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[Hopeless Dork]

I'm not sure changing his ISP would help anything... or his number... if she wants to contact him she will be able to . She can look up his name, she can find him good enough to send a message at least. So thats not going to help anything. If he leaves it alone and ignores her and she continues... THEN, he should be firm and say I need you to leave me alone. But I'd support him choosing to ignore. Sometimes that speaks more than saying something sometimes. If I was trying to reach an ex (which I wouldn't) and i found him and messaged him... and he never got back to me. I think the hint would be loud and clear. I wouldn't continue making a fool of myself.

But if he reaches out to her just to tell her to stop talking to him, there will be a dialogue, he doesn't owe her that. He doesn't owe her any words at all. But if she does not get that hint, especially after talking to you and what you said to her and continues to reach out to him THEN he must tell her to leave him alone to live his life. And if she still doesn't stop he should consider a restraining order but it most likely wont need to get to that point.

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[CHANDLERS WISH]

Personally?

I would have him call her... (in front of you), ask her what it is she wants to say, from emails sent (2 years ago), I know you trust him, I believe you too, however, I don't see why someone states " if you meant what you wrote", if it was that long ago?

In any event, by calling her, there is closure..

By calling her in-front of you, there is trust....

And, at the end of the conversation, he can state, "I just want you to know that I have no secrets from my other half, so I did call you as you asked, but I am not alone, thanks for your call, and I truly wish you well in life and hope you accept my decision and that being, I think it's time we stopped communicating, what happened back then, was back then, I've moved on with my life and I am happy....

Phone hangs up...

Two people, hug..

Story ended....

CW

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LOL'S.

Well I'm viewing it from "trust" your engaged, nothing to hide, right, you want to ensure that your relationship is built on trust, nothing to hide..

And, in that she doesn't win, either, because he did call but with you by his side..

If I had nothing to hide, and i LOVED my other half ( which I do ) that is exactly the mature way in which I would handle it, so that our relationship showed as solid...

PS, I thought you were going to shoot me for that suggestion

CW

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[Mes T]

I like this idea too. I'll be anxiously waiting to hear how it goes!!!

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In the event of him having already called her behind my back? Any ideas for a backup plan, just in case...?