[Rapid'87]

Angelic babe, from the perspective of a guy who goes out and socialises atleast 3 nights a week at clubs, bars etc, there some a couple of things that REALLY make the difference when it comes to attracting guys. One of which you already mentioned, dressing to look sexy but not ****ty.

I'll put some of the important points in dot point form (makes it easier to read)

- GREAT eyecontact. When you see a guy, prolonged eye contact REALLY gets a guy curious (although this is a common female technique so I'm sure you know it.)

- Nice smile. Smile when you make eye contact. MOST guys aren't very interpreting your little shows of interest and won't understand what prolonged eye-contact can potentially mean. Smiling makes it that much more obvious to the average guy.

- Be FUN and Playful. If the conversation seems to be heading towards the boring "so what are you studying?" or "what school did you go to." then change the topic to something more unique and interesting. This can be something strange that happened to you today, a crazy thought OR simple flirting. REMEMBER you can't bore somone into feeling attracted to you. So while guys are initially curious about you from your body-language and looks, if you can't hold a conversation, then most guys will just give up and go looking for more interesting people.

- if he compliments you or does something nice for you then show him some respect. There is nothing more loved by us than when girls show them admiration and respect. So for instance he says, "YOU ARE CRAZY LIKE ME! I like that about you." then you can respond with a similar show of interest. "Are you thinking what I'm thinking B1? Crazy adventure! "

- Also playing hard to get TO AN EXTENT. Too little and high value guys will lose interest. To much and guys will give up because they can always find a lovely girl who aren't just teases. Just right and guys will go insane.

Enjoy

PS. My mum warned me about girls like you, with your "techniques" to lure guys. Not so "angelic" after all. I can't even talk to you anymore!

[acchaladka]

Angelic babe, from the perspective of a guy who goes out and socialises atleast 3 nights a week at clubs, bars etc, there some a couple of things ...

So while guys are initially curious about you from your body-language and looks, if you can't hold a conversation, then most guys will just give up and go looking for more interesting people.

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Rapid made a good point we've forgot: what kind of social do you do. I never really go out to bars & clubs, and I think a woman hitting on all those points would turn me off because she would seem like she's trying too hard for me to trust...it might be like the flashing light on the baggage carrousel at the airport, you know? Depends what kind of guy you want I guess.

So to the above I'd add the impossible "do it while not seeming to care too much" ! Maybe part of that is not trying too hard to hold up a conversation that isn't going anywhere. It's 50-50, the boy should be saying or trying to say something interesting too, after all.

Ted

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Rapid made a good point we've forgot: what kind of social do you do. I never really go out to bars & clubs, and I think a woman hitting on all those points would turn me off because she would seem like she's trying too hard for me to trust...it might be like the flashing light on the baggage carrousel at the airport, you know? Depends what kind of guy you want I guess.

So to the above I'd add the impossible "do it while not seeming to care too much" ! Maybe part of that is not trying too hard to hold up a conversation that isn't going anywhere. It's 50-50, the boy should be saying or trying to say something interesting too, after all.

Ted

Here, here Ted, it does sound a tad One way does it not?

If his conversations are non. and all he is doing is conversing with me, trying to "find out all about me, " to anayse me? makes it pretty hard to judge don't you think?

I know i have, well he can't converse.. What is his judgement? based only on his questions?

What a waste of communication i feel.

CW

[msfoxy03]

well.....

i realized that my man loves me best when i a, actually naked, but when it comes to being clothed, he is turned on by seeing me in a uniform. have you tried wearing sexy costumes? or you two havent reached that point yet?

[bea009]

what turns guys on most has to be when girls have confidence! and also you may think they like it when you are easy, but thats not true--those are usually the girls they dont take seriously!

[bea009]

oh rapid thanks for the great advice too!!

[Franciz84]

Stay sweet and thoughtful; avoid being a nagger (we boys hate it!) =)

[Guest]

this is going to sound a bit funny, at least to me b/c advice is easier given than taken, let alone using your own. anyway..............

best thing is to be yourself. someone will like you for you. end of story.
someone will be attracted to a person no matter where you meet, what you wear, how you walk or talk. phsyical attraction is there or not. and that is the start. getting to know someone is a different level but can be done.
you can dress like a pig and someone will find that sexy. you can dress like a doll and someone will not like it.

as for me, i like the jeans and a nice shirt, little makeup and a great personality. i want someone who can talk about anything, ranging from politics to stuff. talk about the sky one day, a dumb rock in the puddle the next, and work the day after after that. i mean anything.
i do not like alot of makeup on a woman. if i wanted to date a clown i would be at the circus searching for my g/f. i want to go to bed with her and wake up next morning to the same person i fell asleep with. natural beauty is the best beauty. in this case, less is more!!!

i am sure plenty of you have seen on the weekend or late one night, someone walk in the store in thier pajamas. give me a girl with cotton pj's and tee-shirt anyday over the one wearing a gown and heels.

it all boils down to each are different. each has thier own thing that makes them attracted to others.

[crzyredhead21]

JWB will you marry me?! LOL!!!! So refreshingto hear that! I am a jeans/tanktop girl with onyl eye makeup and tell you what we are sooooo underrated!! Too bad all those guys that turned me down becuase I wasn't the perfect lil princess didn't know what a freak I can be in the sheets! Too bad for them anyways!!!!

[Guest]

crazy......... its there loss, just remember that.
only one that matters is yourself, how you see yourself, how happy you are with yourself, can you tolerate yourself etc etc etc......... it is yourself that matters and the rest of the world can go F'themselves if they do not like you or treat you like dogsheets.