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Having a son that is single and your height and maybe 15 pounds heavier, I know where you are...These women can say anything but it is the words that have been said that hurt...You must learn to walk with the confidence of being yourself...Forget about the hat...Never wear it unless it is sunny out or you would be wearing a hat for this occasion...If you meet someone that you like make sure it casually comes off quickly but not too evident......Forget about it...Keep your face the way that you want it...Don't grow a beard or mustache unless you want it...Don't do it for anyone else or to impress anyone...Only you honey, only you....

Keep your hair the way you want it to be..Make it please you.....Trim the back so it does not look like you are trying to be something that you are not..Go bald if you want to but not for someone else, only you.....Make it your style and your signature...Very soon the rest of the population will be joining you...That real woman that you meet who will fall in love with you will look at you for who you are and not for what is on the top of your head....And one more thing....Stay as sweet as you are.....You will make some lucky woman a wonderful husband....

My best to you....Caroline

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I was going to add this to my statement last night but being up to my ears with a husband on "happy pills" from hip surgery, I am grabbing a nap where I can....I do wish to add this:

When I said "stay as sweet as you are" I should have elaborated on it...Sounds kind of like an old lady not knowing what to say.....In actuality, I meant just that...I have found, through watching my son's balding so very early in life, that women can be harsh...They, themselves, are far from a beauty queen, yet they all strive for the perfect man....Doing this, they often miss both the cream of the crop and some of the best lovers around...These same men I speak about watch many of their friends marry, learn about life and many divorce....But it is just the way that we women are...Movie star image or what I don't know....I know...I was one of them years ago......I found my cream of the crop and held close....At that time all he could offer me was all his love....He has now given me the world...

These women are trying to help you but just be you.....Not anyone else that anyone tells you to be, but you.....In time that woman will find you that loves you for what and who you are...That's about the best advice I can give you....Take care, Caroline

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Thanks for the replies everyone. It helps. Losing hair is a demasculating process. We as men are supposed to suck it up but emotionally it takes its toll.
Media does play a role. But the negative change in appearance and the feeling of losing your sexuality are what hits home the most.
Time to up my regime in the gym and just accept who I am. Improve what I can.
Thanks again everyone.