[Jack101]

everybody likes the validation

getting texts or likes on FB (if you're on FB) feeds people's egos
makes people feel like they matter

I know someone that would get upset if they liked someone's FB posts but didn't get likes back from them
texting/social media/cell phones can become addicting

could it have been anybody on the other end of the texts? or was it her in particular?

Her in particular, even when she sent me some regular videos of her laughing or saying my name, she seemed so pleasent(spell), i knew nothing major would happen, we would only have sex, but spending time with her would really be cool. I guess i was wrong afterall

[Jack101]

One thing, i m not sure this means anything but let me share with you

She did act like an alpha female, but she was acting waaaay full of herself. When we started chatting in the beggining, we were talking about how men approach her and well she sent over 100 chats of random guys with her, its not like i asked to see it, she just sent them straight away. And she is always talking about how can she have anybody she wishes for.

[Ashlee T.]

Being an alpha female is one thing, but it doesn't mean a woman is conceited or cocky or full of herself. The women you're referring to sounds pretty conceited or at least enjoys portraying that image.

Put two guys side by side: 1 is handsome but thinks he's ugly, feels like a woman is doing him a favor by even looking at him, shows his lack of confidence in desperation. The other guy is not very attractive physically, but acts like he is gods gift to women. Who will most women go for? Why?

In my experience, they will go for guy #2. Eventually, they'll wish they hadn't, but they were attracted to their perception of his confidence. You know the saying "If you don't believe in yourself, no one else will either!"

[atskitty2]

I think what you're describing is actually a woman lacking confidence and having low self esteem. She needs the contsant validation and self promotion because she's not really comfortable in her own skin. It often comes off as conceit and obnoxious self absorption, but it sounds like she's just really unhappy with herself.

People that are confident don't need to make sure others are aware of all the attention they get.

As for your behavior, I think BD is right...you were just enamored and let it get to you it happens.

[Jack101]

Thanks for help gals I do feel better

[atskitty2]

Glad to hear that Jack. Hope you will keep us in mind if you need some help navigating a situation in the future.

[Popcorn&Candy]

She is an alpha female, from what I've read from your post. It does also seem like she can't make up her mind about what she wants from you. Until she's clear in her own mind and tells you, there is not much else you can do. I'd move on personally, and find someone more secure in themselves and who doesn't insult you. That's what I'd do, anyhow.

[Jack101]

Turns out you were right, in time i somehow did forgot about her and its been like a week or two. Although, i want your sincere opinion, i honestly think you need to give your full attention and love to woman, you need to respect her. Is that making me less "alpha" ?
Also, all women told me that me being weak on them is going to make my life a big mess, how to stop that?

[atskitty2]

Oh, my dear Jack
It absolutely doesn't make you less "alpha" to give attention, respect and love to a woman you're interested in. All things in order tho'.
These things don't make us weak-men or women.

The thing is, to keep your "emotions" in check. To keep the little nuances subtle, and allow all those things to grow over time. Go about it as any other woman, whether she's older than you or not. Just relax, and try not to meet someone with an objective, other than getting to know her, seeing if you like her. If you have an agenda other than this, most women will see right through it. Many won't care, especially if their agenda aligns with yours, but nevertheless, smart, intuitive women will pick up on what you're after. If your body language or demeanor demonstrates that you aren't on the same level emotionally, mentally, physically, you're likely going to be tossed aside, sometimes with the lack of tact that you've experienced already.

I'm a 45 yr old woman, and I've dated younger men. I've dated older men. Age isn't indicative of a person's maturity or ability to manage themselves, in any given situation. I've dated older men that behave as children when faced with a discussion on any level other than what's for dinner. Yet, I've had some pretty interesting, deep discussions with intelligent and mature men in their late 20's/30's. Lack of confidence is recognizable really quickly.

I'm not suggesting you change yourself for the purpose of attracting an older girl, but be mindful, aware and ever conscious of the vibes you're putting out there. I can typically tell after just a few minutes if a man will have my interest beyond the initial 2 sentences, or sometimes from the hand-shake, regardless of age. What is your objective with pursuing older women? Is it purely sex, or are you interested in dating older women also? Be cautious that you're not buying into stereotypes in any of this also. There's an old saying about being the type of person you want to attract.

So, "being weak on them" can be a real turn-off early on. It doesn't make you weak, it indicates inexperience many times, or lack of self-awareness. And lack of confidence...some women may find that appealing, depending on what their objectives are in a relationship.

I've rambled in few different directions, but I think we can open up the discussion from here

[Jack101]

Oh, my dear Jack
It absolutely doesn't make you less "alpha" to give attention, respect and love to a woman you're interested in. All things in order tho'.
These things don't make us weak-men or women.

The thing is, to keep your "emotions" in check. To keep the little nuances subtle, and allow all those things to grow over time. Go about it as any other woman, whether she's older than you or not. Just relax, and try not to meet someone with an objective, other than getting to know her, seeing if you like her. If you have an agenda other than this, most women will see right through it. Many won't care, especially if their agenda aligns with yours, but nevertheless, smart, intuitive women will pick up on what you're after. If your body language or demeanor demonstrates that you aren't on the same level emotionally, mentally, physically, you're likely going to be tossed aside, sometimes with the lack of tact that you've experienced already.

I'm a 45 yr old woman, and I've dated younger men. I've dated older men. Age isn't indicative of a person's maturity or ability to manage themselves, in any given situation. I've dated older men that behave as children when faced with a discussion on any level other than what's for dinner. Yet, I've had some pretty interesting, deep discussions with intelligent and mature men in their late 20's/30's. Lack of confidence is recognizable really quickly.

I'm not suggesting you change yourself for the purpose of attracting an older girl, but be mindful, aware and ever conscious of the vibes you're putting out there. I can typically tell after just a few minutes if a man will have my interest beyond the initial 2 sentences, or sometimes from the hand-shake, regardless of age. What is your objective with pursuing older women? Is it purely sex, or are you interested in dating older women also? Be cautious that you're not buying into stereotypes in any of this also. There's an old saying about being the type of person you want to attract.

So, "being weak on them" can be a real turn-off early on. It doesn't make you weak, it indicates inexperience many times, or lack of self-awareness. And lack of confidence...some women may find that appealing, depending on what their objectives are in a relationship.

I've rambled in few different directions, but I think we can open up the discussion from here

Thats a preety long message :P

Well before my answer to your question on why i am attracted by older women i need to ask you something, by your words i am showing lack of confidence if i show respect and if i am love or caring towards them?

About the part why i like older women, i can tell you a lot reasons really. I ve been told by most girls my age that i m to open, i am filled with confidence(and they dont like that for some reason), i m somehow egoistic(i really cant see that but okay), and then when i m talking to older women, they literally have the opposite opinion and tbh sometimes i like having conversations with them because well they ve been through everything and understand everything.
There are also other reasons, i prefer sex with them, actually i love having sex with them.