BF orgasms too fast
Hi all!
So I'm having a problem, and I need some serious advice about it. My boyfriend of 2 years is pretty much the best thing that has ever happened to me! He's amazing, and we will likely get married sometime in the near future. The only problem is that he orgasms so fast! I don't think we have ever made it for more than 5 minutes of actual penetration before he can't hold it in any longer. Luckily, he is very skilled in other areas and can kind of make up for it. When we first started dating, I just assumed that it was because we were a new relationship and that it would get better with time. It hasn't, and I'm beginning to worry it won't. It's still good because of all of the foreplay and his skills in other departments, but I'm beginning to feel extremely unsatisfied. We have been together for 2 years, and I haven't done more than 3 sexual positions. Worst of all, my ex whom I dated for 3 years, had a voracious sex drive and we matched well sexually. While I do enjoy head, I would rather have 30 minutes of solid intercourse than head any day- no matter how good the guy is. Lately I have been fanatasizing a lot about my ex. I would never cheat, but I feel like a cheater for even thinking about someone else! I am a pretty sexual person, and I feel like sex is an important part of a partnership. My boyfriend is beginning to feel more like my best friend and less like a partner because he just isn't that sexually appealing under the current circumstances. I don't want to make or break our relationship with sex, but I feel like this problem is changing how I look at him.
Here is a brief health history on my boyfriend:
He is 32 and has had plenty of sexual experience in the past. He is an avid rock climber, is a vegetarian, and takes very good care of himself. He was in a pretty massive car accident 12 years ago that did some damage to his intestines. He was hositalized for 3 monthes, but has made a full recovery and has few if any known side effects from the accident.
My friends tell me I should talk to him about this, but how in the world am I supposed to do that?? I am sure that it would destroy his self esteem and make him very self concious about how long he lasts. He knows all of the best tricks to deal with it: like having intercourse for a minute and then taking a break and going down on me or something else, he doesn't penetrate very deep or thrust hard so that he can last longer (much to my dismay), and we stick to a few positions. I know that I would be so embarrased and self concious if someone told me I wasn't satisfying in bed. Especially if it was because of something I didn't have any control over. What can I do?? Please help..
So I'm having a problem, and I need some serious advice about it. My boyfriend of 2 years is pretty much the best thing that has ever happened to me! He's amazing, and we will likely get married sometime in the near future. The only problem is that he orgasms so fast! I don't think we have ever made it for more than 5 minutes of actual penetration before he can't hold it in any longer. Luckily, he is very skilled in other areas and can kind of make up for it. When we first started dating, I just assumed that it was because we were a new relationship and that it would get better with time. It hasn't, and I'm beginning to worry it won't. It's still good because of all of the foreplay and his skills in other departments, but I'm beginning to feel extremely unsatisfied. We have been together for 2 years, and I haven't done more than 3 sexual positions. Worst of all, my ex whom I dated for 3 years, had a voracious sex drive and we matched well sexually. While I do enjoy head, I would rather have 30 minutes of solid intercourse than head any day- no matter how good the guy is. Lately I have been fanatasizing a lot about my ex. I would never cheat, but I feel like a cheater for even thinking about someone else! I am a pretty sexual person, and I feel like sex is an important part of a partnership. My boyfriend is beginning to feel more like my best friend and less like a partner because he just isn't that sexually appealing under the current circumstances. I don't want to make or break our relationship with sex, but I feel like this problem is changing how I look at him.
Here is a brief health history on my boyfriend:
He is 32 and has had plenty of sexual experience in the past. He is an avid rock climber, is a vegetarian, and takes very good care of himself. He was in a pretty massive car accident 12 years ago that did some damage to his intestines. He was hositalized for 3 monthes, but has made a full recovery and has few if any known side effects from the accident.
My friends tell me I should talk to him about this, but how in the world am I supposed to do that?? I am sure that it would destroy his self esteem and make him very self concious about how long he lasts. He knows all of the best tricks to deal with it: like having intercourse for a minute and then taking a break and going down on me or something else, he doesn't penetrate very deep or thrust hard so that he can last longer (much to my dismay), and we stick to a few positions. I know that I would be so embarrased and self concious if someone told me I wasn't satisfying in bed. Especially if it was because of something I didn't have any control over. What can I do?? Please help..
Gotta work around it without trying to make a huge issue of it. Guys are very sensitive about those things.
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