[ItsASecret]

If a man brings up the topic of sex and in a mature discussion I would be appreciative that he took the initiative to bring it up. If he remains mature about it then two adults can have an adult conversation about sex.

I am a woman who does not sleep around and I would say that right off the bat in the sex conversation, if he gets pouty or says "but other people do it" or "why not it would be fun" and so on trying to convince me to have sex quickly in the relationship then I would know the guy is not for me and I would quickly end it all. But if he brings up the conversation of asking when I believe it would be appropriate or when it would comfortable to start engage in sex in the relationship and he did not get upset or says he respects my decision in a calm mature manner then the sex conversation is purely a sign of his maturity and that is the big thing to me.

How did your husband break out of the "friend zone" you put him in? I think this is a million dollar question for a lot of us guys!

My bf of 4 1/2 years now was my school friend from way back. He broke out of it by asking me on a coffee date one a day he saw me in University (we were going to different schools). He said he wanted to catch up on things and from there we progressed into a relationship. This is the same method that many couples have used, a simple "hey how are things going? want to go for a coffee?" is sometimes all it takes. If you think too much about how you can go from friend to banging her then you are likely not going to have much luck, it is not about purposefully making things happen like breaking out of a friend mold...it is up to time and her decision. Some women will always think of a guy as a friend and nothing more, some will change from friend to significant other, some will one day come to hate their friend and never talk to them again...it is all different.

[a_dub]

My bf of 4 1/2 years now was my school friend from way back. He broke out of it by asking me on a coffee date one a day he saw me in University (we were going to different schools). He said he wanted to catch up on things and from there we progressed into a relationship. This is the same method that many couples have used, a simple "hey how are things going? want to go for a coffee?" is sometimes all it takes. If you think too much about how you can go from friend to banging her then you are likely not going to have much luck, it is not about purposefully making things happen like breaking out of a friend mold...it is up to time and her decision. Some women will always think of a guy as a friend and nothing more, some will change from friend to significant other, some will one day come to hate their friend and never talk to them again...it is all different.

A lot of times we're told - whether its true or not - that once you get friend zoned...thats it, game over, you have a better shot at winning the loto. Good to know thats not necessarily true.