[alibaby]

Take the original post and title, swap the "he" and "she", see how it reads.

Oh my goodness! That is a good point, even if the title was only meant in jest.

[Guest]

Take the original post and title, swap the "he" and "she", see how it reads.

...That was really scary. No more suggestions like that.

[the-dark]

silly?

i honestly cant see why anyone would think it silly, i think it sounds very sweet

[LaynaBayna]

cuddling is nice

tanx a lot for ur advice. am actually 21. it is not going to be easy staying away cos i love holding touching cuddling him. i love him so so much...hmm...i will try and stay away for 6 months like u said....tanx a lot.

touching and cuddling arent bad as long as you dont let those things lead up to sex (if youre still planning on no sex for 6 mos) physical contact is a great way of showing affection even the little things like holding hands ^_^ so what im trying to say is you dont have to give those things up with the sex if you dont want to.

[bonsy]

hey girl, im no "sexpert" lol. but i did have a similar situation myself. but it was the opposite...i was the agressor. anyhow,...i think a great way to get your man to loosen up and enjoy sex without the fear of losing you,,,is to do something sexy,,,different and spontaneous. do not even give him the chance to shoot down your advances. there's lots of ways to do it. first of all make sure you try when you are very relaxed and comfortable and do not talk about sex or lack of it or watever. next time you go to his house...bring a dvd with you "porn" obviously,,,,put the movie on....and make sure to wear something super sexy. and dont talk,,,not much anyhow. just seduce him a little. im sure he will be tooo distracted and too excited to even think about anything else. and he should feel much more at ease with your forwardness.
i really hope i was able to help you because you seem fond of him from what i read,,,,and you dont need your sex life affecting your entire life.
good luck

[ordun'girl]

aarghhh

tanx bonsy but where on earth will i get a porn film. the first i ever watched was in his house....if there is any alternative to it, i dont mind.
i will be seeing soon again and i intend sleeping over...hey dont envy me...
u see, i was at his place few days ago and he was all over me, i didnt even need to entice him..lol...i love him to bits...we tried using a condom last time and i was in pains thruout and had to stop....good things dont come easy...or wt do u think?

[rcoreyus]

tanx bonsy but where on earth will i get a porn film. the first i ever watched was in his house....if there is any alternative to it, i dont mind.
i will be seeing soon again and i intend sleeping over...hey dont envy me...
u see, i was at his place few days ago and he was all over me, i didnt even need to entice him..lol...i love him to bits...we tried using a condom last time and i was in pains thruout and had to stop....good things dont come easy...or wt do u think?

Most video rental places have a porn section these days (at least in my part of the country). But - probably not necessary. Also, there are lots of movies that are quite... stimulating, without being porn.

[LadyLane]

You could be allergic to latex, all the friction with the latex makes it quite painful. You can try a different brand of condom made of either polyurethane or lambskin but understand that lambskin does not protect from STDs.

Also, maybe I'm just tired today but I don't understand your post. I'm thinking if he doesn't want to have sex, don't pressure him into having it. Neither of you wants you to get pregnant, even though you had your secret ceremony, you aren't legally married and I suppose either of your parents can try to keep you apart if that were to happen.

How did your relationship go from him being very "particular" about sex and demanding to have it, to you demanding to have sex and him not wanting it?

Also, I say forget the porn for now. Save that type of thing for when you have a normal, healthy, consistent sex life.

It sounds like you are both pretty confused and maybe a six-month celibacy break would be a good thing. Of course, we always want most the thing we have sworn off. So you never know if that will work.

[ordun'girl]

You could be allergic to latex, all the friction with the latex makes it quite painful. You can try a different brand of condom made of either polyurethane or lambskin but understand that lambskin does not protect from STDs.

Also, maybe I'm just tired today but I don't understand your post. I'm thinking if he doesn't want to have sex, don't pressure him into having it. Neither of you wants you to get pregnant, even though you had your secret ceremony, you aren't legally married and I suppose either of your parents can try to keep you apart if that were to happen.

How did your relationship go from him being very "particular" about sex and demanding to have it, to you demanding to have sex and him not wanting it?




Also, I say forget the porn for now. Save that type of thing for when you have a normal, healthy, consistent sex life.

It sounds like you are both pretty confused and maybe a six-month celibacy break would be a good thing. Of course, we always want most the thing we have sworn off. So you never know if that will work.

tanx ladylane.
i dont think i have ever met or heard of a guy who doesnt like sex and my fiance is no exception but he was ready to stay away from it if i wont leave him. the six month celibacy break is easier said than done.
we decided to break up the relationship two days ago, and since then i have been crying my eyes out.he almost got into trouble two times at his office cos his mind wandered off.he called my phone earlier today and begged me to come back to him, but i refused. but i was happy to hear his voice and he told me he loves me and no girl can ever take my place in his heart...am ok with that for now

[Little]

I think it's quite sad that the two of you broke up, but perhaps for the best, at least for now. Take a nice break, don't think about sex or even men/relationships/love for a little while! Go out with your girls on the weekend.
If he still loves you and you love him, and you just need time apart, don't let that ruin what good you can do for each other. Weigh the possibilities. It could be that you just need this break, not a permanent rift, but a "vacation."
Good luck