If I'm honest I think 70LBs and 4.6" is very small - especially to me - but that's not to say I think there is anything wrong with you, you could simply argue I'm big. Many oriental and asian women are very petite like you, I certainly don't think you're abnormal.
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I'm 6.2" about 220-230LBs at the moment. I had a girlfriend who was about 5 foot and weighed about 110LBS or so (she was a UK size 6) and we had no problems. I used to think it was funny (in a nice way) she was so small because it was a novelty for me, but as I said there were no problems.
If I'm honest I think 70LBs and 4.6" is very small - especially to me - but that's not to say I think there is anything wrong with you, you could simply argue I'm big. Many oriental and asian women are very petite like you, I certainly don't think you're abnormal.No matter how objective we try to be, we all see through our own eyes... -
Lisa, now I think I understand. Unlike my wife, it sounds like being ill never allowed you to go through at least some of puberty. With such light weight, it sounds like maybe your hips never widened into an adult physique. Therefore your body shape is much more like a girl's than an adult in her 20's. For people to take you serious as an adult, try dressing older and using makeup to make your features reflect the age your dressing. Maybe loose clothing would help. If people pick up those cues, they won't be as likely to consider you as a child.
Search for a bf that isn't uncomfortable with your body size and shape. Also make sure he does not have a fetish on you looking very young. You want him to take you seriously as an equal partner and not a plaything.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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Thanks.Lisa, now I think I understand. Unlike my wife, it sounds like being ill never allowed you to go through at least some of puberty. With such light weight, it sounds like maybe your hips never widened into an adult physique. Therefore your body shape is much more like a girl's than an adult in her 20's. For people to take you serious as an adult, try dressing older and using makeup to make your features reflect the age your dressing. Maybe loose clothing would help. If people pick up those cues, they won't be as likely to consider you as a child.
Search for a bf that isn't uncomfortable with your body size and shape. Also make sure he does not have a fetish on you looking very young. You want him to take you seriously as an equal partner and not a plaything.
yea, what you said is about right. my physical maturing stopped at 11, but mentally and emotionally I am perfectly normal. even if I was normal size, I probably wouldn't have been very tall. My mom is 5'2" and my sister is 4'11", but they both are fully developed. As you pointed out, my overall body shape\size remain as it was when I was 11. When I was 12, I started seeing specialists, but they couldn't figure it out, other than something happened in my brain that more-or-less stopped me from maturing. 1-2 of the doctors told my mom that if I didn't develop more, I shouldn't have sex when I got older because they felt I was not developed enough. When I found out, I rebelled and that summer I started having sex with a guy way too old for me just to prove them wrong, which is a very bad reason to start having sex. I was still in middle school, mostly angry, and sex made me feel like I was mature\normal\accepted. What I mostly feel guilty about is that my younger sister got involved with older guys she met through me, and at the time I encouraged her to be sexual with them, and she did. She says she doesn't have any regrets because she was never forced to do anything she didn't want to do, and she said no when she didn't want to do certain things, but I can't help feel guilty that I encouraged her and told her everything in detail I was doing with by boyfriend.
Now I feel like an adult ready to meet a nice guy who is ready for a relationship, it just has been hard for me for the past couple of years. Dated a few guys, but nothing serious developed. It seems like the guys I find attractive, don't see me the same way, even if we hit off well on personal level, they seem to attracted to a fully mature woman. I am more like a 'cute' novelty of some kind, and guys tease me with jokes like "hey, how about I adopt you as my little sister!". I do have shoes that make a look a little taller, bras that make my breasts look a little bigger, and mostly wear clothes to make me look older, but even then I look like petite 13-14 year old. Things I can't change is my pre-teen voice and the fact when I laugh or giggle, it just triggers the perception I am 10 year younger. And I like to have fun just like everyone else, but being "playful" when around guys tends to make them react like I am their little sister, rather than some one they might want to take on a date.Comment
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If you really want to be with someone, maybe you should try broadening your horizons. I don't know what you mean when you say you're attracted to "normal" guys, but maybe you should open yourself up to men who have something unusual about themselves. I thought about this thread when I read an article about a man that had been abused as a teenager so stopped growing. Maybe a man like that would be able to relate more. I know that part of the attraction between my wife and I is the similarity of our experiences in life and the views we've developed because of them.
I was also thinking that a man from a different part of the world where the people are smaller might be a possibility. In our culture there is a backlash and a stigma against men who are attracted to teenagers. I know you're not underage, but a lot of "normal" men from this part of the world who might like to be with you would be concerned over what it might infer in other people's minds. You have a right to want who you want and you may get it if you're patient, but a lot of people remain single for life because they've set the bar too high."Those sowing seed with tears
Will reap with a joyful shout." - Psalm 126Comment
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Hi...What I mean by normal guys is that even though I am very petite, I am attracted to guys my age of normal size with similar background and valves, just like all my friends. If anything, I'm attracted to guys who are over 6ft, but in general I like guys of all heights.If you really want to be with someone, maybe you should try broadening your horizons. I don't know what you mean when you say you're attracted to "normal" guys, but maybe you should open yourself up to men who have something unusual about themselves. I thought about this thread when I read an article about a man that had been abused as a teenager so stopped growing. Maybe a man like that would be able to relate more. I know that part of the attraction between my wife and I is the similarity of our experiences in life and the views we've developed because of them.
I was also thinking that a man from a different part of the world where the people are smaller might be a possibility. In our culture there is a backlash and a stigma against men who are attracted to teenagers. I know you're not underage, but a lot of "normal" men from this part of the world who might like to be with you would be concerned over what it might infer in other people's minds. You have a right to want who you want and you may get it if you're patient, but a lot of people remain single for life because they've set the bar too high.
You're right about some guys getting self-conscious about being too friendly or flirting. I'm kinda a natural flirt, and love being around guys. Guys think I'm "cute" because to many of them its like I'm a very bold 11-12 year old who's not afraid to flirt with older guys. They are friendly, but keep themselves in check by staying at arms length. I get a sense many of them do find me attractive, but feel conflicted and uncertain on how to act when I am interested in them. Most guys I find "HOT" tend to like fully developed girls that are sexually active. I love having sex with the right guy, but it takes me about 1 hour to get fully aroused, and its difficult for me to have orgasms because my body has not reached full maturity. I know guys like it when they can make a girl have orgasms, which I want too, but its unpredictable if its going to happen when I am having sex. If I am not fully aroused, entry is not possible because my vagina is smaller than normal. Once in bed, asking a guy to wait over a hour can be an eternity to him especially if he has become accustom to being with girls who can have sex without fully aroused.
Thanks for your comments!
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