[CHANDLERS WISH]

I've got the whole fitness thing down as a habit. I've started spending more time w. my siblings too. I took my little sis out for a peticure (she's very preagnant and can't reach her feet!) She's a runner and teaches at two local gyms. she had some serious callouses. I also went fishing w. my brother and took my daughter boating w. another sister. I love taking care of people and bonding. I can't do that w. toadess anymore because it seems to backfire on me emotionally. The nicer I am to her the meaner and more demanding she is.
Solution, invest in other relationships that are healthy. It's cool.
One of my buddies divorced his wife of ten years who also had borderline personality disorder and he wishes he'd stayed w. her because she is so spiteful now. He has to go to court every other month over custody, child support re evaluations etc. She won't leave him alone. He's got four kids w. her. I can see that happening too, but my wife is also very non motivated. I think she'd rather sit home and listen to hip hop and gossip on the phone than go to court!

I'm really pleased that you are finding "love" in a variety of other relationships, ie) brother, sister, daughter..But that confirms that you have a lot of love to give and you love "bonding" as you state.

Don't look at other people's relationships and what they say, i can hear it" Hey Man don't leave her this is what you will go through".

Each person is different remember that.

It sounds to me that you are surrounding yourself with love as a replacement and trying to be happy with that, but you know that eventually you will not be able to cope, this is a band aid solution to make you feel better.

If you love, loving, bonding, then keep moving in the direction you are and go and find a lady that will give you all that, and share that with your family and daughter... You know you deserve to be happy as well.

CW