[Texinator]

Huh... well, speaking as a guy, I think 'home made porn' - in the form of a woman taking sexy and naughty pictures of herself for the sake of sending them to a man - is infinitely better than any porn you can find online. I mean, there is a woman that's willing to 'share' herself with you like that... why would you want to continue looking at regular, boring porn if you can have that?! So that's where my recommendation came from. I didn't think someone would still rather look at the photoshoped stuff if they had a real woman sending them pictures.

[heatherswar]

So as far as porn and pictures of naked girls (just off the internet not personal ones sent to him) it doesn't mean that I am not good enough, bored or trying to fill a sexual type void? That is what goes through my head but it looks like possibly the majority of ladies think that ad long as he still tells me he loves me, compliments me (both physically and sexually) and if it doesn't interfere with our sex life, then I should have nothing to worry about. I'm going to try and keep that mind set because I don't want to fight or argue with him over the matter. Things I suppose could be a lot worse!!!! Thanks for the comments and advice everyone!! Now I can go into our wedding this Friday with a clear frame if mind!!!

[heatherswar]

Tex-i brought up him taking pictures of me or me trying to take pictures of myself and he said that I am too good for that and that he would feel like He would be violating me and the innocent image he has if me by looking at pictures of me like that. That us why he looks at that stuff because he has no emotional attraction or involvement with the first in porn and that its the sex not the girl that he pays attention to and gets worked up by.

[Hopeless Dork]

Huh... well, speaking as a guy, I think 'home made porn' - in the form of a woman taking sexy and naughty pictures of herself for the sake of sending them to a man - is infinitely better than any porn you can find online. I mean, there is a woman that's willing to 'share' herself with you like that... why would you want to continue looking at regular, boring porn if you can have that?! So that's where my recommendation came from. I didn't think someone would still rather look at the photoshoped stuff if they had a real woman sending them pictures.

You'd think, huh

When I first saw my boyfriend had been visiting nudie sites, I thought hmmm so thats what he likes!! And started sending him my own photos and vids and while he would tell me awesome things about them, after each weekend when I'd log on to his computer -- mine were not in his recent history, other chicks were. I wouldn't wish for any girl to go through the kind of blow that comes with the realization that naughty pics of them will not stifle their desire for naughty pics of other women.

That its fine to do it if you want to do it, but to go in thinking all he needs is naughty pics and thinking yours will fill that void is greatly naive and setting yourself up for kick to the gut.

I just try my level best not to think about it -- because when I do I am so bleeping resentful of him that I never want to talk to him again lol... I can, fortunately put it in its box and ignore it until I see he's been looking again then all those feelings crash on me like the very first time I realized that he was one of those guys that isn't happy with the offerings of his girlfriend, well happy, yes.. but satisfied enough to not want to fantasize about what other woman would look like or do, no.

My self esteem hangs on a thread when it comes to him sometimes. I am not tooting my own horn (but toot toot) but I get hit on frequently, I get guys that walk by me and say "wow" OUTLOUD when they turn their head to look at me. I don't feel like he is stuck with some homely beast... but sometimes with the rate he needs to see other women I think HE must feel like he has some homely beast.

[heatherswar]

So Yeah I don't know I'm going to try and just clear porn and naked internet pictures from my head and try not to think about it. It does upset me but I would rather have him and his faults then risk not having him at all.

[Texinator]

the realization that naughty pics of them will not stifle their desire for naughty pics of other women.

I guess I look at porn as a very poor substitute for the real thing. Even the real thing in the form of pictures. So that's where I'm not getting that.

I mean...

Photoshopped pics of some anonymous model: Zzzzzz.... snore
Real woman sharing real pictures with you: AWESOME! AWESOME! AWESOME!

AWESOME! AWESOME! AWESOME! > Zzzzzz.... snore

[Goodgirl93]

I guess I look at porn as a very poor substitute for the real thing. Even the real thing in the form of pictures. So that's where I'm not getting that.

I mean...

Photoshopped pics of some anonymous model: Zzzzzz.... snore
Real woman sharing real pictures with you: AWESOME! AWESOME! AWESOME!

AWESOME! AWESOME! AWESOME! > Zzzzzz.... snore

Then you start licking the monitor. *lick lick* hehe

[Hopeless Dork]

its the sex not the girl that he pays attention to and gets worked up by.

See that would not bother me in the least, if it was porn with just people having sex it wouldn't hurt my feelings... its when its just PICTURES of girls nude or even just half nude (the less nude the more insulting it feels actually). When I see porn sites with sex I don't get the kick to the gut I do when its just pictures of girls just standing there... what could they possibly be fantasizing about except that particular girl when her standing there is all that is going on.

[Texinator]

I am too good for that and that he would feel like He would be violating me and the innocent image he has if me by looking at pictures of me like that

What about your 'innocent image' when y'all have sex? Does he demand that the lights are off so that he can't see you? Probably not...

You're obviously allowed to have a sexual side and to express that side, just like everyone else, and I'm not sure why it would be a problem for him if you wanted to share that side of you also through pictures. Unless he doesn't want to acknowledge you as a sexual being...

[Texinator]

Then you start licking the monitor. *lick lick* hehe

I probably would!