[Guest]

I doubt the problem is porn or masturbation. I think both porn and masturbation are good things for both men and women. Everyone should masturbate, even married people. That kind of time with you and your own body is important time too.

Masturbation, meh. It isn't the best scenario if you're masturbating when your s/o is available.

Porn? I'd have to say I disagree. I think watching porn solo leads to bad things. I had my bout with porn in my last relationship. It got to the point where I preferred porn to having sex with her. And she was a dime.

I gave porn up a while back and I'm able to completely focus my sexual energy on my fiance. I'm glad I did. I feel closer to her knowing that she is my only source of sexual gratification.

[Hopeless Dork]

Oh there you are, you bring up a point that has been something that is driving me crazy. You say you were turning to porn even though your ex was a dime. Do you think for the typical guy... no matter how hot his gf is, that he still might like looking at naked women? I think most of us see guys browsing naked chicks as some kind of message that we must be inadequate in someway.

Choosing masturbation and porn over a person sitting in the other room that is desiring you and has needs to feel close to you is counterproductive to a healthy relationship. I think masturbation has its place but that it should be a suppliment to a relationship not a stand-in.

[Guest]

I think porn is fine for guys who are single, but i dont understand why guys in a relationship need to how would they like it if us girls watched men like that all the time doubt they would like it, my hubby knows i hate him watching porn and he respects me so doesnt do it we have a very active sex life so he doesnt really need too.

[blondie80]

otya your right there is probably little less on this earth more frustrating for a woman than not being able to feel like she is connected during sex and men are visual I do see your point and I did suggest to her to try and spice things up sometimes there is nothing worse than routine for both partners lol.
You can be very emotionally attatched as we see in the forums all the time and still not desire sex with your partner it seems to be quite a common thing and its usually a different reason for everyone, but if they can communicate about it and cant overcome it its always going to be a big hinderance on the relationship or even break it at some point.

[latinka]

I think that individuals of both sexes can get bored with one and the same sexual partner for such a long period of time. Naturally he is attracted by other women, he needs diversity, he needs new experience. So do you. The easiest thing is to lend colour to sex. Open up Kama Sutra, use your imagination! What the problem could be is that his porn and masturbation acts could be a result of a psychological problem. He may think he has no longer freedom and may miss his previous sexual liberation. What you can do is talk about it and decide what's best for both of you for the future.