[lizzardb63]

You can't help someone who doesn't want the help! So, I guess I don't understand his reason for even being on here. He doesn't think he has any problems and everyone else is wrong and he is always right, so what's the point here?

[BabyGirl]

The OP is a Prime Example of why Mental Hospitals are a Necessity to protect Society.

On the other hand, should the OP act out his Delusions, a Prison, might just be the place for him. That way he can be Raped at whim, by someone who believes they are Smarter and more Deserving of Sex than the OP is .

I can just imagine the OP, going up to " Bubba " and Saying " My Balls hurt, I haven't had Sex in ages "...
I am sure he would be taken care of quickly, without any Lies or Coyness, or conversation for that matter.

For us women that have been raped, especially as Children. For our members that know someone who has been raped. It is wise to pay close attention to the OP's rantings.

The Saying " If you see something.. Say Something" is something to follow with Diligence.
Our Government (USA) may be " spying " on our Internet Activity and Emails and Postings. And it may Offend or Irritate us at times.

But in this case.. I am very Glad that ISP's can be tracked back to the Computer that is being used. We can catch Potential Terrorists nowadays, before they " Blow us Up ".

Rapists are Terrorists.. Need more be said ?

[rcoreyus]

I don't know why you think this country is all about people using others and stealing. Sure there is some of that, but most people spend their weekdays working. Some like their jobs, some don't. Most of those jobs are ordinary things - repairing cars, piloting airliners, building houses, writing software, cleaning teeth. Things that are useful to other people. Some of these jobs pay better than others - and that is an interesting topic, but the ones I listed pay well enough for people to have reasonable lives. Some people have jobs as managers - also a completely necessary thing, and a much more difficult job than most people realize.

Things that many people do as hobbies :music, art, photography, dance, sports etc. are much more difficult to turn into a career. This is not because society doesn't value them, but simply because so many people are willing to do them for free that there isn't much reason for anyone to pay for them. A few truly exceptional and lucky people can make money in these careers, but not most.

The way to succeed in society is to develop a skill that other people want, and that people are not giving away for free. Most of the people posting here have some skill of this type. In my case its a technical skill acquired by 10 years of schooling after high school (paid for by loans and part-time work). Now that I have that skill I can find employment that pays reasonably well for a job that I mostly enjoy.

[Stillness]

He doesn't think he has any problems and everyone else is wrong and he is always right, so what's the point here?

Hope. Some people are just jerks, in which case I agree with you. The original poster here is special. He's frustrated and angry because he's deeply troubled and things haven't gone well for him. As long as he keeps coming back there's hope.

[Olympia]

You write of greed, I agree there is far too much of this! And it IS self serving! You state you show caring, love and understanding. In turn you receive vile treatment. Yet, you continue to seek and are willing to offer; caring, love and understanding......
Many here have offered thoughts, ideas, and asked questions to further provide a possible understanding and help to your question. "I cannot understand how terrible women are" I have read and re-read your thread, the tone has changed a bit. (yours and members writing) It started out very difficult to read, and therefore misunderstood, perhaps...? It provoked a response.
First, as a woman I would like to say... we are not ALL alike! Then, as a human being, I am sorry so many have treated you poorly. (Male or Female) Like many, I have had men and women take advantage of my kindness, friendship and feelings. Betrayal cuts deep, mistrust forms. Yes! Don't let that dominate you and your feelings/interactions with others! I am not the sharpest pencil in the box, but, don't let confusion, rage, mistrust, and anger take control. One can loose sight, spirit and passion.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

That you think that that's why I think I'm above average, means you're a total moron. But what's also really funny is that every idiot who uses the internet, thinks they're amazing because they can write on a blog no one reads. Even though very few people can write and fewer should be read. If its still a problem, its still worth mentioning. Its not "the way it is". Its bad. And the rich need to pay.

Let's be respectful on this Forum please.. No name calling.

You continue to use the word "rich".

You should have had this, that 10 years ago but you were too generous.

Firstly, the purpose of life is to give, firstly to yourself (love) and then to others, expecting nothing back in return.

If you gave and got nothing, sounds more to me that you spent your life giving to women and didn't end up with one in the end, you feel that you are owed what you gave, financially because you are now not in a position to own a lot. Is this really a fault? As, in their fault? How much do you give? You give a little to help someone, you give because you want to.. You chose to do so. You can't blame anyone now. It was a choice.

You also make me feel as if, "if" you were rich you would get any woman. This makes me feel that women are looked upon as if they are all gold diggers.

I do think you have a deep rooted problem with women. That you do in-deed hate women and so, the question is, if so, why are you on this Forum to start with?

To take a rise from us women?
To justify how you feel and tell all the women that will listen, via a Forum?


The bottom line is. You gave because you wanted to and if you gave to try to "win" then you weren't trying to form a relationship, you were trying to buy one.

There is a huge difference there.

It sounds to me as if, you are angry at your own actions and are taking it out on the women you played that card with, as well as any other woman that lives.

Do you see there is a huge problem there?

And this :-

As for raping women, again, if they're going to tease and lie like that, maybe that should happen. And really my point was more, as after, that men end up abusing women for this. There's plenty of abused women out there, and its probably because the men have gotten screwed over by women.

No. It's because those men, and only those men think they have the right to do what ever they want. That women are the lower form of human kind.. And it is these types of men, that end up murderers, rapists or in jail for physical abuse.

You think women haven't been screwed over by men? You think they want to be abused? Should be?

I think this thread is almost on
close............remember, this is the Internet... What you put out there is seen by who ever wants to see it...


It's nice to have "hope" for someone.

It's another different thing when you can clearly see the non respect for man kind full stop.

This I personally can clearly see.

Unless you want to discuss your problems and find thoughts to solve them, I don't think that we are getting anywhere and I also think, that your attitude is a huge problem.

[BabyGirl]

I myself may have said a few things in Hurt and Anger, that may not seem very Sensitive. But just as you, I said the things out of Experience and Heartfelt Feelings and Emotions.

I was 9 years old I was Raped, Molested and Sodomized until I was 13 years old. Did I lie, did I flirt, Did I Tease the Adult Man until he Raped me ? NO !!!!

I forgot to mention I am Female.
Did I Hate all Men ? No !!

Was I wary and un~trusting of Men.. YES, just like You and for quite a few years.
I refused to have Male Teachers the first 2 years in High School. Any Male Teacher.
Why ? Because a Male Raped me.
If I got an "A" in a Class. later on,after I "adjusted " to a male teacher, but never alone with him, I was suspect that the Man Wanted to Rape me .

Did I eventually Understand that all Men were not like my Stepfather that Raped me for 5 straight years ?
Yes !!
But it did take time, it took Great Self Strength and Trust to let a Man/ Boy even Smile at me, without my running away or Touch my hand, Hug or hold me. It took some Understanding and Counseling to be able to even Date.

When I knew my 1st Husband was " Interested in me ", it took US almost 2 years to get to the Sexual Part of our relationship. He was patient and loving and un demanding.. Because I said I was not Ready, Because I was afraid, because I had a hard time Trusting that he would NOT Rape or Force me, because his Balls Ached.

Did we Kiss and Fondle or " Make Out " , yes, though almost a year into our Relationship. Did I lie to Him ? Never !! He knew straight up and Firsthand that SEX was not in the Equation, when we met.

Why did he spend the time with me knowing he would not have Sex with me ?
He was Attractive, Smart, "Going Places " with his Choice of Career. He bought me gifts and helped me out. I bought him gifts and helped him out.

He could have Chosen another " girl ", but he didn't. He had Other Girls before me. But Chose me.
How did that Happen ??
It happened because we were FRIENDS First,We were not out or After " I take you to Prom,You give me Sex".
It was Respect, Caring,Learning to Love,add More Respect and Choices we made. TOGETHER !!!

I have a Son by this Man,Our Son is now 38 Years old,Our Daughter was Killed when she was 15 Months old . We Divorced in 1976. And had Remained " Friends and Family " until his Death 5 years ago.

I am Widowed Now, ( not his Widow ) my other Husband. (after him) now Deceased and have 2 other Children.

What I hope you learn from this Fall Prince.
Is that Not all People of either Sex, Generation, Origin or Religion ( or those that have no Affiliation ) are exactly the same. Not all will react or share your Beliefs, Experiences . Not all People are Negative and or " Evil ".

But You and Only You can Chose to try and Change your EXPERIENCES.
You and Only You can take yourself out of that Pain,those Memories.
Blaming others and " Justly so " in some cases,is OK,but only for the Time it takes YOU to realize that if 100 People hurt you.You must remove yourself from those that are "Like Kind ".

After my 5 years of Rape and Molestation.
I was a 100% believer,that all Male Jehovah's Witness's were Rapists.As my Step Father was of that Religion.
I have found that they are not all like Him and I have found that Jewish and Catholic's, Mormon's, Muslim's and Buddhists Also Are not exactly the Same. That All Muslims do not believe that Killing Others ( Christians . Jewish are Infidels ) is the thing to do.
Any more than any believing that all Germans are Hitler Lovers or all Blacks are Slaves and all Mexican people are Illegal. You are in the " WRONG Country " if you believe that All are Without Morals or Choices.

But when you experience something. Over and Over and Over Again. You can only Blame it on your Own CHOICES. To Do it Again and Again and Again.

If Women are your Peril and Disappointment in Life..And you truly believe it is all Women s Faults and all Women are " as you see them Now ".

Have you Tried Men Yet ?

Seriously for the SEX you need ?
Some men are Loving and Caring and Available in all the ways you are wanting a " Relationship> Except they are NOT the Female you seem to Hate .
Some Men ( Trans or Bi or Gay ) would love a " Person Like You ". I say that gently,as there are DOMs and S&M that enjoy being Raped .. As part of their " Gender Preference ".

Now if you deem to use Profanity to explain why I am not Correct in My Own Belief or Comments I believe the Star/ Asterisks Filter is Confusing to You . The " F S.B." word is usually not Typed out here. Use words like " Friggen " so we have less editing and remember 13 year old Young Girls and Boys do see this .

It is a Woman's ( Mainly ) Health Forum and We welcome Men and have many members .

A Special Note to the Admins.
GREAT JOB, Not sure "Bannable " but a definite Upgrade on the " Best of WH ".

[Obelisk]

" If some guy comes up to you and says "are you engaged?" "I haven't had sex for a year, my balls ache" "would you go out with me" and you mess around with him for hours and don't take him seriously when he's pouring his heart out for you, then you deserve to be raped. "

So you actually go up to women and the first thing out of your mouth is "I haven't had sex over a year and my balls ache?"

lol wow

And you consider yourself the smartest guy you know?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I'm thinking the rape comment is out of line on this Forum and doesn't warrant a reply anymore from the OP.

It's obvious that is the way he truly thinks about women which is very sad.

Consequently, to avoid anyone getting upset for nothing, that being a comment that is just not worth discussing.

I'm closing this thread.

CW