[tinkerbell930]

Just know that most married men don't leave their wives. It is so much easier for them to keep things the way they are.
It is very rare that a man will leave their wife for the girlfriend. If the wife does find out about you, she will still stay...at least for a while, until it is her turn to cheat on him. Then you will already be a long way down the road when that happens.
Take care.

[Little]

Withoutyou,
We'd love it if you responded or let us know how you were faring. We don't mean to be jumping down your throat, it's just that this sort of topic, like we said, is constantly going in these forums and we have all been reading Kaylar's advice (well, maybe not everybody, but it seems everyone responding has been )
In the end, it is your life and your decision; we want you to make the one that will hurt least in the LONG RUN. So, please let us know how you are. We wonder

[epps_chanel]

Girl please

Nothing good will come to you for doing this act of sleeping with a married man you should be a sham for yourself and carma is a motha so after that bull is all said and done you will most likely find someone else that might seem so wonderful and they would do it to you. Life is to short for you to be suck on ****** so move on and leave him the hell alone.

[ThePhotographer]

Married man..

You are naive. Married man tell this to every woman they date. Get out while you can and leave that poor woman with that not cool guy.

[soldatka]

Honey, this is the oldest line in the book "I'll leave her..."

At the moment he's got it good - two women on the go, one with probably no idea what's going on, the other patiently waiting.

Whatever else he's got going for him, you know two things for sure: he is a liar, and he is a cheat.

You deserve better. Walk away with your head high and don't waste your life waiting for this man, very few do leave their wives in the end.

[vamp2110]

u cant help it

u cant help it that u have fallen for a guy that has a wife no one can help who they fall for . , the thing it to draw the line , he has to make a choose u of his wife , either way someone will lose someone they love , either u or he , i'm not agreeing that its right what yall two are doing , the thing is how long and why are u still his gf if he so called going to leave his wife , i dont think he will i think he is using u because he's lacking it at home . the thing is if this has been going on for a while then he's not leaving her ,he's just trying to make u stay around as long as he can make u ,and beside once a cheat always a cheat. and ur not helping , think about how his wife feels . and think about what if u was his wife and he was doing this to u and u didn't know.

[kat70]

Don't you think more of yourself than to take some other woman's hand-me-down-husband? This isn't about the endless list of things that are obviously wrong about him. You need to take look at yourself and see what is making you treat yourself so bad. Aren't you worth better than second place?

[Itsme]

Even If

I've been there. Even if he decides to leave his wife for you, he'll cheat on you too.

We got married and a year into the relationship he had an affair.Take my advise, it's nice while it's going on but it's not worth the trouble.

[kaylar]

When I first began to write about this topic
in 1989 I did a piece on 'the Other Woman'
and dozens of letters came into the Newspaper
and were published...(most unproofread tho'
***** was taken out)...and certain things
became evident.

I'll give you an example.

Jasmine would give Andy fellatio until he came in her
mouth and she would swallow it.

Andy's wife wouldn't put his penis near her face as
Andy was not the cleanest person you ever wished
to meet.

Andy told Jasmine his wife was mentally imbalanced,
(isn't that standard?) and he would leave her shortly.
And of course, Jasmine believed every word.

Andy never left his wife. He enjoyed telling
his mates how Jasmine swallowed his cum and the
chaps were there asking, "Can I get a washoff too?"

It took time for Jasmine to appreciate why the men
made those slurping sounds when she walked into
the bar to meet her beloved Andy.

Finally, after months and months of waiting for
Andy to divorce his wife, (who of course was a busy
professional woman, not mentally imbalanced and
not all that enamoured of Andy) Jasmine realises
what has been going on.

Andy, the big player, finds someone else
so tells Jasmine he's going back to his wife,
whom he's never left.

Jasmine catches him at the bar with another one,
a fight breaks out, everyone claims Jasmine caused
it, she's arrested, she's charged with all sorts of
offenses.

Andy's new girl, Simone, claims during the fight
Jasmine stole her bling valued at how many
thousands of dollars.

I am retained to 'defend' Jasmine, and need the
story, and get it.

(I am explaining why I wound up knowing so much
about these topics)

There's a consciousness raising group for women like
Jasmine and I sit in and listen to their various stories.

It is basically, condensed to the lowest common denominator,
that the 'mistress' has a very low self image. She sees
herself as 'inadequate'.

She compares herself to the 'wife' and it virtually
becomes 'life and death' for her to 'get' the husband.

If she doesn't get the husband, she proves she is
inadequate. If she does get the husband she proves
she is 'better' than the wife.

It is a psychodrama.

The husband who gets these females running behind
him will demand every form of sex he wouldn't ask
or think of asking from his wife. And of course, he
will tell all his mates, in detail.

A man can't embarrass himself and his wife by
mentioning anything that happens in the bedroom,
but can sit back and regale the entire bar of what
he does with his 'gal', as Andy did with Jasmine.

After publication in the newspaper, (and the
excitement this caused) a number of
men went out, bought wedding bands and packaged
themselves as 'married' so as to reap the 'benefits'
of the gals.

'Danny' wrote his story which was published.
He had gotten a friend of his to play his 'wife' on a
particular occassion, then attended the venue without
her. It was as if every female in the place was in heat.

Each one fought to please him and he had never
had so much sex of such varied kinds in his life.

He had females who rented rooms out of their
own pocket, females who would meet him at
odd times in strange places and perform acts
only seen on XXX movies, all because they
thought Danny was married.

It is a fantastic dynamic, and has particular
patterns.

Firstly, rule of thumb; men NEVER leave their
wives for their gals.
The wife might leave the husband, and because
the Wife left him, he might wind up with the gal.
But he will never be faithful to the gal simply
because
a) he is a cheater
b) he has no respect for the gal

Gals who are told that Husband divorced wife
for her are usually mistaken. The divorce is
often wife dumping husband and taking everything.

So the gal who is running down Mr. Moneybags
might find she 'wins' and he moves into the
crummy apartment with her, because Wife got
house, wife got Benz and Husband got nothing.

(And you know gal is going to dump Mr. Moneybags)

Secondly, Divorces are easy to get.
Tell Mr. Husband to check you when he has his
Divorce. 999 times out of a thousand, he won't.
He'll find another female willing to 'wait'.

Put it very simply; if he gets the milk for free
why buy the cow?
And secondly, if this gal will know he is married,
will swallow his cum, is she the kind he wishes
to call 'wife?' in front of his important friends?
Bear his children? Trust with his money?

or is she the type to take on a business trip
to keep his bed warm, and stay out of his
life otherwise?

[SAMMUI]

Stop falling!!!

I've fallen in love with a married man. He is the most wonderful and adoring guy I've ever met. He says he is going to leave his wife for me. Its so scary, but I know that all I want is to come out of it all with him still by my side. Is there anyone else out there? I feel so alone in it all.

Please wake up, lady. Of course you think he is the most wonderful guy in the world. As long as he is having fun with you, he will give you what ever you want except leaving his wife. The adventureous and exciting feeling of stealing is the most fun part.