[CHANDLERS WISH]

haha, I agree Tex.

Jealousy and racism, arguing, putting you down, your Mother down, doesn't sound like someone who will stand by you huh hun....

Usually also with jealousy comes temper and I'd hate to see anything happen in that regard...

Have you discussed any of this with your Mum, seeing as she seems to be an open minded person?

CW

[Goodgirl93]

I guess he was afraid that a few inches of plastic might do a better job at pleasing Gigi than he could.

HAHA,It could be possible

[Texinator]

He wouldn't be the first but it's sad anyway. A toy is just an accessory, not a replacement for the real thing. He should've looked at it as both a challenge and an opportunity to please you. But he chickened out.

[Goodgirl93]

haha, I agree Tex.

Jealousy and racism, arguing, putting you down, your Mother down, doesn't sound like someone who will stand by you huh hun....

Usually also with jealousy comes temper and I'd hate to see anything happen in that regard...

Have you discussed any of this with your Mum, seeing as she seems to be an open minded person?

CW

Well i mean i know my mom would be happy to help...but my mom is definately a mom,and if i tell her everything,she will not want him near me,and a part of me still wants him around.

He wouldn't be the first but it's sad anyway. A toy is just an accessory, not a replacement for the real thing. He should've looked at it as both a challenge and an opportunity to please you. But he chickened out.

But thats the thing,He wouldnt do anytihing sexual,and he was kidna of stubborn,so i never really tried making a move cause i didnt wanna kill the night.reading all this and realizing what i type,he sounds like a complete jerk with no heart.Tonight went well,and he was all smiles,and things were like they used to be,but i know it will change once i say something wrong.Most of his bitterness started when he found out his step mother is dying of cancer,and i try to help and he says no,so i backed off and gave him space,and it worked for a day or two,then he got depressed and needed me.

[Texinator]

I can see where he would be suffering from what is happening to his step mother. Cancer is a terrible thing. And it's very sweet of you that you want to be there for him and help him. Still, just because he is suffering doesn't make it alright for him to also make you suffer.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

AH MAN, i hate it when things twist and turn and more things are added:}

Ok, Gigi

He is a jerk, that being in-secure, young and needs to grow up for the best part..

Don't settle for someone your age just because that is the way it's suposed to be at 16, it doesn't matter if you don't have a steady partner and your friends do ok...

It's normal to "feel sorry" for someone as well and I suspect you do, regarding his step mum...

And, I suspect, his clinginess of dissing your "male" friends comes from not wanting to lose someone else..

HOWEVER Blaming you over silly little things, is controlling.... it's your fault...remember you didn't lie, (going back to the beginning here), you didn't tell and there was a reason, jealousy...

I think someone a tad more mature would be better for you....

Stubborn
Won't do anything sexual
Puts Mum down over the way she is bringing me up
Puts plastic fantastic down ewee it's not me, it's plastic
Your on egg shells of what you can say and can't say
You have to cover as not to get into trouble
You are playing mum, he needs you "sometimes"
You can't talk to your male friends


Since when did GIGI think she couldn't have someone in her life that allowed her to just purely and simply be herself?


If you want to give him ago, still keep your legs crossed And, tell him, "quit it, grow up a little, my parents used to tell me what to do, I am a grown person now and can make my own decisions, you either trust me, let me be myself, or find someone else... "

[Goodgirl93]

I think someone a tad more mature would be better for you....

Stubborn
Won't do anything sexual
Puts Mum down over the way she is bringing me up
Puts plastic fantastic down ewee it's not me, it's plastic
Your on egg shells of what you can say and can't say
You have to cover as not to get into trouble
You are playing mum, he needs you "sometimes"
You can't talk to your male friends


Since when did GIGI think she couldn't have someone in her life that allowed her to just purely and simply be herself?


If you want to give him ago, still keep your legs crossed And, tell him, "quit it, grow up a little, my parents used to tell me what to do, I am a grown person now and can make my own decisions, you either trust me, let me be myself, or find someone else... "

I am still the same miss Gigi,just a little whooped.Or atleast i was.And uhhemm! I turned 17 in July mum! He is not my ideal guy,cause he has alot of issues with relationships and then turns it around on me.Yet,i still really like him and even tho we werent being intimate or sexual,it never really bothered me.But now that we are broke up,he is acting more protective.He jumped on another guy again today on myspace for calling me cute.idk why he does that but it irritates me.

I can see where he would be suffering from what is happening to his step mother. Cancer is a terrible thing. And it's very sweet of you that you want to be there for him and help him. Still, just because he is suffering doesn't make it alright for him to also make you suffer.

I kinda figured maybe this is how he is coping,and maybe him being stubborn is a way to hide his emotions.But the only time i seen him cry was when we broke up.He cried then,and he is back to his subborn self.Not tonight tho.We never fought once today and it was nice.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

And uhhemm! I turned 17 in July mum!

OOPS Sorry there daughter....

I wonder if what you like even though it irritates you Is, the fact that someone deems you theirs, is jealous, which in turn makes you feel loved?

I remember when I was 16, I mean 17 Can get quite confusing where the word love is involved....

[Texinator]

Considering her love for babies, maybe Gigi has strong motherly instincts and feels she needs to 'nurture and protect' him during his difficult time. But I'd worry when there is a romantic relationship and one party looks to the other as a 'parent' of sorts.

[tesoro]

Most of his bitterness started when he found out his step mother is dying of cancer,and i try to help and he says no,so i backed off and gave him space,and it worked for a day or two,then he got depressed and needed me.

Oh dear, Gigi. You remind me of someone I used to know very well. Since when are his needs more important than yours? You can't put other people's needs in front of your own even if they get depressed and need you. What does Gigi feel? What does Gigi need? Don't let him confuse you just because you are a naturally loving and caring person...he is treating you BADLY...no excuses for that! Do yourself a favour and give him LOTS of space. Go out with your girlfriends and just have fun. You are too young to get serious with a boy. You don't even know yourself yet - trust me, I met my ex at your age. Now I realize that I should have dated many more guys before settling down with one so early in life. "We teach people how to treat us."