[Hopeless Dork]

Your story made me smile, WC. It sounds like the LOYL and you like to have fun and I think playful banter when it comes to tinges of jealousy is the best way to handle it. It gets it out of the system and allows for some giggles to ease any tension.

Sex is messy and it can be hilarious, serious, dirty, romantic, loving & pornographic... and no where does it say that all the things that sex can be have to be mutually exclusive. It can emcompass, some, or all of those things ... sometimes even in the same session

[thack]

the idea of tagging runs a lot deeper than just a shot in the face in my opinion, wedding bands, openly tagged.

i think its all in the attitude of who's giving / recieving.

if you like it, go for it, make a mess, if you dont, then stay clean and grab a towel lol.

as I mentioned I dont just spray every women in the face, they usually ask for it. why? i dont know, but I am pretty free flowing with my sex life, I like variety and fun, kinky isnt just switching positions.... in my opinion :P

WC thats funny, I have caught myself being like that at times with (when i was married to her) X wife, not swelling up in the guys face but doing something that ONLY a significant other would be allowed to do, lol, gets the point across without making a scene or adding drama.

and HD yup, sex is messy and its a glorious mess that I enjoy lol.

[Ashlee T.]

I don't mind it at all when I'm with someone I really care for. Seems to add a level of passion and intimacy. As WC said earlier, when a guy goes down on me, he gets my sexual juices all over his face. That's a huge turn on for me.....and to show my appreciation when he comes up from down south, I typically kiss/lick him and tell him it tastes good. I figure it's nothing nasty, whether it comes from me or from him. It's just something extra, something sexual, something to spice it up a bit.

[nightqueen]

I don't let my husband do that, it's demeaning.

[Richard S]

"It is a convention of pornography that the sperm is on her, not in her. It marks the spot, what he owns and how he owns it. The ejaculation that is on her is a way of saying (through showing) that she is contaminated with his dirt; that she is dirty"

"In pornography, ejaculating onto a woman is a primary method by which she is turned into a ... , something (not really someone) whose primary, if not only, purpose is to be sexual with men."

I think it's mostly because there needs to be a visible Money Shot.

If I come between a woman's breasts, I don't think most people would call that demeaning. Any sexual act can be objectifying if it's done with that purpose and intention. By the same token, any act can be kinky, a turn-on, etc. There are many things I'll never want to get near, but I wouldn't deny someone else the right to say it's the best thing ever.

The idea that a woman's purpose is to be a receptacle for the man's sperm can be very erotic or very demeaning. Or it can just be neutral, something they do just to try it. It's all about what's going on inside the heads of the two people doing the act.

[Hopeless Dork]

Thanks Richard, and I agree about the intention and whats going on in the mind as to wether or not an act is demeaning or erotic. It's just something everyone has to define for themselves.

I control where my boyfriends product ends up at the end of an oral session, he leaves that decision to me and 9 times out of 10 I don't want to take it out of my mouth but sometimes I am just in a different mood and want to feel him on my chest or just aiming him at my face with an open mouth trying to catch what I can, and sometimes it gets on my face. Me being in control of the act, I don't see how it can be degrading to me. I find his orgasms erotic and a turn on.

[Kb19]

I can't say it's my favourite thing we've ever done, my bf and I... But it's not horrible. I like swallowing and giving head so maybe that helps...?

Just don't get it in your eyes! Unfortunately that happened once& my god did it hurt.

[hippiechick2405]

I can't say it's my favourite thing we've ever done, my bf and I... But it's not horrible. I like swallowing and giving head so maybe that helps...?
Just don't get it in your eyes! Unfortunately that happened once& my god did it hurt.

I completely agree! My aim was a bit off (can't even blame it on him as I was the one holding and pointing!) and it hit me in the eyeball (and come to think of it, most of the girls on porns have their eyes shut-smart girls). I thought that I was going to die. It really wrecked the "moment" when I screamed and jumped up to run to the bathroom to flush my eye out. Not one of my finer moments.
I think the bottom line on all this "tagging" and "marking" is that if you are both into it, do it. If not, don't do it. I find it hot, but some don't. "To each their own". Words to live by.

[erelx2]

When men go down on us they pretty much wear our fluids on their face the entire time not just when we orgasm. If a guy stopped licking you every time you got too wet during the act and was like ew... I don't want that stuff to touch me.. and began just trying to use his hand from 3 feet of distance while making the ick face , his girlfriend would be mortified. I don't know why its hard for some women to understand why their SO would be offended by that.

Hahaha! I hadn't thought of it like that...so so so true though xD

[Swiftus]

Man here again:

I find nothing fun with blowing my wad in my wife's face.

Here is something that women need to know: Our orgasm still requires friction. If we are having sex (either vaginal or oral) the last thing we want to do is pull out and use our hand (much less feeling).

I find cumming in my wife's mouth to be much more sexy. ALSO.. ANOTHER TIP: After he's done, keep going. It is like a cool down after a long run. It still feels good to us and it is an amazing way to come down.