[sexnlove]

I feel stuck. I have many problems now, and am afraid to leave. I will not have much money and my husband thinks I do not love myself. He says he doesnt care if I move out, far away with our baby a he wants me to be happy. He says I make him miserable. He says he is a happy guy...I am sad because I am a very highly sexual person, beautiful and glow when a man puruses me in love. He is popular, smart, lots of money and everyone likes him. I only got a nursing career, he has a PHD, he thinks I make a lot of stupid decisions. He pretends like it would not matter if I moved away. I am dying to b sexually satisfied. He complains about me wanting sex more thrn once per week, says none of my exs ever complained about sex, just you. Well...i was previously married had sex everyday...and oral and did everything. This dude...i touch his man parts he gets mad cause even when i am as gentle as i can he is angry cause apparently it hurts him. He tells me there is nothing to work on, i am the problem. H says he will never change, what do i do when i want more sex, when he is depriving me, etc and also is non emotional type when im emotional sensitive person. It hurts when he says he doesnt care. I have been depressed since i moved here and even before but i want to be with someone who says i want you in my life...verbally says that...reassures me...etc maybe buys me flowers once in a while. Im always trying to pleae him sexually, with meals, with kind emails and he doesnt need any of it. He is happy without anything i do. What do you do when you dont wanna leave a marriage because of kids, and worry about your ability to take care of them on your own, i struggle with depression too so sometimes i dont know if i could do it. Why is life so hard,and why is it so hard to find someone to really love me...

[Stillness]

sexnlove, I've read most, if not all of your posts. It seems as if the community here really feels for you because quite a few people have expresses sympathy and empathy. They've also made suggestions about things you could do to possibly improve your situation. Some of them are things they've done that have worked or things they've seen others do to help themselves. It seems like you mostly overlook them. Forgive me if I'm misunderstanding.

There's nothing wrong with venting sometimes. Expressing your thoughts and frustrations can even make some things better. It may help make the situation clearer in your mind, allow you to do some soul-searching, or just relieve the pressure so you cope with a situation you can't change. But venting here is not going to help your husband show you more affection.

So, are you here just to complain or do you want to try to do something to improve your situation?