can't wait untill she realizes what she did, and how big of a mistake she made

Thanks for all of your help guys, much appreciated!

[sarahlee20]

I have, and never will say "Stop partying" to her. I am not like that in anyway. If there was something that I didnt want her to do, I would tell her how I feel about it. I would not say, "You can't do that, 'cause i said so"

Its not like I was the one who rushed everything, said I love you first, and talked about our future together. It was all her! and I loved that she did all that.

What can I do? She said she needs time to think... I'm willing to wait. But what else is there that i can do?

Just wondering, She's 17 right? How old are you? You seem a lot more mature than her.

[Demanding penguin]

Just wondering, She's 17 right? How old are you? You seem a lot more mature than her.

18, and this was my first relationship. Her 5th or 6th. And read the whole thread first, haha

[sourpuss]

Sounds like you finally got the information that you needed. Chalk this one up to a learning experience. Now you can focus your energy on yourself and the possibility of someone else who deserves it.