[Mrs Muse]

Ok I have to put my two cents in here. First off, sex is sex. Love is love. If he is attracted to men too, you might have a problem down the line if he has tendencies to want that touch. However.... with that being said.... being faithful is being faithful no matter if it is in a straight relationship, bi- or gay.

Are you sure it "bothers" you and doesn't turn you on? Sounds like a little bit of denial to me. That or maybe you discriminate a little? I'm not badmouthing you or your beliefs at all, just trying to get to the root of the issue at hand.

I'm attracted to Brad Pitt, but somehow I don't see myself being with him ever.

Cheers!

[Mommiesbabies]

Ok I have to put my two cents in here. First off, sex is sex. Love is love. If he is attracted to men too, you might have a problem down the line if he has tendencies to want that touch. However.... with that being said.... being faithful is being faithful no matter if it is in a straight relationship, bi- or gay.

Are you sure it "bothers" you and doesn't turn you on? Sounds like a little bit of denial to me. That or maybe you discriminate a little? I'm not badmouthing you or your beliefs at all, just trying to get to the root of the issue at hand.

I'm attracted to Brad Pitt, but somehow I don't see myself being with him ever.

Cheers!

ok lmao no it does not turn me on.. thats a good one!! and i have a girl friends that have messed with girls just to see..but they dont do it any longer it was something they tried..and PLEASE tell me what exactly i am in denial about????

[Mrs Muse]

Well, when I say this please don't get mad.

Here's my two cents on what you are in denial over:

1. You do not like people who are gay/bi/tri (aka try anything)

2. It sparks some interest in you that you feel you should be repulsed by but aren't so you are going to say "ew" just because you think that's what society (family/church etc) says you should do.

By all means, I'm not saying you are a bad person either way, that's just what I gather from what you said.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Or:-

You don't care about sexuality - but maybe you don't understand that even those girls that "tried it" once, are in fact now bi-sexual... they were curious and they tried it, just like your ex-fiance.

And you see it as a label? Well a Woman is a Woman and a Man is a Man and they are labels..

It's the way it is.

But, I'm still feeling that you just don't like the fact that he slept with SOMEONE whilst living with you and you feel cheated on and hurt, but your not together anymore so he can do what ever he wants to, and you need to accept that.

And to deal with it, find a new man for you, that loves you, and move from this situation.

Not many people can turn their love into "only friendship" even if they had friendship before their relationship and succeed in only being friends WHILST bit word, WHILST still living together.

That is a fact.

CW

[Mommiesbabies]

Well, when I say this please don't get mad.

Here's my two cents on what you are in denial over:

1. You do not like people who are gay/bi/tri (aka try anything)

2. It sparks some interest in you that you feel you should be repulsed by but aren't so you are going to say "ew" just because you think that's what society (family/church etc) says you should do.

By all means, I'm not saying you are a bad person either way, that's just what I gather from what you said.

i find what your gathering funny considering that most of my female adn male friends ar gay and i have expiermented with a woman before..so you must be reading something im not.. i dont get mad thats your opinion..its whatever.. this is a dead conversation now.. i joined cause i thought this would be a great womans board and i ask one question that got blown in another direction of ppl trying to analyze me and my sittuation when the question asked was basically how do you deal with hurt and betrayl...so i guess ill just look and not ask questions from now on..lol im a down to earth happy person and as i said i dont get mad by comments but if i feel someone is out of line then i say what i have to say...

[Mommiesbabies]

Or:-

You don't care about sexuality - but maybe you don't understand that even those girls that "tried it" once, are in fact now bi-sexual... they were curious and they tried it, just like your ex-fiance.

And you see it as a label? Well a Woman is a Woman and a Man is a Man and they are labels..

It's the way it is.

But, I'm still feeling that you just don't like the fact that he slept with SOMEONE whilst living with you and you feel cheated on and hurt, but your not together anymore so he can do what ever he wants to, and you need to accept that.

And to deal with it, find a new man for you, that loves you, and move from this situation.

Not many people can turn their love into "only friendship" even if they had friendship before their relationship and succeed in only being friends WHILST bit word, WHILST still living together.

That is a fact.

CW

now in this statement is on point i know everything you said it sooo true!! and this is what i meant by having the question answered and not analyzed.... but i dont wnat to find a new man..lol.. dont need one...i have my babies and pornhub.com..lmao. we are great friends tho. i just think when your in a situation like mine where we still live togehter it easy to not really move on cause im still in the situation.. but ill get out when im ready. only god knows the future to this madness...are you in a relationship? im enjoying being single tho..after 8 years i dont have to answer to anyone and do what i want..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

now in this statement is on point i know everything you said it sooo true!! and this is what i meant by having the question answered and not analyzed.... but i dont wnat to find a new man..lol.. dont need one...i have my babies and pornhub.com..lmao. we are great friends tho. i just think when your in a situation like mine where we still live togehter it easy to not really move on cause im still in the situation.. but ill get out when im ready. only god knows the future to this madness...are you in a relationship? im enjoying being single tho..after 8 years i dont have to answer to anyone and do what i want..

pfttt.. had to bloody analyse to get the friggen, thoughts flowing haha. sorry.

Well, I understand that.. Kids mean the world to you, your not ready to move on probably, happy in your own skin, and your only 27 so plenty of time, and pornhub, mmmm okay, that helps, lol.

That's a fact, i think one day you will crave and want more, emotions perhaps, attention in a different way or some guy will just sweep you and you'll go WT? And, things will change, fate works in mysterious ways.

It's interesting that you say after 8 years you don't have to answer to anyone.. Shhh I'll say it anyway. Freedom of personality, independance whilst still sharing is soooo important, to be able to be you no matter what...I was married madam, for 7 and a half years and i am "free" single, dating, what ever, for 17 months now, so i know exactly what you mean, but next time, I will NOT be a wife, rather a lover, and girlfriend, all the way through the realtionship even when I'm 89, that's the way it should.

I tend to think , "you don't worry about the future" " you forget the past" and you LIFE / WAY LIVE for the now".

There's my answer....

CW

[Mommiesbabies]

pfttt.. had to bloody analyse to get the friggen, thoughts flowing haha. sorry.

Well, I understand that.. Kids mean the world to you, your not ready to move on probably, happy in your own skin, and your only 27 so plenty of time, and pornhub, mmmm okay, that helps, lol.

That's a fact, i think one day you will crave and want more, emotions perhaps, attention in a different way or some guy will just sweep you and you'll go WT? And, things will change, fate works in mysterious ways.

It's interesting that you say after 8 years you don't have to answer to anyone.. Shhh I'll say it anyway. Freedom of personality, independance whilst still sharing is soooo important, to be able to be you no matter what...I was married madam, for 7 and a half years and i am "free" single, dating, what ever, for 17 months now, so i know exactly what you mean, but next time, I will NOT be a wife, rather a lover, and girlfriend, all the way through the realtionship even when I'm 89, that's the way it should.

I tend to think , "you don't worry about the future" " you forget the past" and you LIFE / WAY LIVE for the now".

There's my answer....

CW

lol..we need gesture smily's on here..i wanted to clap my hands..lol im just enjoying my life and whatever happens happens.. things happen for reasons you know. and i always say if its meant to be it will and if not then hey when one door closed another will open.. i think im going to have a real trust issue and i already and having intimacy issues, when you dont have trust its like why bother..men suck sometimes..ha ha

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Smileys - press quick reply, and when you get to this box, press below, go advanced, on the right hand side, it will bring up a few for you on the right hand side....

Well, your right, but you were young when you met him, what 18? and have been with him alone, so it's probably more to do with, let down after so many years to one man.

So, don't disregard trust, trust me haha, sorry.. But, don't.

Intimacy, well we all go through that rough patch after separating of not wanting to feel like just " the thing" so we don't...

Everything comes in time.

Remember riding your bike? same thing..

CW

[Joy]

I can see you not wanting to get hooked up with a new guy at the moment. Its hard enough to wrap your own head around lil lone having to explain this to close minded people.

You will get your footing back soon enough. Do you guys plan on remaining under the same roof for long?

You are 100% correct when one door closes more open so however the situation looks at the moment soon enough it will change.

good luck and keep posting lots of good people to talk to here