[Davey]

I'm a guy, I'm in college. I am telling you, that fella is not trying to "wife" u as they say. He is trying to bone you, like I would, like 90% of college guys would. He's not gonna get in a relationship with a girl 3 seconds away. Of course he's attracting you, you're young and he's something different and new and exciting. Please just think long and hard before you do anything rash. Imagine how dumb you'd feel if you ditched your bf, hooked up with him, and he wanted nothing more from ya. But what do I know. Just use ur heart not your head. If your in psych 101 you might study the seven states or flavors of love theory. It might give some insight.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

no1, yeah i do realise that them living next door doesnt neccesarily mean that they wont make bets, but i am generally quite good at judging peoples characters. they are all genuinely nice guys and have a good understanding of the situation i am in and i really dont think that they would take advantage of that.

also, i dont think the matter is quite as black and white as you are making it out to be, basically saying if u love him, stay with him, if u dont love him break up with him, as that would seem fairly obvious. if the choice was that easy, then i dont think that i would have felt the need 2 ask for help on here...i think before i had been in the situation myself then i would have said the exact same thing as you, but i think it is hard to understand if it hasnt happened to you personally.

Suzanne, the making bets thing you have mentioned twice, so you are concerned, follow your intuition... so you cried that is the , the, the, sign for a man he can win... you may be a good judge, but trust me, "pray on the week".. I believe my "opinion" they WILL very much take advantage of that.

The only way out of this is disassociate yourself from both of them, totally.

Both will try to win you ... ONE will give up after "not very long" and I am guessing it's the neighbour... ahh she is still in love, useless can't get her in bed.

I can understand "personally" been there done that way older than you, have a think..

You are in denial as you WANT, the new excitement to happen be way careful and think about what I said, No 1 said and other's have said.

Let's face it what do you have to lose? By not sleeping with this guy? for what let's say 6 weeks, 6 short weeks...... will he be there? why not USE your judgement and find out?

CW

[Guest]

+1 to what Davey said.

[suzanne214]

we have had the opportunity to sleep together...and he has been the one stopping it, if that makes anyones opinion any different...i realise that it probably makes me look sligtly worse...

[Guest]

no, it doesn't, at least not mine.

and no hun, it doesnt make you look worse. Just human like the rest of us

[suzanne214]

ok...so i broke up with my bf last night...it was so bad i dont know if i have done the right thing....i just keep thinking about all of the good times with him now...and all of the things that we arnt gona b able 2 do anymore...guess thats normal tho...?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

well it is,but if you still are thinking lots, then you broke up because you believe that the "grass is greener"..

Be careful.

CW

[suzanne214]

im so scared that i have made the wrong decision...its been difficult...because all of my house mates are quite close, like all of the girls in my house know the guys next door so well, and they dont really know my bf at all, so they have all kind of been pushing me towards the other guy i guess, which has had some influence on my decision...i saw my ex today just quickly for lunch and i just wanted to make everything ok...he was trying to be cheerful and not make me feel bad or anything...but i just kept noticing little things that he does that i used to love, but that i havnt really notciced for a while. maybe its just because we have broken up now, or maybe it is a case of me just wanting what i cant have...what if i have made the wrong decision?! if i were to go back out with my ex now, and just leave the other guy in the house then i have no idea what the others in the house would think of me...but the problem is that whenever i am with this other guy now all i feel it guilt about my ex...i dont even know what i want anymore.

[Livelaughlove]

im so scared that i have made the wrong decision...its been difficult...because all of my house mates are quite close, like all of the girls in my house know the guys next door so well, and they dont really know my bf at all, so they have all kind of been pushing me towards the other guy i guess, which has had some influence on my decision...

The women your with really don't care about you or your love life. THAT IS THE TRUTH.

There pushing you onto the new guy because they have nothing better to do and there is nothing else exciting happening in there life so they decide to muddle through yours. For them the drama of you being torn between your bf and this new man is what there craving.

I honestly i saw my ex today just quickly for lunch and i just wanted to make everything ok...he was trying to be cheerful and not make me feel bad or anything...but i just kept noticing little things that he does that i used to love, but that i havnt really notciced for a while. maybe its just because we have broken up now, or maybe it is a case of me just wanting what i cant have...

Unfortunatly its human nature to take for granted what we already have.

what if i have made the wrong decision?! if i were to go back out with my ex now, and just leave the other guy in the house then i have no idea what the others in the house would think of me...

This young mentality is what bothers me the most about young women. THINK FOR YOURSELF. And only please you.

Why should you give a ____ What the other women think of your decision?

Live laugh and love

[suzanne214]

its not the other women, they are all really supportive...its the guys, like i dont want there to be friction between the two houses because of me and i dont want to look like i have just been messing this other guy around coz i do really like him...and of course i care what they think of me, i have to live with them for the rest of this year! obviously they are not the reason why i make any decision, but it is a factor. and its not that the girls are pushing me towards the other guy exactly, just when i ask them what they think, they all say that it seems that i get on better with the other guy than i do with my ex, and they always talk about how well we get on.