[Rebecca_93]

So you mean I should go to their home so his wife will find out??? I'm not sure I could do something like that. I am starting to feel like I have no other option though.

[Rebecca_93]

Won't that make him more mad at me?

[atskitty2]

Or he could be relieved that you showed up, and did what has been so difficult for him to do. To finally have the wife see for herself and maybe then she'd get out of the way, as I'm sure he's been begging her to do.

Which would you like to believe?

[jns]

Rebecca, you seem to be looking at this situation from only your side of the story. If you consider it from his side and from his wife's side, you may start to realize what is the situation.

[amy40]

He's really a good Christian with a good heart. She is very focussed on her career instead of being a good housewife. I feel bad for his son

hi rebecca

then he is taking his son to church and bringing him to your parents house, also?
because if he is Christian and his wife isn't, the son would be at church with him every week

how old is the son?

in three years time, why haven't you told your parents that the man you're "engaged" to has a wife?

she is focused on her career, so where is this child? who is taking care of the boy when he's not in school?
this is all so confusing to me

[amy40]

He is still ignoring my texts and doesn't answer the phone. I don't know whether he has told her yet about me being pregnant. What should i do?

this is also so confusing that you think he hasn't called off the "engagement"

he thinks you are pregnant but is no longer in contact with you.........a person that he has spent 3 yrs with

rebecca, rebecca.........surely you must be getting his message? actions speak louder than words
he is ignoring a "pregnant fiancé"

[Texasred]

So you mean I should go to their home so his wife will find out??? I'm not sure I could do something like that..

Sure you can.
Knowing that what you're doing is wrong has never stopped you before.

[Rebecca_93]

I'm not sure how old his son is. I've never met him. I've seen pictures though. Maybe ten? But I'm not sure why that would even matter??

He can't go to church very often because his wife won't let him!! She is very much against that, so he has to go to our church, which is in another town to where he lives so she won't find out. It's like the old days when Christians were persecuted by the Romans!! He can't even take his own son to church!

Usually when we meet it is when he pays me a surprise visit after work on his way home. It is so hard for him to find time for me.

I feel it really is us against the world. We fought so hard for our relationship, but now I messed up forever...

I always thought after all we've been through that nothing would stop us.

[Rebecca_93]

Sure you can.
Knowing that what you're doing is wrong has never stopped you before.

Matthew 7:1-2
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you."

[amy40]

I'm not sure how old his son is. I've never met him. But I'm not sure why that would even matter??
he has to go to our church

it matters exponentially because you have the belief that you are engaged but haven't even met his son
if his son is going to your church, how is it that you haven't met him?

why not tell your parents he's married