If role playing rape is the only thing that turns a man on, does this mean he is dist

[rubyrage21]

original post: https://www.womens-health.com/boards...tml#post320717

I posted a while ago about my traumatic experience with my now ex who was released from prison. Because of all the wonderful and informative advice, i had enough strength to move on in my healing process. Its been a little over a year now since it happened and out of the blue I got a random text which is clearly the current “new girl” of my ex.

She said she wanted answers. (My ex had been away in prison for 10 years and has been out a little over a year now) She asked me if he was ever physically abusive and if he ever asked me for weird sexual favors, I asked like what and she says anal. I said no. Then she says “nothing painful or weird, and again,I said no to both. Then she asked if I had ever suspected that he may be gay or bisexual. I told her I had my suspicions because he wasn’t very responsive to me sexually. She then asked me if violence and anal sex was the only thing that turned him on in the bedroom. I told her that he was very violent with me in any way. She said the only thing that turns him on is playing rape! She then asked me if i got tested since we broke up and I told her yea that I was clean and then she said to make sure i ask them to test for hpv. I told her again, that I am clean.

I was completely baffled, a million things were running through my head. I feel sick, overwhelmed…idk…What do you think?