he probably thinks that you are not playing fair because you are hitting him with the truth..no doubt the next time you here from him it will be the usual "i love you"..when he does, text "who is this and what are you doing with jared's blackberry"
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It might be that you intimidate him. It might be that you're too smart for him. It might be that he's too immature for a committed relationship. It might be that he's simply not interested in a real relationship at the moment. It shouldn't really matter.
But it matters to you because you want to hear from him that YOU are not at fault for his behavior. That it isn't that you are not good enough. That it isn't that you aren't worthy. That HE is at fault for him only wanting sex. This why it bothers you so much.
The problem here is that he is insecure. Your chances of getting a self incriminating confession out of him are slim to none. But he knows that if he claims to love you then he has a chance to stay in touch with you, to meet up with you again, and ultimately to have sex with you again.
Just erase his contact information on your Crackberry and forget about him. Whenever you think of him in the future, remember how a guy that lives on the other side of the country in New York and isn't having sex with you is far more committed to you than the one that lives fifteen minutes away.Comment
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He doesn't have a Blackberry. It's some kind of touch screen."who is this and what are you doing with jared's blackberry"
I wish. At least then it'd be something that I would consider the truth.
Are you expecting him to text 'I'm incapable of having a relationship but the p*ssy sure is good'?
True... The thing is, I know it's not me. Well, I mostly know that it's not me. I just know that there is no way in hel* he was like this in his past relationships because (and I will say it) no self respecting woman would put up with it unless they were just in it for the sex as well.
But it matters to you because you want to hear from him that YOU are not at fault for his behavior. That it isn't that you are not good enough. That it isn't that you aren't worthy. That HE is at fault for him only wanting sex. This why it bothers you so much.
That's true... I just wonder if he really thinks that I believe his "I love you's." I've called him on it before. I've told him that I don't want his robotic I love you's. His response, "Fine. I'll never say it again." I wrote back, "Fine." His response, "Oh, so that's okay with you?" I feel like that's his game. He wants me to want him yet he does nothing to make me want him. Nothing good anyways but obviously there is something if I keep hanging onto this.
But he knows that if he claims to love you then he has a chance to stay in touch with you, to meet up with you again, and ultimately to have sex with you again.
ERASED! (I can't believe I just did that. I don't have it memorized) Oh that's pathetic. Well, it's done. I kind of feel a relief with a slight bit of anxiety. You're totally right though. Marty is way more committed than Jared ever was and probably would be. I almost feel happy right now.
Just erase his contact information on your Crackberry and forget about him. Whenever you think of him in the future, remember how a guy that lives on the other side of the country in New York and isn't having sex with you is far more committed to you than the one that lives fifteen minutes away.
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i'm assuming that if and when he contacts you next that you will then have access to him again..i'm ashamed to say i have no idea how texting worksERASED! (I can't believe I just did that. I don't have it memorized) Oh that's pathetic. Well, it's done. I kind of feel a relief with a slight bit of anxiety. You're totally right though. Marty is way more committed than Jared ever was and probably would be. I almost feel happy right now.
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Do you think?no self respecting woman would put up with it unless they were just in it for the sex as well.
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maybe program your phone so that when he rings - it says "user who wants me for a booty call", or just "user/loser" the list is endless.Comment
Yes, when he texts me I will have his number again. You're ruining my moment, lol.
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