[WildChild]

Maybe the two of you should do some exploring, there is a growing market of erotica aimed toward the female market that you may both find arousing without being so offensive to your sensibitities. Or make him your own 'catalog'?

It is interesting that you are ok with a catolog or maybe a mag? While a lot of porn is pretty raw in it's photography - they are focused on the action and body parts rather than looking pretty, the posed photography is another story. Playboy, for example, will take tens of thousands of shots to get the handfull that appear in the mag. Fashion shoots are much the same. I once worked for a fashion designer and on a shoot just for prototype shots for the company that contracted us, with all the special lighting, make up and focus on the garment (ski wear - no swim suits) hundreds of shots were taken just to get 30 or 40 that were sent in with sample garments.

Personally unless he's into something really over the top (like kids) I don't get it. Moderation is the key in all things. So long as this isn't obsessive, I'd be more concerned if he wasn't interested. Believe me there are men who have no desire to look at porn or at other women - they are either gay or hormone deficient, if they are truly not interested in (or at least somewhat aroused by) other women they aren't going to be very interested in you either. A woman who knows her man and her body can always draw his attention to her to fill his desires but you can't arouse a man who got's no juice. Let him look, let him fantasize, let him know where he can get the real thing.

[SheenRe]

WOW

I have to agree with the sans porn in my marriage group. Single folks....okay...whatever. They may not have any other resource. But, when you have a willing partner, why the need if you're in love with your parter? I don't get it.

Destroyed my first marriage entirely. He went from soft porn, to hard porn, to infidelity, to sex with men. DIVORCE! Never regretted the divorce either. Best thing I ever did. Finaly got back my normal sex drive after losing it while he was around. His activities made me withdraw from sex. Lost my desire.

Why do guys want to look at other guys performing sexual things? Weeeird to me. In my case, with my first husband, it was part of his finding he was a latent homosexual. Or, that's how it turned out anyway. Not that it is bad. But he fought with being that way. Not me. Once I knew his tendencies, I just divorced him. No problem.

So, I'm not fond of having guys around who play with porn. Always wonder what they're staring at....girls...or guys.

AND....for me...it's disgusting. Turns me OFF! And, when did voyeurism become acceptable as a norm? And, if it isn't abnormal and perverse by definition, what is? Just a question in my mind.

[Guest]

. More women are outraged by men's abuse and continuing abuse. Where are these loving and caring men? Yes...there are many many caring men...I give them credit. I"m ONLY talking about the ones who take women for granted here...and there are a lot of them

hmm, well what about the women that look at porn?

Or is it okay for a woman to look but not a man?

I see a double standard coming.......................

Look at the lives of these poor women...exposing themselves sharing sacred acts with others.

Well I would feel sorry for someone forced into it, however most CHOOOOOOOOOSE to make porn because

A. as you said

Porn stars are ONLY in it for the money

and it's pretty darn good money!!!!!!!!!!!

B. Actually lemme tell ya a secret...Some porn stars LIKE what they do!