[Texasred]

Lets take USA example, you can have sex, you can end in a relationship with a really hot woman even if you dont have cash, even if you re not fit, even if you re small etc,
:P

Not in any part of the U.S. *I've* ever been in! lol
Don't judge the U.S. by what you might see in movies or on TV

[Jack101]

Are you currently in Serbia or, are you in an English speaking area? Are you in the US?
That also matters because the cultural differences in dating and sexual relationships are going to be quite different and our advice may be irrelevant.

I m in Serbia

I m not sure how to put this but let me try :P
On Balkan, mostly in bigger cities(capitals), you can be the most handsome guy, you can have infinite charm BUT unless you have cash you really cant date an attractive woman. I understand this sounds like mainstream but it really isnt. Lets take USA example, you can have sex, you can end in a relationship with a really hot woman even if you dont have cash, even if you re not fit, even if you re small etc, in my country its not like that, sure it has excepctions(spell) but they are really rare.
Basically if you re rich in my country you can literally have any woman, but if you have normall wages every woman you approach will act so conservative.
I am preety sure we are shown to the west like criminals, terrorists etc and so you expect that sex is widely covered but really thats not the case, its still taboo here.
Another example, i m sure there is nothing wrong of having sex with an older woman if you re a young guy, people wont look you weird. Here its different case totally.


And again sorry for my english, i m still learning :P

[Popcorn&Candy]

I second atskitty2's post.

[atskitty2]

Are you currently in Serbia or, are you in an English speaking area? Are you in the US?
That also matters because the cultural differences in dating and sexual relationships are going to be quite different and our advice may be irrelevant.

[jns]

No problem, i m serbian :P
Basically you probobaly know what balkan men are, most of them are considered alpha(although like primitives). Due to my physicall looks people expect from me(especially the girls i attract) to act like that, to act like a primitive jerk and tbf i really cant pull that off

Societally and family wise, those are the role models the Balkan women have seen and so those are their expectations of men.

[Jack101]

Well, I think that early on, in any relationship, you should probably NOT be too "weak" on someone. Until the relationship has developed into something more relevant, constantly thinking about her, putting her needs ahead of yours, is probably not the healthiest approach. And even then, constantly thinking of someone, is not healthy. Putting a partner's needs above our own is a great characteristic to have, but self-care is still very important. There's a very important boundary there, with our own needs, and the needs of a partner. We cannot always be so giving, that our own needs aren't met. If a partner is not also a giver, it can become a very one-sided partnership, in which the person doing all the giving becomes exhausted and feels taken advantage of.

Most independent people do not like "neediness". If you are constantly thinking of and contacting someone, it can be perceived as needing a lot of attention. I'm not suggesting you are needy, as I don't know that, but it can be perceived as this when a person doesn't know you well.

Depending on your cultural background, these may be quite different. This is my opinion. If you are living in the US, or a Westernized culture, and intend to stay here, dating, this is an important quality to develop, without changing who you are. Just relax a bit, let things move along at a more natural pace. Dating is difficult, and even more so, when you're coming at it with a different background, and language barrier.

Now, if you don't mind, please explain what you've understood me to say. I want to be sure we don't miscommunicate and misunderstand each other again!

i understood everything, maybe i ve said it in a bad way... lets put it this way, if i was filthy rich, i am 100% sure any woman(well any woman i find attractive) can make me buy her everything she wants through sex :/

[Jack101]

What's your first language, and where are you from, if you don't mind sharing?

No problem, i m serbian :P
Basically you probobaly know what balkan men are, most of them are considered alpha(although like primitives). Due to my physicall looks people expect from me(especially the girls i attract) to act like that, to act like a primitive jerk and tbf i really cant pull that off

[atskitty2]

Well, I think that early on, in any relationship, you should probably NOT be too "weak" on someone. Until the relationship has developed into something more relevant, constantly thinking about her, putting her needs ahead of yours, is probably not the healthiest approach. And even then, constantly thinking of someone, is not healthy. Putting a partner's needs above our own is a great characteristic to have, but self-care is still very important. There's a very important boundary there, with our own needs, and the needs of a partner. We cannot always be so giving, that our own needs aren't met. If a partner is not also a giver, it can become a very one-sided partnership, in which the person doing all the giving becomes exhausted and feels taken advantage of.

Most independent people do not like "neediness". If you are constantly thinking of and contacting someone, it can be perceived as needing a lot of attention. I'm not suggesting you are needy, as I don't know that, but it can be perceived as this when a person doesn't know you well.

Depending on your cultural background, these may be quite different. This is my opinion. If you are living in the US, or a Westernized culture, and intend to stay here, dating, this is an important quality to develop, without changing who you are. Just relax a bit, let things move along at a more natural pace. Dating is difficult, and even more so, when you're coming at it with a different background, and language barrier.

Now, if you don't mind, please explain what you've understood me to say. I want to be sure we don't miscommunicate and misunderstand each other again!

[atskitty2]

What's your first language, and where are you from, if you don't mind sharing?

[Jack101]

I had wondered briefly if you weren't from here...

Maybe I should back up the discussion, ask you to explain what it means to "be weak" on a girl?

My explanation is next, being weak on a girl basically means you put her needs in front of your own, you constantly think about her and ask yourself how is she. Brief explanation but thats preety much it :P