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[Mes T]

I don't know, I definitely don't like this but at the same time think that it should be resolved with those two, and you shouldn't be so directly involved. The fact that they were in the trash (were they replied to??) tells me that your man took one look at those messages and without a second thought regarded them as garbage that doesn't deserve his attention.

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[Hopeless Dork]

Oouch... she is hard to understand... is english not her first language? Maybe she is not so much cryptic, but just doesn't have a good grasp on sentence structure? Girls like her, ahhh... I know em', I have em' as friends. They have guys that were head over heels for them that they wanted nothing to do with... they hit a dry spell, or some guy bruises their ego and they search like mad to find some guy out there that thinks they are awesome to get their head back to its normal inflated state. They could careless about the chaos involved... they will break up relationships, get their fill of "i'm so awesome" and move on leaving everythign in a mess.

The guys that fall for it... are pretty weak and so hopefully your man saw right through it , which is why it ended up in the delete bin. She likely posted on his page as a last resort to get him to contact her. If he ignored her messages she probably knew one way or another he or you would contact her if she posted her jibberish to his page.

On your birthday, no less. What a selfish female dog. Seriously. I know you want to probably be upset with your guy right now, being reminded of the past and the hurt that was wrapped up in this girl... but his only fault right now is having her as a friend... why would he do that? Or is his page public?

It sounds like she wanted som attention, and she got it... not from who she wanted though. I don't like it. I don't like what he said to her when he was drunk, I don't like that she has access to write on his wall. I don't like that he didn't mention to you that she attempted to make contact... but I understand the last part. If it meant nothing to him he probably didn't feel the need to rub your nose in the past to tell you she sent an email.

Do not stick your neck out fighting for this man if he is not making his intentions clear. I know you love him but if he has muddy waters where his feelings are concerned with this chick... you need to step back and let him make them clear. Crystal clear. To you, and to her. With all the hurt his contact with her caused in the past he has no business continuing communicating with her.

If he hasn't been, then you shouldn't be upset really, I mean you can be upset ... obviously... but what I mean is you shouldn't hold him accountable for her actions, only his response to them.

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[Mes T]

I agree with HD, I guess one of the only options here is to have your man stand up for himself and for his relationship with you... so that there's no question from anyone...!! And if he can't do that... you might need to do something drastic, like move out, just to show him that you won't stand for this sort of thing.

Jeez I'm really sorry you're made to feel like this, I too would be pretty upset.

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[Mes T]

Ahhh reminds me of my own situation a little while back, where I decided NOT to make him send an email...

But this situation is different, it's a girl who is (pretty much) clearly interested in an inappropriate way in your fiance. I think there are two options. One is to ignore her (nothing gets the message across more than complete indifference), and the other is to yes send her that email and CC you on it. But it has to be CRYSTAL CLEAR, and FIRM, no Mr. Nice Guy!

When will you talk to him about what to do?

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