[Motorguy]

Well Magnetism, you are so right. There's is many things that you do in the bedroom that should stay in the bedroom or on the down low lol.

[Magnetism]

Well Magnetism, you are so right. There's is many things that you do in the bedroom that should stay in the bedroom or on the down low lol.

Again, the few people that claimed themselves as "alpha" were the ones that bragged about their sexual conquests. Or, maybe they just felt comfortable being really open about it.

[jns]

I resemble mostly beta female traits, from what I looked up in the search engine. There are a few alpha female traits (such as being aggressive in the bedroom), but those traits are kept on the downlow. I'm not one to show off myself.

Alphas are not always showy. I don't have any other way to say this, but IMO I think you are more alpha than you think you are and that can lead to clashes with other alphas. Then it seems like you would like a compatible beta to take over the alpha roles that you need to be beta to. I don't know, it's just the feeling I get. I'm not trying to put you down, just help you understand yourself.

[Magnetism]

Hi jns-yes, I haven't gotten along with other alphas at all. My former coach described herself as an alpha female, and wanted her clients to marry alpha males. But, the men that I was attracted were more beta.the last person I was extremely attracted to let me have all of the control in bed. He probably would be too passive for some women.

[Motorguy]

So Mag you like and want to be the women to be in control in the bed. With your men partners then, I am thinking some men don't like that. There nature is to be the one to have control in bed with there female partners.

[Magnetism]

Just bc I like to be in control doesn't mean that I wouldn't let the man take charge. I never said that. Some guys have wrongfully accused me of being submissive, just bc im a giver. I think the giver has a lot of control

[Motorguy]

Oh OK just asking wasn't sure what you was saying Mag. Now I know and understand what you was getting at now.

[Magnetism]

Jns-I'm curious as to what you think is alpha about me. I'm an infj on the mbti, which is heaven for me to find out. All of the infjs I know are so much like me. Even the attractive and intelligent infj males struggle with relationships. We just can't date people that we don't have an intense and deep bond with.

[effy2014]

I wouldn't get too caught up in labels. There are plenty of successful and emotionally intelligent males who can relinquish control (or at least share control) in the bedroom. To bring the thread back full circle, emotional bonds are deeper than physical chemistry and take longer to develop. Don't reject the possibility of a great relationship because the initial impression is just "ok". Look deeper.

[Magnetism]

Effy-I've already tried numerous times to see where things would go at just an initial connection seeming okay. Nothing happened. I even dated someone in college for a year that I wasn't in love with. The feeling of having sex with someone that you're not into is very hard. Also, the other person will feel led on and hurt knowing that you can't forge any deeper feelings for them. My ex in college became very bitter and resentful towards me, and I don't blame him. Who wants to hear that their partner was trying to force themselves to fall in love? If nothing happens after a few dates,months or a year-Please tell me what was the point in the first place? I would hate to hurt someone like that again.