[stressed]

I masturbate more than that and my wife knows it.
I wish I had sex 3-4 times a week.

Ladies, understand one thing about us. We like to do it on our own. It isnt a reflection on the amount of tail you give us. Masturbation is simple, quick, and doesn't require foreplay. Also, it is far less messy. We've been doing this since we were pre-teens and there is no reason to stop.

I like the statement above about comparing it to a gourmet versus a good meal. It's very accurate.

It is more complicated than that. Men who enjoy masturbation more than sex just because it's easier and not as messy etc. shouldn't drag a woman along with them; they might as well remain single and masturbate for life to all the porn there is. If porn is involved and your partner is bothered about it then this is worth discussing as well to avoid insecurities. Men have to realize that masturbating to porn during a time when women are used a lot as sex objects harms many women's self esteem. Keeping your penis in your pants for an extra day or two won't do you any harm, on the contrary it can make the actual sex better and it shows respect towards your partner.

[rcoreyus]

Just my opinion, but I don't think I would every prefer masturbation if my wife was available and willing.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It is more complicated than that. Men who enjoy masturbation more than sex just because it's easier and not as messy etc. shouldn't drag a woman along with them; they might as well remain single and masturbate for life to all the porn there is.

I don't disagree..

But, I think the poster was definately saying "as well" not, instead of....

It's really hard when your going through a man masterbating and not having sex as he should intimately.. And, I agree, it makes us women feel in-secure and what?

I like Corey's values, he wouldn't do it all if only ...

To hopefully not throw a spanner in the works, I have experienced someone doing it in-front of me, in the past and I have to say it was hot...

To know that he knew his sexuality, didn't care was exciting.

I don't believe masterbation is a problem at all, unless your being ignored.

CW

[blondie80]

Different people different needs I guess, I see masterbation as a release thing, sometimes its just nice to only concentrate on yourself. It may sound selfish but its about you pure pleasure not having to worry about anyone else. I dont think it means that he doesn't love you because obviously he does, it just means he wants a quick release, he obviously thinks your wonderful if you are still having sex atleast 3 to 4 times a week and you are still "taking care" of things at other times otherwise it would all stop. I guess its learning to accept that whilst he is masterbating it doesn't mean that he loves you any less.

[Swiftus]

It is more complicated than that. Men who enjoy masturbation more than sex just because it's easier and not as messy etc. shouldn't drag a woman along with them; they might as well remain single and masturbate for life to all the porn there is. If porn is involved and your partner is bothered about it then this is worth discussing as well to avoid insecurities. Men have to realize that masturbating to porn during a time when women are used a lot as sex objects harms many women's self esteem. Keeping your penis in your pants for an extra day or two won't do you any harm, on the contrary it can make the actual sex better and it shows respect towards your partner.

You took me out of context here. It is not that I prefer to wrist one out over making love at all. If my wife was horny and begging for it, you better believe that I will do what is needed to make her happy. However, if it is 20 minutes until bed and I am in the mood and she isn't, it is easier for me to go and take care of it on my own versus trying to get my wife all worked up. Sex wakes her up and knocks me out. How fair is that?

Sorry to say it like this, but a quickie that you do just for him is basically the same as masturbation. Instead, you are substituting your body for his hand.

[Rainie1117]

Wow! I guess I sparked one heck of a conversation here, I really do thank all of you for responses. Some have been quite helpful. And I have to admit I feel like the luckiest woman alive because I do truely have an amazing man. It amazes me everyday just how much he still loves me after all these years. I talked with my sister about this problem yesterday, Now get this I'm the older one and I always thought I was supposed to be the one full of advice.But she says just let it be-He loves you, he has never cheated on you, He doesn't abuse you or yell & scream and belittle you, so just let him have a few mins pleasure now & then. All I can say is I wish I could be that accepting. I love it when he does it in front of me, (but behind my back or so he thinks) feels like I'm not doing my best to please him. And really in my heart I know I am. He just told me last night before bed, (cause he knows I'm so p'd off about it this time) that he Loves and wants only me all the time. Really I know that, and I believe that with all my heart. I just feel like I'm being so petty over this, But it really bothers me this time. God!!!!!!!!! Am I stupid or what? I gotta get past this.

[WildChild]

Humm, have you always felt this way? How old are you? As we get older and our hormones start to adust we (meaning me too :]) can find ourselves getting rather shirty about things that didn't use to be a concern and feel quite relaxed about things that used to get us upset.

[Swiftus]

You ladies really need to listen to the Chris Rock bit about how a woman needs to be the center of a man's pleasure.

It is a funny bit and he describes what you are feeling to a T.

The thought of my wife rubbing one out makes me chub up. The thought of your hubby working one out makes you feel like you cant please him.

[stressed]

You took me out of context here. It is not that I prefer to wrist one out over making love at all. If my wife was horny and begging for it, you better believe that I will do what is needed to make her happy. However, if it is 20 minutes until bed and I am in the mood and she isn't, it is easier for me to go and take care of it on my own versus trying to get my wife all worked up. Sex wakes her up and knocks me out. How fair is that?

Sorry to say it like this, but a quickie that you do just for him is basically the same as masturbation. Instead, you are substituting your body for his hand.

I don't see anything wrong with what you do, of course if you're in the mood more often than your parter you actually end up having to masturbate as you don't have a choice. I just made my post more general because I've heard certain men say how easier it is to masturbate than have sex, and that attitude on a constant basis has no place in a relationship. At the end of the day it's your own body and nobody should tell you what to do with it.

[Swiftus]

I don't see anything wrong with what you do, of course if you're in the mood more often than your parter you actually end up having to masturbate as you don't have a choice. I just made my post more general because I've heard certain men say how easier it is to masturbate than have sex, and that attitude on a constant basis has no place in a relationship. At the end of the day it's your own body and nobody should tell you what to do with it.

For me, I usually use it as a way to put me to sleep or wake me up. Just depends on the time of day. Its a great way to start off your day and a nice way to force yourself to sleep at night. (For a man, that is)