[CHANDLERS WISH]

Actually Linds, it's the other way around.

Why?

Think about it.

Whilst in this state of mind, your mind is constantly on "needing" and so, there is no room for any growth.

Yet, if he wasn't in the picture and sure you will go through withdrawls, sadness, lonliness, not much diff though than it is now in consideration of the time you spend with him , but if you went through all of this, all of a sudden you'd think what a jerk and all of a sudden you'd say no more, and all of a sudden you'd start finding yourself.

All your doing is feeding an addiction.

CW

[ThexMrs]

Well I guess I like my addiction.

Thread Closed.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Honey, pftttttttt... love you.

Thread is not closed.

Do what you feel you "NEED" regardless at this point and time, you "need" Jarrad because Marty isn't here, you "NEED" Marty because you have a bond.

What ever you need if it's "mutual" then enjoy and take just don't question it or beat yourself up over it. Just go with the flow for now.

[ThexMrs]

Thanks Sissy... I love you too.

What you said is very true. I need Jared because Marty isn't here. I need Marty because we have a special bond and yes, I am in love with him.

As for the using... I use Jared, Jared uses me. I feel like everyone uses everyone though. We all need someone. We all want someone. (Or the vast majority at least) So in that aspect, I really do believe that whether you're in love or not, you're still using each other. Love makes you feel good. You want to feel good. You get that love from someone. Using. *shrugs*

That's just my take on things. I never actually used to believe that but now I do. A friend told me that a long time ago and I told him that he was crazy. That idea really made me mad but it's true. I see that now.

But look... Jared isn't getting off easy. I've demanded things and haven't received them so he hasn't been allowed to come around. I haven't asked him. I won't ask him to. If he wants something from me, even sex, he'll have to work for it. I put my foot down and I feel like I'm doing a good job.

[caterpillar79]

Yes, you are doing better this time...and enough is enough when you say it is. xx

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Thanks Sissy... I love you too.

What you said is very true. I need Jared because Marty isn't here. I need Marty because we have a special bond and yes, I am in love with him.

As for the using... I use Jared, Jared uses me. I feel like everyone uses everyone though. We all need someone. We all want someone. (Or the vast majority at least) So in that aspect, I really do believe that whether you're in love or not, you're still using each other. Love makes you feel good. You want to feel good. You get that love from someone. Using. *shrugs*

That's just my take on things. I never actually used to believe that but now I do. A friend told me that a long time ago and I told him that he was crazy. That idea really made me mad but it's true. I see that now.

But look... Jared isn't getting off easy. I've demanded things and haven't received them so he hasn't been allowed to come around. I haven't asked him. I won't ask him to. If he wants something from me, even sex, he'll have to work for it. I put my foot down and I feel like I'm doing a good job.

I feel like everyone uses everyone though. We all need someone.

I don't know love... I don't think that true and once upon a time you didn't either. See, for sure people use each other, but would you think Marty is using you or you him? No, you and him have a bond, there is no use to "use", unless he proves to be a Man whom is "using your affections/attentions" to help him through lonliness.. But you are not using him so therefore, it would only be one person using in that scenario.

We all need someone. We all want someone.

There is no question about that... It's emotions. Countless dates that have gone no where because they only want to "feel loved/wanted" but not looking deeply at what they want, or even knowing what they want, just wanting to release that "lonliness" through company/sex, I've seen it all.. Yet, they don't realise it's "settling" and a waste of energy, a further pain, heartache... Perhaps you also do this with Jarred/lonliness/company/sex.

But look... Jared isn't getting off easy. I've demanded things and haven't received them so he hasn't been allowed to come around. I haven't asked him. I won't ask him to. If he wants something from me, even sex, he'll have to work for it. I put my foot down and I feel like I'm doing a good job.

Proud of you.. But, as you admitted, you are using him, he is using you so in that rule, it applies. That is where people "use" for self satisfaction, needs, desires but not love.

There no one uses.

CW

[happy ending]

xmrs do you really think everyone uses everyone, wow, so young, so beautiful and so very cynical!!!