[swathy]

Hi Everybody

I am 21 years old girl getting ready for marriage.Please advise me on how to get ready for a sex life??

[Euphoric]

Are you on some form of BC? You may want to enjoy spending quality time with your new hubby before trying to conceive. Make sure you have a lubricant substitute in case you aren't 'wet enough' before he tries to penetrate you. If he tries to enter and you are experiencing pain, you need to stop him and apply something like astroglide or k-y jelly to his penis, otherwise, you may experience some tearing. Have you ever masterbated? If so, was it clitoral only or penetrative? You need stimulation and foreplay to help relax the body and allow the vagina to elongate in preparation for penetration. Is this the info. that you are looking for? If not, perhaps you can elaborate

[swathy]

Dear euphoric Thanks for your advice.

I have recently started masturbation into my vagina..Will it create problems in sex??Also how will be the first time sex experience??painful or bleeding??Can my vagina take a long penis into it??

[jns]

Masturbation is best done on the clitoris or the clitoral hood if the objective is to reach orgasm. Some masturbation on other parts is still good for variety. That being said, some women will reach orgasm from vaginal masturbation although most will not. Masturbation generally will not cause a problem if it is not done as a substitute for sex. Adding clitoral masturbation to intercourse is a common way to reach orgasm at about the same time as your lover.

Some women experience pain and/or bleeding during the first time or maybe during the first few times. Some do not experience pain or bleeding.

Your vagina should be able to take a long penis, although some women cannot. Having one or several orgasms before penetration can cause your uterus to somewhat move up and out of the way so your vagina can accommodate a longer penis without pain. A penis of larger girth takes a lot of lubricant and a man who is willing to take his time to create a better experience for the woman. Over time, the woman should be able to accommodate the man unless he is well beyond normal size.

[Euphoric]

Swathy,

JNS has shared good information. Masterbation is not going to hurt your vagina unless you are inserting an object that could tear you. You have probably lurked through some of the threads and read where females use anything from their fingers to hair brush handles, and that is fine. It sounds like getting to know yourself is a new venture That will help you learn what feels good. And by doing so, you get a sense of what penetration will feel like. Keep in mind that an erect penis is much larger than your fingers.

Will you bleed? Maybe a little if your hymen is intact. Don't worry, there will not be some huge gush or a puddle of blood left behind. Think along the lines of cutting your finger. Yes it bleeds, but not a lot. It won't be like having your period.

What will the first time be like? That depends on MANY variables. Again, lots of foreplay - kissing, touching, stroking, licking, hugging. How sex "feels" is as much psychological as physical for most females. You may experience some discomfort at first, but so long as your partner goes slow and easy, (and you are wet or lubed) a woman's vagina is designed to expand and contract to accommodate an erect penis and even give birth. Now, if he attempts to push it all the way in with one quick motion, chances are it will hurt you, even if you are lubed. GO SLOW. Your body will probably need a moment to acclimate. That's normal!!!

Learning and exploring is half the fun. It can be a little scary when you're unsure what to expect. Spend time with foreplay. It helps relax your body and mind. Relax. Tensing up will make it uncomfortable. If he is really big and it hurts, change positions. If you are on top, you can control the depth and rhythm. Communicate! Tell him what feels good and what doesn't.

How long have you known your future husband?

[swathy]

Thanks to all for sharing

Now I feel relaxed after your suggestions.I am going to get married in few days with my lover.Your advise shall help me sure.

Also what shall be correct breasts size for a women to get ready for sex?Will my vagina and my breasts be mouth sucked by my partner during sex? Should I shave over my *****?

How can i PM in this site?

[Euphoric]

There is no correct breast size to get ready for sex. You have what mother nature provided you with. Yes, they can be altered through cosmetic surgical procedures, but that is something normally done for health reasons or vanity - not sex.

Will my vagina and my breasts be mouth sucked by my partner during sex?

Maybe, that is between you and your partner. It's not uncommon, especially for breasts to be kissed, sucked, nipped, etc. As far as oral sex, that may or may not happen. Some people have to work up to feeling comfortable and for others, it comes naturally.

Should I shave over my ********************?

That's up to you. Some women do and others do not. Personally, I shave things close, but keep a close cut 'landing strip'. You can google pictures if you don't know what that is. Why do I do it? Partially because I think it's more hygienic, (mindset only) and because I response better (having more clitoral stimulation) when there isn't a barrier between my body and his. If you do shave, BE CAREFUL. Also noteworthy, if you have never shaved before, you may experience ingrown hairs and little bumps. Shaving with the grain of hair growth as opposed to against it may help some.

[swathy]

Thanks Euphoric

How can i PM in this site?

[Euphoric]

You're Welcome. I think you can only send or receive PM's after having around 35 posts. I have tried to send you a PM, but it didn't go through. You can check you control filters to make sure receiving PM's is on. Short of that, I don't see a means to PM. You can send Little a message and ask her about PM's if you are having trouble making sure you are set up for email through the forum. Keep in mind that your identity is anonymous on the forum, so you can ask your questions and without fear of others knowing who you are. I'll help you anyway that I can, but I'm not going to post my email address on the forum

What is your concern

[swathy]

Thanks Euphoric Once again.

I am gonna to get married next week.Your advise really helped me.If I have queries,will ask you after my first sex with my husband

Thanks for sharing