[crazyone81]

Hi everyone, I wanted to share my experience. My boyfriend and I recently had anal sex which he did not have my consent and did it when we were doggy style and it was very painful and I told him to stop a couple of times and he didn't. That same day I went to my local sex shop and bought a strap on. Two nights later I told him I had a suprise for him and tied him to the bed. I used my strap on, on him with no lub like he did to me and made it very painful. He immediatly understood what I went through and said sorry and I made him understand that I wear the pants and he needs to be more respectful. The next night I showed him what he should have done and used alot of lube and worked my way in very slow and was very sweet to him. I got amazing results and he now understands were I'm coming from . I now get the respect and have the upper hand over him which I really enjoy. I just thought I would share my experience and how it worked for me. I know i'm different and I feel kinda bad but I felt there was a need for me to do this.
Thanks everyone I just wanted to share my experience.

[x.st.angel.x]

I love that story haha! i did something similar. My very first serious relationship i must have been about 16 or so. He brought a vibrator (i did not know this) and he attempted to use it on me in public at a shopping centre, i absolutely freaked out and thought of ways i could get him back. A week later i said the same thing ' i have a suprise for you' and tied him to the bed, i knew were he kept the vibrator and gave him a taste of his own medicine lol I didnt get far tho, far enough in my opinion to scare him but the screaming put me off lol

[Miss K]

Great stories! I keep beeing supprised with what men think is 'fun' or 'just a joke'... I love that you girls gave them a taste of what it is like when they do stuff like that! Hopefully all men can learn from this so revenge actions like this wont be nessesary anymore

[WildChild]

That reminds me of my first experience with anal. My first husband did essentially what Crazy describes, he just shoved in with no lube, no preparation, no warning. My scream probably woke half the neighborhood. There was some blood, the pain was intense and lasted a couple of days, he never ever appologized.

I've never gone for the revenge mode. At that time porn was limited to a movie theater or arcade and sex toys weren't legal to sell in my state. I'd never heard of a strap on, never seen an x rated movie (well, unless you count Woostock -LOL, standards were different then) and we'd never had any anal play. I'm not sure if he was stupid, mean or more likely just didn't care. It was probably something he'd done with one of the women he had an affair with and decided to bring it home.

At that time if a young woman went to her mother or any other older woman and was actually able to talk about such things, not very likely, the response was, "That's how men are, you just have to live with it." We may have been living in the "sexual revolution" but out mothers and sources of information and guidance weren't.

[KMonte85]

I used my strap on, on him with no lub like he did to me and made it very painful. He immediatly understood what I went through and said sorry and I made him understand that I wear the pants and he needs to be more respectful.

Wowza! Maybe I'm not in the norm here, but I think if you need to take revenge into the bedroom there are some serious issues in the relationship, or not much of a relationship at all really.

1. The second my boyfriend would do that to me without my consent it would be over. Done. Finito. After 8 years together, if he thought that it would be hot or sexy for him to ram his penis into my a__ in a hurtful/painful/violating way, he is not the man I know and we would no longer be together for that point forward. Him and all his stuff would be out of my house in the time it took me to get dressed and start throwing his carp in the front yard.

2. If I felt so compelled to hurt him back because he hurt me... well, again.. bedroom fun is supposed to be fun, intimate, loving.. a great activity to bring a couple closer and more in love. Hurt/Pain/Violation/Revenge do not belong in that equation. Why violate someone you are supposed to love to the point that they are screaming because of something they did to you before? What does that accomplish? Doesn't that just make you as bad as they are? Not to get all "ohhhmmm" on everyone BUTTTTT "an eye for an eye makes the world blind." Lets not stoop to that point....


Just my 2 cents on the matter.....

[Texinator]

I think if I were a woman and a man barged through my backdoor like that without knocking first, that would be a good way for him to lose his favorite appendage.

Maybe those 'Violators will be shot, survivors will be shot again' signs should be available in sticker form for women to tape to their butts.

[WildChild]

Humm maybe the tat parlors should add that one to their offerings?

[Texinator]

LOL That's a great idea.

How ironic though, a surprise ramrodding is about the best way to turn someone off anal forever. I guess some people don't think these things through.

[WildChild]

Ah Yeah, lack of thinking seems to be a big problem in the world in many areas. Do have to wonder...but then they are probably the same types (my ex was) who present persuations such as, "If you leave I'll kill myself" when that doesn't work, they try a new approach. such as, "I could kill you and know one would know it wasn't an accident".
That'll make a woman want to stay and get cozy with you?

[Texinator]

That'll make a woman want to stay and get cozy with you?

Sounds like at that stage he doesn't even care anymore what a woman wants. It's all about him. If he needs to use cruelty to 'keep the b*tch in line' then so be it, he thinks.