[Isabellacat]

Exactly Miya thanks. I was'nt calling anyone sick. Sorry if I took it personally because I have been assaulted before and I never heard of people actually fantasizing about being raped because I actually was. I'm not trying to criticize anyone's kink whatever kink that may be,fine. If some people are into that and floats their boat okay, but I have PTSD from it actually happening to me sorry. When I clicked on this thread I was'nt expecting anything violent and well rape is violent.

[stressed]

She didn't call anyone sick. She only said it makes HER sick to think... (see her original post) "Just makes me sick people actually think there's pleasure in that because there is'nt any."

Do you know her background/life experiences and why she would feel this way? I doubt it and it doesn't matter WHY anyway.

She has every right to feel the way she does and the same to post it. At least she wasn't hurling insults towards others. From this post it's clear you did not extend to her the same courtesy.

I just found the line "Just makes me sick people actually think there's pleasure in that because there is'nt any" indirectly refers to the people who do that as sick. I also have a background and certain negative experiences but I don't use them to insult other people because I am biased. But when somebody calls me, even indirectly, sick then I do have to defend my views as well.

However, I understand Issabellacat and don't hold anything against her.

[WildChild]

Rcoryus put it well, as long as it's between consenting adults, I'd add, in private. But all parts of that are vital. They must be adult physically, mentally and emotionally. Must be aware of what they are doing and able to consent freely without any pressure or fear and whatever they are doing should be in private.

Then it's really no one's business.

[GlitterAndStuds]

Glitter and Studs--I used the wrong face. I meant to use I don't think you are twisted or strange, and I think my first post may've seemed scarstic.

Haha no worries. It wasn't taken that way at all....so you're safe

[Miya]

I just found the line "Just makes me sick people actually think there's pleasure in that because there is'nt any" indirectly refers to the people who do that as sick. I also have a background and certain negative experiences but I don't use them to insult other people because I am biased. But when somebody calls me, even indirectly, sick then I do have to defend my views as well.

However, I understand Issabellacat and don't hold anything against her.

Of course everyone is entitled to their preferences as long as everyone involved in them agrees and I wasn't trying to come down on you as I hope you understand. If I offended please forgive. We all have our own backgrounds and that forms a large part of what our personality it like (if not primarily).

For example (and yes I'm going out on a limb here so bear with me), I'm sickened to know that there are people in the world who find it reasonable and justified to use a nuclear weapon against another country, especially over 2 civilian cities. (sound familiar?) I'm also sickened that people could get so caught up in "Emperor Fervor" that the commit atrocious crimes against another human being (Nanking, Philippines, etc.). Here I'm biased but it's not my INTENT to insult anyone, just to disagree vehemently with the "herd mentality" that seems to justify actions because "it's what others agree with or are doing."

Anyway, my point was that while I agree people have their own choices and hey, "kink", and that's all good with me, I also feel someone who's been the unwilling victim of the violent side of an action has a right to feel the way they do to.

I guess that was my point...

[SinisterUrge]

Trying to steer the train back on its tracks...

Oral sex in public bathrooms: Kinky factor - 7/10

[mr.mansview]

I find the rape fantasy thing very disturbing and wrong. Just makes me sick people actually think there's pleasure in that because there is'nt any.Fighting to be able to breathe is'nt a form of pleasure.

I'll get back to this thread when I have something more positive to say but that's my two cents on that subject.

if u have read any of Nancy Friday's book on female sexual fantasy u will find the most common fantasy is the rape fantasy..but it is just that..a fantasy..doesn't mean they want to live it..i'm sure any woman who has been raped is repulsed by that fantasy for sure..

two of her books are "my secret garden" and "women on top"..i found it very informative when i started dating but also scared the h*ll out of me

[SinisterUrge]

two of her books are "my secret garden" and "women on top"..i found it very informative when i started dating but also scared the h*ll out of me

I read 'Women on Top' my freshman year of highschool. While very informative overall I really wish I hadn't read the essay involving the German Shepherd.

[Muffin]

I would say the kinkiest thing I've done (lol tried to do) is on a hiking trail up against a tree...

however... I was so nervous... i couldn't get wet... *sighs*

[mr.mansview]

I read 'Women on Top' my freshman year of highschool. While very informative overall I really wish I hadn't read the essay involving the German Shepherd.

must admit i don't remember that one but can imagine