[blonde3737]

Hi Caroline. You must be an older wiser woman because I can't figure out what you are trying to tell me. You mentioned a woman that liked your husband and then you talk about how she tried getting with him and how you got so mad and it was hard to move forward but he did use that sexual experience with you and it made your love-making better....so it sounds like he cheated? or were you just mad that there was a woman who was extremely fond of your husband.

This confused me----Just to think that another woman would sexually want my man shocked me...Yet I should have known like you should have know...You broke up...He had no strings attached but my husband did..------- your saying that my boyfriend and I were not together, but broken up which is right but.....your saying your husband did have strings attached??

Im trying to just let it go. I keep trying to remember what she looked like because I met her once when I went to visit him his old job that he used to work with her. I get mad when I think about how she told his buddy when my bf was on his way to visit me at school that the woman wanted to let him know she loved him and that she should switch jobs and go where he is working. Thank god she didnt... UGHHH!!!!!..

[C]

Hi Caroline. You must be an older wiser woman because I can't figure out what you are trying to tell me. You mentioned a woman that liked your husband and then you talk about how she tried getting with him and how you got so mad and it was hard to move forward but he did use that sexual experience with you and it made your love-making better....so it sounds like he cheated? or were you just mad that there was a woman who was extremely fond of your husband.

This confused me----Just to think that another woman would sexually want my man shocked me...Yet I should have known like you should have know...You broke up...He had no strings attached but my husband did..------- your saying that my boyfriend and I were not together, but broken up which is right but.....your saying your husband did have strings attached??

Im trying to just let it go. I keep trying to remember what she looked like because I met her once when I went to visit him his old job that he used to work with her. I get mad when I think about how she told his buddy when my bf was on his way to visit me at school that the woman wanted to let him know she loved him and that she should switch jobs and go where he is working. Thank god she didnt... UGHHH!!!!!..

Yes, I am older and now add wiser and as sexual as any woman on this Forum....But let's leave that part of it alone...

You can get mad about your boyfriend until you are blue in the face but what difference is it going to make with the exception of ruining your relationship....Let it go..

No, my husband did not cheat but a woman was waiting for him at a motel in town...This I have written up on some of my blogs at my site...I trust my husand and know my husband.....I know he did not go there and refused her but I am able to get as mad as you have about this woman....She wanted him...She went to every way to get him...She traveled here and then left the company after he refused her but in my mind, as in yours, I struggled with the thought of this woman making love to my husand and how could I handle it...It just about tore me apart....Honey, you will never know how I hurt just never being sure but I had to let it pass as you have to let it pass.......

I am going to add some of these writings to my blog site on this Forum...Some have been talked about before but I will change them...If you look at my name on the left side of this post and below it find blogs, hit on it as they will be here....But honey, give me until tomorrow. I have guests that have flown in and I am entertaining for the day. This may be two blogs as I will have to see but I really was as troubled as you are about this...Took me a long time and to tell you the truth, it still lingers...But I adore him and it is the past.....Why should I let it wreck my life.....

May I add in closing that the biggest misconception that anyone on the Forum can make is that because of my age that this has any bearing on my knowledge and sexuality.....And for you my dear, the biggest mistake of my life would have been to keep hounding him about this woman after I had asked him to tell me of his close encounters during our marriage... So I have to go and cannot get on until later and I have to do a blog on my site as that is my first love but I will do what I have said but give me until tomorrow night to have these corrected and put on here...You will then be able to understand all that I have said....

Take care, Caroline

[blonde3737]

I appreciate it. I will check those out and enjoy entertaining. So you are saying that you have to trust that your husband never met up with the woman even though she did everything in her power to meet up with him. And you also saying that the difference is ....you were married and i shouldnt let any of this bother me because we at the time were not together.... etc etc....still learning how to use this website . It is so nice to get opinions from other women on different issues whether it be sex or nutrition...


----Yes, I am older and now add wiser and as sexual as any woman on this Forum....But let's leave that part of it alone.----- what do you want to leave alone??? Im confused on this part

take care

[C]

Hi Blonde3737...I did get back on quickly but just wanted to say that this is just too confusing so I will pass....Just trust him or not...Don't make both of you miserable....TC, C

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Caroline, is a very highly sexual woman... Is what she is saying.. Leave it alone, means she aint going into that here at this time, read her blogs....

You know, even if you located this woman, saw what she looked like, told her she can't have your man, your back together.

Then your thread could read, " I can't get her face out of my head", did she listen to me to stay away? I'm watching out for her all the time now to be sure.

So, the best thing you can do is what you know.,..... let it go, move on, he stayed and got back with you, is with you, loves you and that's all that matters.

Keep smiling..


CW

[blonde3737]

Caroline, you are confused...about how to do the blog you wanted to do??? You said trust him or not? what did you mean

[blonde3737]

You are so right chandlers wish. You said he stayed and got back with me.....stayed you are refering to as...he wanted to make it work?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You are so right chandlers wish. You said he stayed and got back with me.....stayed you are refering to as...he wanted to make it work?

Well, he is "still" with you, so i imagine the answer to that is a big fat YES...

[blonde3737]

some more

So the other day my boyfriend and I were driving a long and we were talking about age with women. We were discussing what age we think is old. Anyways, he was saying that 40+ is old then he would change his mind and say 50+ is old then go back and forth to decide answers. I asked him how old that woman was that he had sex with when we werent together and he got all agitated because I brought her up. he said he thinks she was 39 which obviously a year later now she is 40. We started arguing because her name was brought up and I got mad because he wouldnt say her name " HE says I dont want to talk about that" I said whats a matter with bringing up her name??? Was it on my part to get into it AGAIN?"

Another issue:
We have been together about 5 1/2 years minus the 3 months we werent together. ANyways, I have been talking with him about taking the next step and moving in together and he said we will see/ Now, his best friend asked him to get and split an apartment with him and have his best friends older mother live downstairs. I was angry but maybe I shouldnt be. He lives with his mother right now so do you think maybe living by himself with his best friend is better than him living with me....??

[Fallen1]

So the other day my boyfriend and I were driving a long and we were talking about age with women. We were discussing what age we think is old. Anyways, he was saying that 40+ is old then he would change his mind and say 50+ is old then go back and forth to decide answers. I asked him how old that woman was that he had sex with when we werent together and he got all agitated because I brought her up. he said he thinks she was 39 which obviously a year later now she is 40. We started arguing because her name was brought up and I got mad because he wouldnt say her name " HE says I dont want to talk about that" I said whats a matter with bringing up her name??? Was it on my part to get into it AGAIN?"

Another issue:
We have been together about 5 1/2 years minus the 3 months we werent together. ANyways, I have been talking with him about taking the next step and moving in together and he said we will see/ Now, his best friend asked him to get and split an apartment with him and have his best friends older mother live downstairs. I was angry but maybe I shouldnt be. He lives with his mother right now so do you think maybe living by himself with his best friend is better than him living with me....??

Yes, I would have to say that it was your fault that you two got into it again. Why can't you just leave the past in the past? You two weren't even a couple so what he did was his business. He has more "right" to be concerned over the things you did when you two WERE together than you do over this. If you continue with your obsession over this I believe you will loose him.

As far as living with his friend, I would tend to think he'd choose living with his friend as he wouldn't want to be "grilled" 24/7 about that other woman.