[Stillness]

I've been on the other end of this. I was looking at porn because I wasn't getting attention. My wife was shocked and hurt. I was surprised at how extreme her revulsion was.

Looking at porn is a kind of cheating, but so is failing to take care of your man. Have your feelings of disgust, but realize he has his too. A person's need for affection doesn't stop when their mate stops giving it. Not coming together is the same as pushing each other away.

[Anonymous01]

Stillness thank you! I appreciate an opinion from a different view point. But did your wife get past it easily and did you stop looking at it because it bothered her?
Texasred we are going to be going to marriage counseling Monday. But I think a lot of getting over this has to start with myself..

[Stillness]

Stillness thank you! I appreciate an opinion from a different view point. But did your wife get past it easily and did you stop looking at it because it bothered her?

I don't know how easily she got over it, but she did get over it. It was 16-17 years ago. She recognized her own role in it. Plus, we actually watched it together when we were dating. That's why I was so surprised she was so hurt.

I stopped watching it because it's bad to watch.

[Texasred]

Good for you.
Please let us know how it works out.