[zette0880]

dating a married man

you're not alone. honestly im like you. but ive fallen completely in love with a married man. 3 years now we are together. but i decided to go home to my family. but i know it wont be easy. i dont want him to leave his family and we are still friends. though its like im dying now leaving him, i hoping ill get thru this. just an advice... he will be the perfect man for you but he's not yours and that's what im learning to accept. i know its hard and bec you love him but you have to accept reality.

[kaylar]

LOVE WHO?


You don't know this guy. You know what he tells you.
You know his stories, you don't know him.

A guy can be the worst man in the world, but
he can play Mr. Wonderful for X hours while
he's got his gal dangling.

I'll never get tired of repeating the story of the gal
who had everything backwards. From who owned
what, to who made more money, to who was the
nut job....

Married me LIE.
They are married, they know they are married
they have wives, so what is he doing with you?
The various Monica he can't do with Hillary?
Is he rehearsing his outing in the Down Low with You?
Hmmm?

He's wonderful because you're not his wife.
He's playing a role.

Married men can't leave their wives.
They actually Love them.

[Dragonfly]

There are plenty of single guys in the world. Get with one of them. Do you want to be a home wrecker? Where are your morals? Does this man have kids? This whole situation is wrong!

[camila]

does anyone now?

i'm 25 and since i first started dating (i think i was 14) i've been involved with married man, i don't know why is it that almost all (if not all) of the men i've dated were married i don't think i've ever been the girlfriend, always the side woman of either married or in a relattionship men, after my last relationship, i promised i was never going to do it again but here i am again, dating a man that is married and has kids, i don't understand why is it that i am attracted to married man, i don't wanna get hurt again and i know i have to leave this guy (i'm going to) but anyway i need to know why is it that i've only fall in love with married man, i need to get to the bottom of this behavior because i'm afraid i might end up alone .

[Little]

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/2129-i-am-always-other-woman.html

That was my very first post here, with the same question you had. Read what Kaylar told me; she was so right.
Change your opinions about yourself; it's the only way.

[C]

https://www.womens-health.com/boards...her-woman.html
That was my very first post here, with the same question you had. Read what Kaylar told me; she was so right.
Change your opinions about yourself; it's the only way.

I just read both your and Kayler's posts. I found them very interesting but I took a different stance on what was said. I would consider the woman who is going after the married man or man who has a girlfriend as not confident in herself. She is reassuring herself by doing this, that she has sexual powers as a woman and can turn heads and is one hot woman. She is playing a game where she cannot be hurt. They already belong to someone else so she can't lose them and never be hurt. Either way she is a winner in her own mind.

Now if she goes for a man who has no strings attached and gets him then another woman could take him from her and she would be hurt. This way there can be no hurt for she knows he belongs to another woman.. She would fear all the things that she has done in life to another woman would be done to her and this keeps her from taking this plunge.

Funny how two different people go two different ways in the thought process.....

[camila]

I broke up with my married man!

yesterday * first he tought i was not being serious, even i wasn't sure what was gonna happen the next day, but we had a fight the night before (while he was drunk) and i didn't like the way he treated me i'm leaving him because of that combined with the fact that he is married but, i think the main reason i'm leaving him, is because the way he treated me, i still don't know how things are gonna turn out but i'm trying to take it as easy as possible, i don't want another married man i want a man only for me but when i think about it, it seems imposible, and this is weird but as soon as i think of getting involved with a single guy, i get thoughts of the way my "BREAST LOOK"(i find it unatracctive & i've thoughts of me tearing off the skin of my areola) this for some reason doesn't happen with a married man in the picture
i have no energy to keep going!, and for several years at list once a week i have suicidal thoughts, i think the reason i haven't done it it's because i haven't find a painless way to do it (this was after and before this guy), but at times i am the most positive person of the world

[C]

Honey: Why do you need a man. Be happy with life. Stop searching and just live every day for the beauty it holds. Stop punishing yourself with finding all the things you aren't and look at all the wonderful things that you are. NO MAN is worth that but you are.

Society messes with the minds of us women as we grow up. Sometimes our Mother's on impress us on having to find a man. You know all women have to marry. I use to get that bit. I used to look for just about any Tom, Di*k or Harry when I was young to marry. Thankfully, I was young at that time and had a chance to grow but what is it about a man that has to make you whole. A woman friend can be the dearest thing and most truthful plus loyal. Sure there is some man out there for you someday but wait and stop looking. Just smell the roses of life and honey stop rushing age.

Your body is beautiful. Where you see a flaw the man that you love will not. We all have flaws. Even after all these years my husband still finds me beautiful which is a joke in itself. But sweetie he sees past me and sees something inside of me that he loves just as someone will find this in you.

Don't ever think of taking your own life....You are so young and so giving now get away from this man. He is bad for you and you know this.. I wish I could find the words that could put confidence in you....Honey, find peace......Go to a church or get some help.....If I was there I would talk to you but this is as good as I can do.....Life is not easy but you are more special than you are giving yourself credit for....Peace and love to you...Caroline

[Little]

Camila,
Kudos to you for getting out of that. You will pull through.
Strong people have suicidal thoughts. You should get someone to talk to; someone to lean on. More than one person, so that when those thoughts get really strong, and one of those people isn't awake to answer the phone, another one will be.
The best thing I could tell you to do about your body image problems is to catch yourself in the mirror. When I feel my very worst, I think about times that I've accidentally caught myself looking at my reflection and thinking that I was really pretty. Most guys don't care about how your areolas look. You don't have to get reinvolved with someone right away.
Do what makes you comfortable!

[Happy1]

Its VERY VERY hard for most people to understand where you are coming from. I care deeply for a married man. We met about two years ago and were both having marriage problems when we met. We have never done anything physical so I know he isnt in it for sexual gradification. I have left my husband because having feelings for another man made me realize how my marriage was not what I wanted. I still talk with this man, he is still having problems in his marriage and plans to leave. I try not to imagine my life with him when he leaves but it is hard not to want a life with him. I do understand where you are coming from and I am sorry because I know how hard it is. I try to give myself a timeline. I decided that if in x amount of time I am not where I want to be with who I want to be with, I WILL move on. Its the most realistic thing to do in this situation and still consider your feelings. No matter what, you have to be ok with who you are and what you have done.