[anonymouswhitefemale]

Does the Trojan Condom have a secret little trapdoor to release a hit squad of sperms once everyone has gone to sleep?

"And shweedart, you aren't aware of how poor sex is for a guy with a condom, it's basically not worth it."

You have got to be kidding me!! What a irresponsible and selfish statement. The young women looking for advice don't need or deserve that .

Yes, in a place where people discuss the facts of life, it would certainly be a good idea to lie and tell people what they want to hear! That wouldn't be harmful at all! In fact, if I could encourage a woman to be more paranoid and stay with condoms whilst on the pill then I'd be helping to destroy another mans sex life! Yarrrr, up with condoms! Down with fun!

[Richard S]

The purpose of condoms is for the man to show that he cares enough to be safe during the early stages of the relationship. If things are going well after the first few encounters, then doing it unprotected is the next logical step. This is why most women are on the pill.

I was a bit of a late bloomer, it didn't happen for me until I was 25. That is, having a steady girlfriend where we did it unprotected. I'm not much into talking dirty, but, the first time I saw her after making love, lying there with a blissed-out look on her face, and my come dripping from her p*ssy, I finally understood what it meant to be a man.

And from the woman's point of view, there's no greater intimacy than letting him come inside you. When it's good, really good, it has a spiritual aspect to it. A penis with a condom on it is one step above using a dildo.

Then it becomes a game for the guy, knowing she wants to go further, seducing her into it. I've had some women tell me then can feel it when I come, that their body responds to it.

You really can't overstate the importance of that. That's why condom's will always be secondary, something used for convenience during casual encounters.

But, to be clear, if a guy is sexually active with more than one woman, yeah, you better have those things handy, and tell the lady the truth. Men who cross that ethical line deserve the worst that can happen to them.

[WildChild]

This is interesting. Does ANYONE enjoy sex with a condom? Is it just a matter of getting used to it? I appreciate Richard's statement that using one shows caring. Frankly if I am looking at long term relationship and I'm not into casual sex, sex with a condom isn't going to give me any satisfaction and it won't show me if it's sexual realtionship that will work. It will simply frustrate me, which seems to be where our original poster is too.

Foreplay or making out is some indicator and can be very satisfying, at least for a woman, but it still doesn't indicate if actual intercouse will be any good. As an adult, condoms shouldn't be about birth control - there are far better ways - it's about staying alive and healthy. But condoms sure aren't the way to a satisfactory sexual experience. So what do you do? How do you move into a good sexual relationship and stay protected?

[just a little more]

sugababy: Honey, unless you can afford some form of birth control, all condoms are going to be the pits.

Although, there is a large variety of condoms out there. One I like a lot is the Trojan Ribbed condom. It felt great.

There is also a condom, by Trojan, that is called Shared Pleasure. It gives you and your partner a heating sensation. I've heard that it is very nice. (Sadly, I'm allergic to the heating stuff, so my bf and I can't use them! :[ )

There are a lot more. Ones with vibrating rings, and studded condoms. Just go check your local walgreens or walmart.

I live by Trojan, cause we've never had it break or leak. So, try and stay with Trojan brand condoms.

All in all, sex with ANY condom never beats sex without one.

[GlossyT]

I really like durex. The one I really like is latex but called something like sensithin. Not possitive but I think you'll be able to tell from what its called on the box if you look around. Another good one is Durex Advanti. Its pretty thin as well. hope that helps a little bit

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Good to know others agree.

So, we just need to implant women, and cure STDs and then we can all rampantly hump like rabbits.

[just a little more]

Anon: Whoo! =D

[WildChild]

Anony, That sounds like a plan we could all live with! Only I want a bit more duration to it than those bunnies! There's a presidential platform that could get my vote.

[shweedart]

Well call me old fashioned but i'd rather be protected than pregnant and my sex life is just fine with a condom thanks, don't judge other peoples relationships by your own standards. Pardon me for being a responsible teen

[WildChild]

Bravo Shweedart!! You are right, being protected from pregnancy and STD is vital. Some of us older folk came of age in a era with very much what Anony describes, there were no known sexually transmitted diseases that couldn't be cured fairly simply, the pill was easily obtainable and cheap, we had the sponge, IUDs - plenty of choices for birth control. We became accustomed to sex being easy and painless. This Brave New World of sexual disaster and death around every new relationship is hard for us to take with a smile. When you've not had to deal with any of this as it became a part of life jumping back into the dating game and forming new relationships is challenging.

You have a head start on us in this area because to you this is normal and right. Give some of us over 40s and beyond a break. This is an area where we can learn from you because for us this hasn't been our early learning! Remember you contributed to this thread saying that you couldn't cum with a condom. So maybe things are "just fine" with a condom but they aren't fabulous?

Personally I'm sticking to a monogamous relationship, he has been snipped, and I don't have any worries on this front right now, but if this relationship ends I would be back to meeting someone I can establish enough trust with to get tested and stay monogamous. Then the question would be how to have enough "safe sex" to tell if there is real compatablity. We spent hours discussing our sexual likes and dislikes, what we each have and haven't done, want to try, what's on our don't go there lists, preferred techniques and on and on. When you are looking at two people with at least 30 years of sex experience each behind them you can get a pretty good feel for compatablity on several levels. But I have teens and freinds who are younger and older that I talk with about all this. Right now I have a 78 yr old freind who getting back into dating - in some ways she's less challenged than my age group since she became sexually active when condoms were all there was for birth control, not that she needs that , but STDs among oldesters are growing.

Look at the condom savy as kind of like Dr Who, probably your favorite Dr is the one from when you really got into the show. Tom Baker will always be my fav, no matter how much I like the others (we got started on it later here in the US). Bareback sex will always be my preference, no matter if condom are where it has to be now.