[HALFNOTHING]

he gave up traveling. I am trying, but each time his phone rings I wonder. I feel like I am supposed to trust him but I can't. Last night, I was up and went to the guest room to just watch him sleep, he wasn't there, I came back to my room and he was sitting in the corner on the floor sleep. Why would he lie about it? I wanted to let all of you know that I have names for the twins....Sean and Sabra..you are my buddies.

Why not give him a second change? who knows he might telling the truth. what if that the girl was just trying to destruct you to the point that she wants to ruin your relationship. she got hurts. so, she might wants to revenge.. Try to trust him for the second chance if not for you, think that its for your babies to be. After all, no secret will keep forever. It will be vulgar someday. Think positive this time..

You can't dictate man for what they want to do.. you can't control them. that's the truth.. admit that all of us are not perfect.. anyone can hurt someone they love not intentionally.. he lied to you that he was in your room because of his pride or he was thinking that whatever he says, you don't believe..

As long as he lived with you.. and that he is doing all you want even gave up everything about you that means he loves you.. wait, did he ever tell you that he loves you above all what did? take note, actions louder than words.. prove things first before you act..

[Annehen]

Was in same boat

4 Year ago my husband was also involved with another woman in text messaging and phoning. At that stage I was pregnant and very sick, almost lost the baby. My husband complaint I had no time or energy for him. He then met this woman that started calling and texting him. I knew about her but not what was going on. When I realized I spoke to him. He then lied to me. She also got very nasty towards me saying really bad things. My husband however promised me that nothing really happened. I believed him, I however promised him that if he did not break it completely I would leave him. I was hurt and angry. At that stage a friend from my past made contact with me again. We started texting each other. I kept on thinking it was not that wrong because hubbie did it first. He found out and was devestated. We did a lot of soul searching and realized that our marriage was not where it was suppose to be. Today we are extremely happy and it's hard to believe that we almost ended a marriage that now is so good. Don't just give up. Work on your marriage.

[gogirl]

texting is evil

I feel so badly for all of you going through this and know exactly how you feel. I was in a horrible marriage for ten years and have two little girls from the marriage. At thirty-nine, I finally left, so that my girls would see that a woman should demand respect and care from her partner. I hoped that I was young enough to find a nice man to marry who would help me care for the girls and perhaps even have another child with me.

I met a wonderful man in my neighborhood and we fell in love. He was fifty. We had such wonderful times together and he loved my daughters like his own. After about six months we began talking about marriage, moving into the house he was building, and having a baby of our own. Then, just before Christmas we were at a big party with his friends, all dressed up, having a wonderful time. We were sitting at the bar and he received a text message. He was a bit drunk and opened it before moving the phone to where I couldn't see it. The message said, "Hi Honey. I'm thinking about you and hope you're having a nice night. I miss you." I said, "What the ---- is that?" He said, "What?" I said, "Who is that?" He said, "Honey, please." I stood up and said, "Tell me right now who that is." "He said, "Are you going to ruin our night now?" I left. He did not come after me.

The next day he texted me that the text message was from "just a friend." I told him there could never be another one. He said okay. That was just the beginning of what has been five months of him keeping the phone from me, the phone ringing in the middle of the night, lying about where he is going and has been, etc etc. It's amazing. When I first started seeing him, I told all of my male friends I could no longer text them because I felt it gave a poor impression to my boyfriend. I also rarely see my male friends anymore, out of respect for him, and I always invite him along when we do want to make plans. If a man makes a pass at me or asks me out I make it crystal clear that I have a boyfriend I love and am in no way interested. It's hard to believe that a man who loves a woman would allow other women to endanger the relationship just so he can get his ego stroked via text a few times a day. Hence, it's hard to believe he truly loves me.

Texting is evil. I do not live with my boyfriend and do not know what kind of emails he receives, and I am glad at least for that. I just couldn't handle it if I saw suggestive emails or nude photographs on his computer. The one text I saw was bad enough; my life and my mind are full of the texts I imagine he gets every day from other women. It's KILLING me and I don't know what to do. I am now almost forty-one years old and exhausted from this relationship. Worst of all, I used to be so trusting and now, NOW at forty-one I have lost my loving trust in people because of this man. Still, I can't leave him and I can't imagine trying to start over with someone else.

I have to be grateful, after some of your texts, that I am not married to this guy--that we don't have children together. How utterly devastating. I will be thinking of and praying for all of you to find peace.

[WildChild]

Gogirl the only thing keeping you from leaving is you. If this is drving you to distraction, why would you stay? If you can't trust him what kind of life will either of you have? You left your husband so your children would see that a would should have respect and care from a man. What is this? You do not need a man to define you. You can function on your own and you probably should for a few years. Then find a man you can have in your life because you want him not because you think you need him.

Texting isn't the problem, the behavior is.

[gogirl]

You are absolutely right, WildChild. I need to make a life for my daughters and me on our own. It was just that he had us in that place, saying he was going to be that man for us, and because of my age I have had to face the possibility that I may never be able to have that "whole thing," you know? The husband with the kid that's ours, etc.? Also, this guy lives on my block, about thirty feet away from me. We have to watch him come and go forever. However, I have considered that he will have to watch me come and go, too, when I leave him and start seeing fabulous younger men!

[Iseulda]

Gogirl - your age is not such a big factor. Plenty of people, men and women, remarry at your age, finding true love. The only reason your age could be an impediment is if you make it a barrier yourself.

There's someone out there way better for you than this guy - even if there is nothing going on with this 'text friend' the way he has chosen to behave around it has hurt you and he shows no signs of being genuinely sorry or changing his tune. That doesn't bode well. Chalk this one up to experience.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It was just that he had us in that place, saying he was going to be that man for us, and because of my age I have had to face the possibility that I may never be able to have that "whole thing," you know? The

No, you have to change your mindset.

When we "dream a dream", the picket fence, we go for someone whom states he will provide it and we dream the dream.

When we "stand tall, and don't settle" and say what I want is happiness for me, for my children and to be happy and aim only at whom we are, being, then we will not settle but find, exactly that happiness. Because, we are happy within ourselves.

You were looking for the picket fence, not at the person whom was going to provide it and now you know.

Your 41, not 101... You are young, your life is just beginning... Never, ever, think you won't find the total picture.

I am 46 (ahhhhhhhhhh) ok in a couple of weeks, and I left my ex-husband at 44, but in the knowing that there was someone better out there for me, because I love me and am happy within myself...

And, I found that someone ... I am not old, so why are you?

I found, so why can't you?

Know your self worth, that's all you have to find for now...

Ignore this guy doesn't matter that he lives around the corner, down the street, and smile because you know your worth more than he can "respectfully" give, as he doesn't respect.

Words are words....

The home, the looking after you, are words, that all women want to hear and then they still do what they want to do.

This is a man whom does not respect...

Respect yourself.

CW

[HALFNOTHING]

It's happy to be a single.. without dictator.. living alone is not consider you're lonely at all.. you can find peace of mind and focus..

love yourself than others.. he's not worth it... he's not a goddess.. you will find a better man than him.... trust yourself and gain respect.. hang out with friends..

[Hopeless Dork]

Texting, is just a communication tool - I don't see how that it in of itself is evil. There is not a text site on your mobile phone that I am aware of where you can sign up to get random women texting you all day saying they miss you and what not, any different than someone leaving a voice on the answering machine saying similiar things.

Who are these women? Where did he meet them? How did they come to get to know him so well that they miss him and call him honey? They couldn't have possibly just appeared on text in his phone out of no where. He must have met them in person somewhere, or online and texting is just their chosen method of communication.

I am not at all trying to be sarcastic or insenstive, I am just confused by the texting is evil after finding a text from a women, its kind of similiar to saying.... voice mail is evil after discovering some lady left a voice message for your guy saying things she shouldn't.

I think texting shouldn't be your concern it should be what OTHER ways is he communicating with these women that got them talking to him via text in the first place? Him simply giving up texting them seems to leave a whole gap of other media platforms he could use to converse with women in this manner.

Does he tell you who they are , how he met them? Why they miss him?

[HALFNOTHING]

Texting, is just a communication tool - I don't see how that it in of itself is evil. There is not a text site on your mobile phone that I am aware of where you can sign up to get random women texting you all day

Yes, texting is just a way of communication tool... but, we could get someone's number if you are interested to him/her.. Not only by intention.. there are lot of people just making fun of us not knowing they're hurting everyone.. their way of happiness to kid others. usually, you can get a number not intentionally. wrong dial number or they could get it somewhere else.. this only happens to those people don't have things to do in their life but to spend their time in useless ways..

I think texting shouldn't be your concern it should be what OTHER ways is he communicating with these women that got them talking to him via text in the first place? Him simply giving up texting them seems to leave a whole gap of other media platforms he could use to converse with women in this manner.

But, I agree that texting should not be your concern at all because it's depend upon to your husband if he will reply or not.. no one could command him and harm him if he won't.. its his decision.. texting will lead to them to meet personally. I had a textmate and i tell you, you can't just sit put until you meet them. curiosity helps to pull up the two to meet..until, the feelings will develop.. as far as im concern, married people must not connect to others in any means.. by means of chatting, txting or whatever not unless you and your partner have agreed.. we should avoid it.. So, advise him to stop his act.. it's not fair and just for you... if he wants textmate, so, go get your phone and start texting each other.. hehehe he wants to meet other woman outdoor? well, try to change your look in beauty parlor and spend your weekends out of town..

You know what we, girls, women, must do? we should always be beautiful so that our men will not look to others.. hahaha