[SadFrigidGirl]

It's me again. Nothing has changed, I've gotten worse

[rcoreyus]

Why are you staying with someone who doesn't treat you well? (not a rhetorical question).

[CHANDLERS WISH]

No, I've never made love before. I did have an ex who used to go down on me, that was the only guy who did something to please me. But even with him, during intercourse I totally lost him. He'd just get to thrusting away, he'd get very frustrated when I told him to slow down or that it hurt. He just told me to take the pain.

Then there was another guy where the sex involved absolutely no foreplay of anything, he even claimed that he didn't like kissing. So none of that took place. I really liked him but he didn't like me back, I thought sex would make him like me. Anyway it was all very technical. When I saw him, I knew to get partially undressed and then he'd just do what he had to do. I thought when you had sex it would just automaticaly start feeling good,the moment you were penetrated.. I didn't know you needed foreplay and everything until I started googling online and learning more about sex.

Still, I don't have a lot of experience with sex. I've only done it a few times. I've never been in a real relationship where I always had the opportunity to have intercourse a lot, and try different things. And I've never had anyone really really like me before or have any deep feelings for me.

I hope your still with us... Corey bought me to your attention I missed it...

You are a beautiful person, a relationship is actually foreplay trying to please, love, much love, intimacy of looking in your eyes, kn0wing and even without foreplay just love.

You are beautiful remember..

Don't settle for less., Never, ever........................EVER





CW

[SadFrigidGirl]

why is sex so uncomfortable though?

i hear women talking about how they want rough sex and it just makes me cringe. rough sex would give me great discomfort. what's wrong with my body?

[rcoreyus]

Rough sex can be enjoyable if you are already aroused. Its just painful if you are not. In the extreme it is the difference between rape and play-rape - two absolutely different things.

Different people are aroused by different things. Some people are aroused just by thinking about sex. They might enjoy a game where they are grabbed, thrown over the arm of the sofa and F. Some people enjoy the fantasy of being forced to have sex, being taken / ravished by someone.

Some people need long foreplay - kissing, hugging, licking etc to become aroused. This could still be a prelude to fast rough sex.

Some people never like rough sex. It is all a matter of personal taste / desire. I think sex should always be done to attempt to please your partner. (if they do the same, you will both have a good time).

SadFrigidGirl - it sounds like your husband doesn't care about pleasing you. If so, he is a pig, and not worth your love. Whether you would enjoy rough sex with a caring lover is impossible to say.

[minty]

have you had sex with a man yet?
you wont feel good if you dont get aroused and surounded by male hormones...
at least thats what it is like for me, i cant masturbate
i have to be with my man to enjoy it

[mewhenim]

perhaps try a ring with a bullet. Also try diferent positions I love doggie 'cause his balls hit my clit. Also girl on top will allow you to grind ur clit on his pelvis. def look into a vibrating ring thoug, I know I plan on getting one when I get into my next propper relationship.

[mewhenim]

also remember, most females require clitoral stimulation. Most do not orgasm purely from penetration.

[cara1982]

Wow!!! This thread has brought some tears to eyes. Whenever I start really thinking about my sex life I get depressed also. What we are suppost to be. Which I definitly am not. I wish I could just enjoy sex like everyone else.

Ever since the first time I was sexually active I have had a "pain" with intercouse. I actually tried mutiple doctors and the only answer I finally got is that I must have a pinched nerve at the opening. So my options if I wanted to continue was botox there or surgery.

I had pretty much given up on sex at that point so either one of those options where pretty extreme for me. I'm in a realtionship now, for a year and half. He understands but he is still a very sexual being, so I give it for him from time to time. Try to act like I at least kind of enjoy it. But I don't, I think he knows that. There is no sexual being in me what so ever any more.

I had hope for me for awhile. I really did try to get some answers but when I was just put through the ringer time after time I ended up just loosing hope and excepting what I was.

Alright, just read that over and it is a pity party but I'll leave it so you guys can get the full depth. If you honestly have any suggestions that aren't clique, I'm willing ot hear them.

I can get off by my clit. But I can't by him going down on me, I can't let myself...don't know why. I love him deeply and every once in awhile I will want him. Only with him on top though. This is the least painful for me and that's the only way I feel I connect. But still no pleasure.

The only way for me to get "wet" if i'm not in the mood (which rarely happens) is from my breasts. And to be honest I have actually orgasmed with a guy once. Don't know how or what I did. But I did. I was on top and much skinner then. So being on top now is not something I'm comfortable with now.

I guess I kinda even know the answers to my own q's. If I think about him or look at his body and REALLY look at it. He turns me on. But I work full time and I dont' have the time to think about hime sexually all the time. When I know he is going to push for it I push him away for as long I can. I guess I am just basically venting at this point (if you guys don't mind).

I untimately know what i can or can't do for my sex life. I guess I just get depressed about sometimes, sorry. I hope you guys don't mind. I can keep living the way I do and he will accept it because he loves me too. Are some women ultimatley just not programmed the same way???

If it wasn't for sex...well I would be a liar if I said I would be completely happy...but I would definitly be happier.

Again sorry, I don't have a lot of girlfriends anymore and I think I just needed to get this out. You don't have to respond, not really sure what you respond to. I just needed to vent...Thanks again

[SadFrigidGirl]

I discovered that I can get pleasure from intercourse, I just didn't know the right angle all that time. All those years! I provided an update in a new thread