[CHANDLERS WISH]

Oh ah, I generally don't say much in this department cause well it's personal.. lol.

But, having left my ex-husband May 2007, with around 12 months of no sex and just the basic personal stimulation from time to time, i was jumping by the time i walked.

But, Morals get in the way with me, " I should have hired a prostitute or 6", haha.. but alas 12 months went by before I did the deed so that's what 24 months? Poor CW...

But, but, Wildchild's comment above, coupled with my subtle hints pertaining to fear and also "no inhibitions", is true.

I started reading these threads, women ejaculating, masterbation, g-spot orgasms, and in short, I attempted every one of them over a period of time,

on my own...

And, I found my body, i lived in a state of sensuality, periods didn't hurt anymore, nothing negative got me down, there was no "injury" to my back/shoulders and there was nothing I couldn't achieve, I also was very placid, that is when I started really writing here..

I "self taught" myself to do all of the above and was uterly amazed, shocked when some things happened, established that I could for instance have 11 mini orgasms one after another, learnt the 2 inch trick you name it.

So, what I am saying is you are a sexual person, experiment and find, anything is possible..

Can a man take you there? Don't know, I believe so, but I also believe that fear will play a part in him not, all the way until you lose all your inhibitions with him and don't care and let go...

So start with self...

CW

[x.st.angel.x]

good words CW! I have always had a problem reaching orgasm but then again im still young and have a lot of time to figure out the tricks to it however i really am not into trying things for myself so when the idea of orgasm pills/gel came to mind it seemed like a way to learn with someone instead of by myself. What wild said is very true and i suppose its a good starting point to believe a product will work...especially in this case

[ItsASecret]

Thinking that a pill will work doesn't make the pill work. It is called the placebo effect, and that just establishes that medication is not necessary. Medications in drug trials will have the control groups to prove that their pills work, but since there are so many products that have terrible side effects or the control groups have more results than the experimental group there is literally no proven method out in the market.

So far in the UK a patch has become avaliable called Intrinsa. It is a testosterone patch prescribed to a certain population of menopausal women. The results with it are mixed though so the continuation of the patch is uncertain. It is also not approved by the FDA so there is no use of it in the United States as of yet.

Another one I know of is a nasal spray called Bremelanotide. This one acts on the brain and not the genitals like other products, essentially it is an aphrodisiac. The work on female rats has shown that a major increase in sexual arousal has occurred which is why this product seems to have promising results. However, I thought I heard they stopped trials on it because of issues of high blood pressure being produced but I do not know for sure.

My opinion is still stick with your doctor and avoid everything else.

[shweedart]

Hmmm theres also Gels and stuff the you apply to...um...'yourself' that help. Again, ann summers, Play-O gel...theres clitoris gels and rubs...all sorts!

Also i've heard something along the lines of G-spot Collagen(?) injections to make them more accessable!


screw that

[x.st.angel.x]

G-spot Collagen? thats the strangest thing i have ever heard! im keen keen to try the gels actually... can anyone suggest any good ones?

[Daisie]

I want to try the gels too but i'm not sure if i'll get them here in argentina. I buy everything on amazon (books specially) since they ship anything to argentina, but Lol can you imagine my mom's face opening the mail with the label "clitoris gel"

[ItsASecret]

This gel will have the same effect as lube, because that is exactly what it is. You can even get lube in Argentina . Don't forget there is more than one type of lubricant out there so you could shop around at the local pharmacy. And if you find one you could literally write "clitoris gel" on the tube and use those words to your advantage for the mental stimulus, thinking that it is the other product (saves you money, hassle, and any side effects that come with online purchases).

[Neaky]

Have you tried to masturbate to the point of knowing that you will orgasm then tell him to quickly replace your fingers with his (or his penis)? I have tried that, and honestly I know it will work but my guy always ends up asking "what should i do? how hard? how fast?" and by the time I even give a tiny motion to guide him the feeling is gone. Its a timing thing with me lol.

We did actually try it at first, when we first became intimate and it was pretty much the same dilemma, lol. But to be honest, it's not like i expected it WOULD work, believe me, i hoped it did, but I'm the 2nd girl he's ever been with (dating and sexually) and him and his ex only had sex twice so he's still learning the basics of woman-ology (so to speak) lol. It's okay though. Some of the time he'll ask for me to masturbate during intercourse.. I guess it makes him happy that he could assist in me reaching orgasm. Yeah, it's not the same, but as long as he's happy, I'm happy.

If i could orgasm through intercourse, i would be so darn happy. And now, he's gotten used to that fact.. He's not so bummed about it anymore so that is a good thing.. But it couldn't hurt