Swathy, is your husband a virgin too? I am guessing he is, so please keep in mind that he is likely MORE nervous than you.
Men somehow, and for some reason (probably because they're men actually) take it upon themselves to feel like they should know exactly what to do in bed when in actual fact it's perfectly normal for you both to feel nervous and want to take things slowly, and by slowly I mean at the pace which is most comfortable for the person who is least comfortable, if that makes sense.
I actually think that typically, it takes a man longer to learn how to please woman than vice versa.
Have you experimented by watching any porn? Whilst it is largely acting you'll get a flavor of what men and women do together in bed whilst familiarizing yourself with the male anatomy. If you search 'pornhub female friendly' you'll see some relatively soft intercourse which, although it may shock you at first, will familiarize you with what people do during sex and satisfy some of your very normal curiosities.
The great thing is that you don't have to do anything you don't want to, think of the early days of your sex life more as an 'exploratory stage' during which you become familiar with each others bodies, comfortable with the concept of lovemaking, explore one another's likes and dislikes and generally adapt to being intimate.
Making the transition from being a virgin to sharing your body with someone is a huge psychological step and will likely arouse much emotion within you as the physical side of the relationship is cultivated and strengthened in tandem to the development and deepening of the physical/sexual side.
Men somehow, and for some reason (probably because they're men actually) take it upon themselves to feel like they should know exactly what to do in bed when in actual fact it's perfectly normal for you both to feel nervous and want to take things slowly, and by slowly I mean at the pace which is most comfortable for the person who is least comfortable, if that makes sense.
I actually think that typically, it takes a man longer to learn how to please woman than vice versa.
Have you experimented by watching any porn? Whilst it is largely acting you'll get a flavor of what men and women do together in bed whilst familiarizing yourself with the male anatomy. If you search 'pornhub female friendly' you'll see some relatively soft intercourse which, although it may shock you at first, will familiarize you with what people do during sex and satisfy some of your very normal curiosities.
The great thing is that you don't have to do anything you don't want to, think of the early days of your sex life more as an 'exploratory stage' during which you become familiar with each others bodies, comfortable with the concept of lovemaking, explore one another's likes and dislikes and generally adapt to being intimate.
Making the transition from being a virgin to sharing your body with someone is a huge psychological step and will likely arouse much emotion within you as the physical side of the relationship is cultivated and strengthened in tandem to the development and deepening of the physical/sexual side.
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