[Ashlee T.]

First, why does it bother you (not saying it should or shouldn't...just asking) ???

Is it the fact that he's doing it that truly bothers you, or the fact that he's doing it without your knowledge and then you're finding evidence of it, so you feel like it's a sneaky secretive sort of thing?

[heatherswar]

I feel like I'm not good enough in some ways and I don't really understand why he needs to look at it, at home or at work. Why does someone need to look at naked pictures at work. It just doesn't make sense and I feel as though I'm nor attractive enough if He feels the need to look at that kind of stuff. He has said before that he doesn't have a good enough memory to image what We have done before and that he doesn't Have a good enough imagination to think of me in a way to help when he needs to "release" when I'm not there. He is a writer, has a published book and is writing a second one. He has a great imagination. So I guess I Just don't understand why he does it.

[hizenberg]

you are quiet normal, i think womens health should have a section dedicated to all the women that feel upset by their man watching porn and looking at naked pictures.men dont get it,they say they just looking and we're supposed to take it like its normal.
but we don't have to take it,society says 'oh they're just being men' and blah blah blah.society hasd made it so women have to just 'cop it'and 'not whinge about it'.If you ask me we are sensitive to this as we are more develpoed creatures in the brain lol No realy though i do totalley understand what your saying and where your coming from and i believe men have got to stop this or give us a resonable excuse as to why they need to do this,The more i think about it there is no reasonable excuse to look at other women. What are they missing out on? I deep down personalley believe men CANNOT be completly faithful full stop,yeah sure not touch... but look,(as in naked women) nope, its a no no in my eyes .

[Texinator]

Here is an idea... why don't you surprise him with some pictures of yourself? You could have some fun with the camera on your own or even have a close friend help you if you feel comfortable with the idea. Another option would be to involve your fiance and have him take the pictures and the photo shoots. Y'all could have fun trying out certain outfits and poses and even... acts. Then he can still look at pictures if he needs his imagination to be inspired, but they'll be pictures of the woman he loves. Win win.

[stressed]

He's a writer. You can ask him to write a short story about you two having sex. Any writer can do that. If he can't...I don't know, it would seem fishy to me.

[Hopeless Dork]

Here is an idea... why don't you surprise him with some pictures of yourself? You could have some fun with the camera on your own or even have a close friend help you if you feel comfortable with the idea. Another option would be to involve your fiance and have him take the pictures and the photo shoots. Y'all could have fun trying out certain outfits and poses and even... acts. Then he can still look at pictures if he needs his imagination to be inspired, but they'll be pictures of the woman he loves. Win win.

I completely do not reccommend this if you are considering doing it to replace his porn... if you want to do it because you want to do something sexy for him... then do it... but going in it with a 'he won't need porn anymore when he gets his hands on this hotstuff' mentallity is setting someone up for an EGO-crushing experience. I've taken so many naughty pictures for my boyfriend , so many, and frequently over time not just 'here is a couple that'll do'... at all. I've made him videos and pics from teasy mild to excplicit and that has never been a deterant.

Good thing I just did it because I wanted to and because it turned me on to do it... because if I did it thinking it would be adequate porno for him, every time I ran into a different naked lady picture or something occasionally I would feel absolutely not good enough. I mean I feel somewhat not good enough when that happens... but at least I never felt in my heart that all i needed were pics of me to do the job... it is very obviously not just a body they need but a different body... or at least it sure as heck feels that way.

The 2nd to the last time I saw that he'd been entertaining himself with porn of other chicks... it shut something off in me when it comes to giving him pics/vids of me... and I haven't made them for him since. And it sucks for me because I actually enjoy doing it... it turns me on to take those pics and lil movies but I don't feel like he appreciates them anymore if he ever did at all.

Got to admit it tempts me to want to have some other guy to send them to ... some other guy that would be as excited as me about them... some guy that would could think... here is this chick doing this for ME... and feel as special about it as I had hoped it would make my boyfriend feel... but doesn't and is replacable by some half naked pic of some random female.

I haven't acted on that temptation and don't think that I will, but it really is hard sometimes to offer something so special up to someone and feel like it'll never be enough for him.

[caterpillar79]

Okay. He has stopped watching porn but I found images he has looked at on his phone. It bothers me but at the same time it doesn't.

If you are marrying this man, speak up now. Tell him exactly how you feel, and what you like and do not like. Set your boundaries and stick to it. If you don't feel right about anything, say so and see what he does. Don't ever put up with anything you didn't bargain for. If you can handle this in a lifetime, then you can tolerate and probably band-aid your heart and mind. But I don't advise it. I'd say, always put your heart first so he'll learn to cherish you and put your feelings into consideration in every decision he does.

[ItsASecret]

I completely do not reccommend this if you are considering doing it to replace his porn... if you want to do it because you want to do something sexy for him... then do it... but going in it with a 'he won't need porn anymore when he gets his hands on this hotstuff' mentallity is setting someone up for an EGO-crushing experience. I've taken so many naughty pictures for my boyfriend , so many, and frequently over time not just 'here is a couple that'll do'... at all. I've made him videos and pics from teasy mild to excplicit and that has never been a deterant.

I second this. I have done that as well, at his request with the pictures he has told me he would like to see. But nope the porn still pops up as frequently as it did before.

[stressed]

+1 who has taken photos/videos for her SO without result. I also did that because I liked it and because I liked the thought of him finding them sexually interesting. Initially, his first comment was "you have beautiful... eyes". Then months later he told me he went through them again and he liked them a lot. I wonder if he was embarrassed about them.

Don't do it hoping it will replace porn, it won't. You can do it for yourself only but realistically speaking, he will look at them once or twice but won't masturbate to them. He'll just appreciate your beauty for a few seconds and then put them aside. It won't be because you're not attractive or because he won't find you attractive. I'm not sure how many men out there masturbate to photos/clips of their own SO (when they live together), but I don't believe they are many. It might even be about "I can't to do something that dirty to the one I'm in love with, I have her on a pedestal" sort of thing. I don't know.

But I feel like HD, I just wish I could send them to a guy who would appreciate them. Not that I'd do that, but it is very tempting.

[angel wings]

i personally dont have a problem with my bf watching porn but i do have a problem with him having photos of other females which were way before me, sent to him on his computer and phone.....to me they should be deleted............because i know for a fact if it was me that had pictures of guys naked bodies and or just there penis's he would get so ****ed of with me and want them deleted and would probably take it into his own hands to do so...so there are definately two sets of standards and i just really dont think thats fair at all........