[Elysium]

Suggest a book that "one of your friends husband read about learning how to treat women, that has made a big difference in their relationship". Then ask him to buy it or buy it....called "The way of the superior man" by, David Deida. 2/3 of it is simply about how to be a man and the masculine feminine roles in a relationship. The last 1/3 deals with sex and staying power and the importance of it to a woman. Includes a step by step process for it as well. Made a world of difference in my relationship...sexually and otherwise. Don't tell him it's about his performance....let him find that out on his own.

As a last resort.....talk to him about it....come from a place of love and caring and make sure that for a few days before doing so you boost his ego by telling him about all the things you love about him sexually and otherwise. Don't tell him about the other guys. If I was you....I would find some books for men that deal with premature ejaculation and see if you can attempt what they suggest without talking to him about it....then talk to him about what they suggest if you can't find a way to do that.

Lastly, if he never gets over it, don't get married. My sister is about to get divorced over the same thing. Do you want a life of unfulfilling sex? I sure don't.

Cheers

[Guest]

i just think of something different.
when i was younger, it was fairly quick i admitt. but then i tried something. i had the radio on or the tv in another room so i can hear it in the background. kind of like the more i thoughtof it, the quicker it was. i do rememeber times where i was like when is this going to happen and then i had to concentrate more.
i also found out that the more she was lubed, the longer it was too.
i have had my own marathons and i had my own quickies. when it was quick had to go for round 2, 3, 4, or more. those are the fun nights.

[kcspres]

I heard the best cream is EMLA..try westcoastskin for it.

I am the exact opposite...I rarely cum. We do it 3-4 times a week, I think I came about a month ago. Part of the problem is the pain pills I am on for my back, but I have always been like this. We just go until she cant take anymore (worn out or sore). Sometimes she worries that it is her and that she does not turn me on enough...not it at all.

Another thing that causes PE is quick masturbation. What is the goal in masturbating...to come. Not too many guys masturbate for hours under candlelight...they spank it and they do it quickly. LOL Have him take an hour and masturbate slowly, when it gets close have him just hold his penis, then when he starts to lose his erection have him start again. PE is a learned response...it can only be fixed by "unlearning it". Good luck...