[Melephant]

Hello!

Little question for ya.. Ever had anal sex?
I'm asking for a reason.. In between much-needed shaggage, my fiance and i admitted to eachother we were curious about anal sex. Once or twice he has made me jump by inserting a fingertip into my back passage, and i must admit, after i got over the initial shock and the 'what-the-frick-are-you-doing???' bit, i kind of liked it!

Now i'm in two minds about whether to take it to the next step.. He's quite large and i've heard some awfully embarrassing stories.. And though the vague idea of it turns me on, i think about it seriously, like how it would actually be, what would be involved and how it might feel and i'm a bit put-out by it. But the idea really turns me on and i know my fiance would be up for it.

What do you think? What were your experiences of anal sex, guys and girls?

[Mes T]

I'm sure there are threads on this if you search, so check those out... Personally I've done it once or twice and it was fine, but many of my friends liken it to taking a dump... backwards.

If you do it, remember to go REALLY slowly at first and use a LOT of lube. You most definitely do not want to tear anything there. And, have a BM beforehand!

[renniemama]

I've had anal a few times, and I've learned that its really fun as long as you don't rush it. A BM within the last 24 hours is important, and you need lots of lube. One way to get the lube where you need it is to buy som eplain latex gloves, have him slip one on and start lubing you up slowly adding more lube and fingers as you go(the glove aslo helps with the issue of fingernails, which is what made this a bad experience for me for so long).

If thats all you can handle for one day then that's fine, tell him so and that you'd be more then glad to continue another day, if you want to.

As long as you both talk about what your expectations are you should be fine.

[Melephant]

Lol, Mes T!!

But do you get any pleasure from it? Apart from feeling all bad and naughty, of course Is it really messy? I heard that afterwards you could poop, is that true???? :O

[shweedart]

I've only done it twice, both times as clean as a whistle but the thought of possibly pooping after kinda took the fun out of it for me! the first time it felt like a big horrible stubborn poop! The second time we used a fair bit of lube and it was pretty fun but again...the worry of what could happen at pull out time put me off!

[Melephant]

Hey, you're from Essex! Was beginning to think everyone was American on here Just moved to Essex myself from up north. It's nice

Haha, i think that's the main thing holding me back, too. Can't think of anything more humiliating.. Did you enjoy it? Like is it actually pleasurable for a woman too?

[shweedart]

Woo yeah! Wherebouts?
The first time, no...The second time hmmm slightly but I guess its the same as when you first start having sex...its not all fun and games at first it takes some getting used to! I'd definately do it again...as a one in the blue moon treat! But my bf doesn't enjoy it that much because I'm not having a good time...which is what he likes to see

[Melephant]

Colchester. It's a very two-sided place!
Hmm.. Am really starting to take this seriously now.. Thinking.. Will have to wait til this snoring fellow beside me heals up. He's been limping for like three days lol

[shweedart]

Ah cool, not far from me at all! I go swimming in colchester cos theres no good pools where I am! Well, it'll be a nice treat when he's all better im sure. You never know, you may love it! A lot of women luuuurve it

[Mes T]

The pooping thing can happen, and in fact I remember a recent thread where a woman was like "Whoaaaa boy I took a dump after anal, what do I do??" Teehee. But it shouldn't happen if you have a nice ol' BM beforehand. I mean you can't poop anything out if there's nothing there in the first place, right?

I did this with some lube and no preparation (not even the BM part), and didn't have any issues. About an hour later though, I did feel the need to go in a... strange way, kind of like out of the blue diarrhea. I was just hoping the guy couldn't hear me from the other side of the bathroom door and regret the decision to put his penis there.