[rcoreyus]

Sorry to say, but join the legions of men whose wives won't do oral. As one of those guys, you have my sympathy, I know how it feels to really want something and not get it.

[Phoebee]

Ok, maybe I'm shallow but thats a deal breaker.

[Guest]

do to others as you want done to you.
best saying for almost anything.
i personally love to give oral to women, but i do have limits too.
#1 rule for me.......... i have to love her. if i dont love her, i stay up north.
if i love her, i wont leave south of the border untill she is screaming, quivering, and almost crying with pleasure.
#2 clean. no need to write anymore.

[ChelseaRenee]

Your boyfriends nuts to think he deserves a BJ when he's not reciprocating. And to be honest, you're nuts to cave in and do it! No, you shouldn't have to stoop to his level and hold back on him, but it seems the only way he'll know what he's doing to you!

[TWills32]

My husband rarely gets oral from me. Why? Because I have a bad jaw. My jaw clicks in and out of place when I open my mouth too wide, and on some days, even when I eat, talk, chew gum, ect. It can be very painful. My husband knows this and accepts it. I still give him hand jobs, though. I do perform oral when I can, it's just not very often. He performs oral on me almost every time we have foreplay. Does your boyfriend even contribute in other ways "down there"? Other then sex, of course.

With your boyfriend, it seems like he just doesn't want to do it. I have never heard of OCD making someone unable to perform oral sex. If he had a bad jaw, like me for instance, that would be a legitimate excuse. I would ask him why he REALLY won't do it.

[what2do]

Like others have said. Join the club of the many women that do not give BJ's. Works both ways.
I guess since its a dealbreaker you must move on. As for him not talking through it, that is just juvenile.

[SinisterUrge]

As Dan Savage would say, "DTMFA"

[brett45]

dont take that.

I need help please! My boyfriend of 8 months refuses to give me oral pleasure. He says that he has OCD and just can't do it. If that's the truth I'm not sure what we can do to fix this. This is a biggee for me. I was married for 17 years and my husband used to love it and would do it at least 4 times a week. It's very difficult for me to do without it. I love this guy so much and hate the thought of this coming between us but I know deep down in my heart that it will eventually be a deal breaker.

I on the other hand never have a problem giving him oral sex. I love the way he reacts and the way I know I'm making him feel. I don't totally enjoy the actual act sometimes but his sexual happiness makes it all worth it in the end. I just don't understand why he wouldn't want to make me feel the same way.

If any of you can give me advice I would really appreciate it.

Hey! I'ma new subscriber and I'm a guy. I think OCD is just an excuse. I would try and suggest something a little more "mutually beneficial" like the 69 position. Apart from the obvious visual stimulation(the vagina is beautiful in it's own right), he might realise it's not about giving, but sharing. And as we all know "sharing is caring! I also might suggest not putting on too much pressure(you were lucky before with four times a week) but I'm confident this might work. wish you luck

[meg40185]

Oral sex is something that should be given AND received. Have you tried not pleasuring him in that way and see what happens? If I wasn't getting any, I think that's the first thing I'd do. If you withhold, maybe he'll finally understand that it goes both ways. I can't see how OCD has anything to with it! Sounds like he's just making up excuses. Maybe he tried it before and was bad at it or something. Maybe now he's scared of trying it on you because he's afraid he won't pleasure you. There could be tons of reasons why it's not happening, but you really need to get down to the real reason. If you are upset about this now, just think of how you're going to feel 10 years down the road when he's still not doing anything for you.

[Ihoe]

All ppl are different. Don't insist on it. Give him some time. Try to understand that when somebody does something in bed he doesn't want it is a perversion.