[Amber]

I'm on a dating website. This guy approaches me. I'm not sure by his pictures if I'm attracted to him or not but I figured I would give it a chance. In his profile for his title he puts, I'm not a bad guy so what am I doing wrong. I'm kind of wondering if I'm finding that out.

After one short email, he gives me his phone number. I told him I don't give out my phone number that quickly. I would like to email a guy back a forth a bit to get to know him a little bit. So he says ok and he asks me a few questions.

That is Monday evening and then Tuesday evening I was planning on emailing him back. Before I even respond back, I get two more emails from him. Then one more in the evening around 6pm on Tuesday saying did I scare you away? It has only been about 24hrs! Really? So I email him back that night saying no, you didn't scare me away. I ask him another question or two. Within a half of an hour he emails me back.

I had no time to email him again last night. I had planned on answering his questions tonight. I just get another email about a half of an hour ago. In addition to the two questions he asked me last night, which i haven't responded back to yet, he asks about six to seven more. He also puts this.

After reading your profile, I too am looking for my partner in crime, my soul mate. i'd like to get remarried again someday, but I need to make sure the girl I'm with is sweet and kind. A soul mate. Someone who I can't wait to come home and see after work. I have a tendency to hug a lot. Hopefully someday soon, I can give you a preview.

Maybe I'm horrible but my skin is now crawling. I have never met this guy and he is already talking about hugging me soon. And how he is looking for his soul mate. Does this guy sound clingy, needy, or is this just sweet? Some may say sweet but I'm not really feeling that with him!

Yes, I mention in my profile that I'm looking for my partner in crime but I'm thinking future. It just feels all so strange to be talking about this to a guy I haven't even met yet!! I know I'm probably just overacting but he is just starting to aggravate me here. I don't even want to email him tonight now after this!!! I'm thinking hold your horses!!!!! Also, he has made me his favorite on the website and then points it out to me. Which can see this for myself. How wonderful, I'm your favorite...not!!

Any thoughts?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Oh I remember these types of guys They rarely get to communicate because for the most part, one email is enough, after that it's stalking and so, the girls block him... But, you haven't and so, he's continuing on and on and on and on oh dear

He wants her to be sweet and kind and then hug her to death. What about, looking for simular morals, simular hobbies, someone who makes him laugh, someone he would love to walk the beaches and the hills and dine with?

He's after anyone really... He doesn't know what he's looking for.

I personally would not write back...

[Amber]

Something tells me if I don't reply back to his email, I'll get ten more in the next 24hrs. CW, I'm actually considering that blocking option right about now. I think I have had enough of this guy.

I'm sick and tired of guys who show how very desperate they are.

Thanks for your response CW :-)

[Obelisk]

Block him.

In general, online dating is brutal and I personally am no fan of it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

No worries Amber, thanks for asking us.

It's a difficult journey for sure but sometimes it can be fun and sometimes we can make friends or better, find someone, not always.

[Obelisk]

I would forget online dating completely. Women don't need it.

Just go to a mall and smile at guys you like. I guarantee you'll have a bf in a week

[Cyndie32]

i met my husband on an online dating site and we have been married for 6 years now. but i did have to meet a lot of "not my type" guys first. i couldn't just go to the mall. i live in a very rural area and the nearest mall is an hour away. but on that note, what i learned about dating on line is to not second guess myself. if he is creeping you out, just block him. there are many more men out there. just be careful. you never know when one could be a creeper.

[Obelisk]

Unfortunately online dating has a large bulk of men who couldn't get a girlfriend by asking out women in a mall. They can get pretty desperate.

You're right, there's always success stories, but the ratio of men to women is usually 100 to 1, and 99 of those guys are online for a reason or other.

[HisGirl]

Maybe I’m too naive, I’m sure there are some predatory people online and you know what you’re doing. He’s probably a very lonely person, socially awkward too, but isn’t it mean to block someone without even telling him why? When blocking someone does it give an opportunity for you to give him an up-front explanation that you’re not interested. Maybe help him out by telling him he comes across as too needy and he may be chasing other women away also. Give him a clue. Of course, this could be really bad advice, what do I know. I try to see the good in people. I’d be really bad at online dating if I had to do it.

[Little]

You might try to tell the guy - hey, you're coming on too strong. As you probably know, people who have NO IDEA what they're doing wrong have often already heard what they're doing wrong and aren't listening. Some of them respond violently to confrontation. You probably don't have time for that, and it's not your responsibility to educate him if you don't want to. Remember if you receive any emails that seem violent or abusive, to report them to the dating site you found him on. I agree with your gut that you should run, not walk, from this guy, but the method is up to you.