Well it's certainly great to be back here on the forums! 
I've been away from this site for a long time and, and as a man, have decided to return to help improve my dating skills and relationships with women.
So I need a ladies opinion on something. What does a lady really mean when she says there is 'no chemistry'?
I've been on a lot of dates over the last six months. I've met a lot of girls on-line, in bars, and out at social gatherings. What typically happens is that I get a girl's number, call her, set up a date, then take her out for a drink and/or some sort of activity (like go see a jazz band).
These girls I date know what I look like and already know a little bit about me. And the strangest thing is that when the date finishes, I walk away feeling like I've had the most amazing time ever. The girl also comes across as though she had an amazing time too. Most times, I'll also kiss the girl half way through the date and the response is always positive. However, the next day I always receive a text saying that although they had an amazing time with me they felt no chemistry and therefore don't want to go out on another date again.
I've received a lot of these texts and it's very frustrating to receive them - particularly after having such a good time out on the date itself. Naturally, I thought I was doing or saying something wrong that pushed the girls away. Or, I probably came across as trying too hard or was too serious. Over time though, I'm pretty sure I've weeded these issues out. On dates, my intention is to have fun with the girl and do random, spontaneous things that promote flirtatiousness. In terms of looks, I'm typically the most well dressed guy in a bar. I'm well groomed, have a great fashion sense and always get compliments on my confidence and style.
Maybe I could be wrong here, but I've started to wonder if 'no chemistry' means something entirely different. I always thought that this line was a girl's way of saying "I'm not attracted to you" but now I'm not so sure. So is 'no chemistry'...
1. A girl's way of saying "I'm not attracted to you".
2. A line that is used to test a man to see if he will continue to chase.
3. A term that has been used as part of advice in a female dating book that everyone's reading. <--- I ask this because the texts are coincidentally similar in their nature. Like they've been cut and pasted from somewhere.
4. All of the above.
5. Something else which I'm missing entirely.
The other thing I haven't mentioned is that even though I get thrown the 'no chemistry' line, the girl always wants to stay in touch and remain friends. Right now, my Facebook profile is essentially a roll call of all the women I've dated over the last six months. Crazy!
Would really appreciate some help and guidance on this. It's very frustrating receiving these texts (and getting throw into the friendzone).
Hope you can help!
I've been away from this site for a long time and, and as a man, have decided to return to help improve my dating skills and relationships with women.
So I need a ladies opinion on something. What does a lady really mean when she says there is 'no chemistry'?
I've been on a lot of dates over the last six months. I've met a lot of girls on-line, in bars, and out at social gatherings. What typically happens is that I get a girl's number, call her, set up a date, then take her out for a drink and/or some sort of activity (like go see a jazz band).
These girls I date know what I look like and already know a little bit about me. And the strangest thing is that when the date finishes, I walk away feeling like I've had the most amazing time ever. The girl also comes across as though she had an amazing time too. Most times, I'll also kiss the girl half way through the date and the response is always positive. However, the next day I always receive a text saying that although they had an amazing time with me they felt no chemistry and therefore don't want to go out on another date again.
I've received a lot of these texts and it's very frustrating to receive them - particularly after having such a good time out on the date itself. Naturally, I thought I was doing or saying something wrong that pushed the girls away. Or, I probably came across as trying too hard or was too serious. Over time though, I'm pretty sure I've weeded these issues out. On dates, my intention is to have fun with the girl and do random, spontaneous things that promote flirtatiousness. In terms of looks, I'm typically the most well dressed guy in a bar. I'm well groomed, have a great fashion sense and always get compliments on my confidence and style.
Maybe I could be wrong here, but I've started to wonder if 'no chemistry' means something entirely different. I always thought that this line was a girl's way of saying "I'm not attracted to you" but now I'm not so sure. So is 'no chemistry'...
1. A girl's way of saying "I'm not attracted to you".
2. A line that is used to test a man to see if he will continue to chase.
3. A term that has been used as part of advice in a female dating book that everyone's reading. <--- I ask this because the texts are coincidentally similar in their nature. Like they've been cut and pasted from somewhere.
4. All of the above.
5. Something else which I'm missing entirely.
The other thing I haven't mentioned is that even though I get thrown the 'no chemistry' line, the girl always wants to stay in touch and remain friends. Right now, my Facebook profile is essentially a roll call of all the women I've dated over the last six months. Crazy!
Would really appreciate some help and guidance on this. It's very frustrating receiving these texts (and getting throw into the friendzone).
Hope you can help!
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