[atskitty2]

I had wondered briefly if you weren't from here...

Maybe I should back up the discussion, ask you to explain what it means to "be weak" on a girl?

[Jack101]

You sound like a wonderful, kind, respectful and caring person: never change. The right woman will love this about you and won't see you as being weak or anything like that. Carry on being yourself and the right woman will fall head over heels for you.

But what if i dont want to be myself, i think thats the problem, i want to change myself from good to worse :/

[Jack101]

So, "being weak on them" can be a real turn-off early on. It doesn't make you weak, it indicates inexperience many times, or lack of self-awareness. And lack of confidence...some women may find that appealing, depending on what their objectives are in a relationship.

This, and sorry if i missunderstood, english is not my native language so its hard to understand everything :P

[Popcorn&Candy]

You sound like a wonderful, kind, respectful and caring person: never change. The right woman will love this about you and won't see you as being weak or anything like that. Carry on being yourself and the right woman will fall head over heels for you.

[atskitty2]

I'm not sure what you took from my words that your interpretation is that being kind and respectful is showing a lack of confidence. That isn't what I meant. I reread my post and not sure what reads that way. Can you specify so I can clear up the confusion?

I don't have time to comment further at this time, so I'll revisit this later.

[Jack101]

Oh, my dear Jack
It absolutely doesn't make you less "alpha" to give attention, respect and love to a woman you're interested in. All things in order tho'.
These things don't make us weak-men or women.

The thing is, to keep your "emotions" in check. To keep the little nuances subtle, and allow all those things to grow over time. Go about it as any other woman, whether she's older than you or not. Just relax, and try not to meet someone with an objective, other than getting to know her, seeing if you like her. If you have an agenda other than this, most women will see right through it. Many won't care, especially if their agenda aligns with yours, but nevertheless, smart, intuitive women will pick up on what you're after. If your body language or demeanor demonstrates that you aren't on the same level emotionally, mentally, physically, you're likely going to be tossed aside, sometimes with the lack of tact that you've experienced already.

I'm a 45 yr old woman, and I've dated younger men. I've dated older men. Age isn't indicative of a person's maturity or ability to manage themselves, in any given situation. I've dated older men that behave as children when faced with a discussion on any level other than what's for dinner. Yet, I've had some pretty interesting, deep discussions with intelligent and mature men in their late 20's/30's. Lack of confidence is recognizable really quickly.

I'm not suggesting you change yourself for the purpose of attracting an older girl, but be mindful, aware and ever conscious of the vibes you're putting out there. I can typically tell after just a few minutes if a man will have my interest beyond the initial 2 sentences, or sometimes from the hand-shake, regardless of age. What is your objective with pursuing older women? Is it purely sex, or are you interested in dating older women also? Be cautious that you're not buying into stereotypes in any of this also. There's an old saying about being the type of person you want to attract.

So, "being weak on them" can be a real turn-off early on. It doesn't make you weak, it indicates inexperience many times, or lack of self-awareness. And lack of confidence...some women may find that appealing, depending on what their objectives are in a relationship.

I've rambled in few different directions, but I think we can open up the discussion from here

Thats a preety long message :P

Well before my answer to your question on why i am attracted by older women i need to ask you something, by your words i am showing lack of confidence if i show respect and if i am love or caring towards them?

About the part why i like older women, i can tell you a lot reasons really. I ve been told by most girls my age that i m to open, i am filled with confidence(and they dont like that for some reason), i m somehow egoistic(i really cant see that but okay), and then when i m talking to older women, they literally have the opposite opinion and tbh sometimes i like having conversations with them because well they ve been through everything and understand everything.
There are also other reasons, i prefer sex with them, actually i love having sex with them.

[atskitty2]

Oh, my dear Jack
It absolutely doesn't make you less "alpha" to give attention, respect and love to a woman you're interested in. All things in order tho'.
These things don't make us weak-men or women.

The thing is, to keep your "emotions" in check. To keep the little nuances subtle, and allow all those things to grow over time. Go about it as any other woman, whether she's older than you or not. Just relax, and try not to meet someone with an objective, other than getting to know her, seeing if you like her. If you have an agenda other than this, most women will see right through it. Many won't care, especially if their agenda aligns with yours, but nevertheless, smart, intuitive women will pick up on what you're after. If your body language or demeanor demonstrates that you aren't on the same level emotionally, mentally, physically, you're likely going to be tossed aside, sometimes with the lack of tact that you've experienced already.

I'm a 45 yr old woman, and I've dated younger men. I've dated older men. Age isn't indicative of a person's maturity or ability to manage themselves, in any given situation. I've dated older men that behave as children when faced with a discussion on any level other than what's for dinner. Yet, I've had some pretty interesting, deep discussions with intelligent and mature men in their late 20's/30's. Lack of confidence is recognizable really quickly.

I'm not suggesting you change yourself for the purpose of attracting an older girl, but be mindful, aware and ever conscious of the vibes you're putting out there. I can typically tell after just a few minutes if a man will have my interest beyond the initial 2 sentences, or sometimes from the hand-shake, regardless of age. What is your objective with pursuing older women? Is it purely sex, or are you interested in dating older women also? Be cautious that you're not buying into stereotypes in any of this also. There's an old saying about being the type of person you want to attract.

So, "being weak on them" can be a real turn-off early on. It doesn't make you weak, it indicates inexperience many times, or lack of self-awareness. And lack of confidence...some women may find that appealing, depending on what their objectives are in a relationship.

I've rambled in few different directions, but I think we can open up the discussion from here

[Jack101]

Turns out you were right, in time i somehow did forgot about her and its been like a week or two. Although, i want your sincere opinion, i honestly think you need to give your full attention and love to woman, you need to respect her. Is that making me less "alpha" ?
Also, all women told me that me being weak on them is going to make my life a big mess, how to stop that?

[Popcorn&Candy]

She is an alpha female, from what I've read from your post. It does also seem like she can't make up her mind about what she wants from you. Until she's clear in her own mind and tells you, there is not much else you can do. I'd move on personally, and find someone more secure in themselves and who doesn't insult you. That's what I'd do, anyhow.

[atskitty2]

Glad to hear that Jack. Hope you will keep us in mind if you need some help navigating a situation in the future.