[Ahryin]

I agree with Oh There, I agree with OG

I have a very high sex drive ( I have NO clue why) I have been the one that just gave in before (when I was younger with my then fiance') I think thats one of the reasons I didn't marry him. I resented the fact that he would demand my sexual submission. It seemed like he just wanted me so much and even though I appreciated that I hated him for it. That is NO way to live. I believe that if you love a person and want more intimacy from your relationship you should try and work it out, find other ways, explore yourself as well. Be master of your own domain

[WildChild]

For generations we've had this women should just "give in" to men's "urges" stuff going on. It created an unlovely situation of unresponsive women apparently just laying there like dolls while their husband "satisfied" himself.

Then someone let the cat out of the bag and women were told they should enjoy it too. But most had no clue how, so we were told we should fake it so the man would feel better about it and maybe if we were lucky, while faking it the real thing would happen (seriously, there were articles like this in the early 70s women's mags)

Now we are supposed to have turned into sexual dynamos. Some of us have achieved that and are highly orgasmic, only to find that the men are intimidated, can't keep up and aren't willing to even try to meet our needs on an even occasional basis. Rather like the bully who always wants to fight - until someone laughingly says alright, I'll take you on. Then they hear mother calling and have to go.

In some cases it seems to be performance fear, in some a control issue. What it almost never seems to be with men, is something you can sit down and talk about reasonably and get a rational response or some sort of compromise. That little head doesn't just cause them to act stupid sometimes, it causes most of them to shut down if they can't lead with it. The idea that men would love a woman who initiates sex, who is always ready, willing and interested, seems to be true only in their fantasies because they want a women who is always turned on and sexually aggressive - when They want it. Any other time they want her to turn it off and forget it.

At 50 plus, I've dealt with years of this with a number of men. I love sex, without being demanding, I'll do whatever I can to get it going and keep it going. I never met One, who would reciprocate for more than a few months. Once it really sinks in that I'm not just trying to rope him in with sex and that I really want it pretty much all the time, they cool down. Since we have nothing in our history comparable to the old sexual grin and bear it that women did for generations for men, they have no sense that this is something they need to work on.

[rcoreyus]

I'm afraid I need to disagree. That is the only thing that has tempted me to think about looking elsewhere. If you prefer your partner to anyone else, but they are not available, second best starts to seem appealing.

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As for the partner with the high drive not getting enough at home causing them to look elsewhere, this is definitely false. If you're looking outside of your relationship to satisfy anything, then something is wrong with your relationship. It's not the lack of sex that is causing you to look elsewhere.

[Steph33]

If one of you wants to get off more often and the other doesn't feel they "have to" that's fine. He or she will find someone else as an outlet. Be aware.

We're both horny all the time. But as a guy sometimes my b/f can't do the whole intercourse , release thing be it tired, not feeling well, etc. But he'll bury his face between my legs at the drop of a hat, he enjoys that as a thing by itself. So I always get taken care of. The VERY few times I didn't feel like it he never knew. He's blind loyal, worships me and shows it daily. So if he'd hard, full, and I see that want look, I empty him. No desire for anyone else to get near him, and nothing sucks more than physical frustration (male or female)

[Theresa]

I am a religious person and was wondering if my new found love for sex was what God had in mind for me. I found a website that I found very interesting about that subject. 1 Cor. 7:2-5 talks about a husband and wife and their sex life.

Verse 3: The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

So let the games begin...just as long as I get it in return (which I am working on)!!!