[Hopeless Dork]

I don't advise other women that find themselves in the OP's situation to handle it in the same way. While her S.O technically raped her, and at the very least deserved being broken up with... to tie a man up and perform that act on him is one, a crime... and 2... its a very touchy subject going 'there' on a guy... you don't know what kind of reaction this might provoke....If a guy has already proven they care so little about your feelings as to anally rape you, you returning the act may lead to an even more violent end.

While the OP may have gotten some giggles and all things worked out for her, I repeat that I do not reccomend following her lead... its brutal, its dangerous.

[nightqueen]

Hi everyone, I wanted to share my experience. My boyfriend and I recently had anal sex which he did not have my consent and did it when we were doggy style and it was very painful and I told him to stop a couple of times and he didn't. That same day I went to my local sex shop and bought a strap on. Two nights later I told him I had a suprise for him and tied him to the bed. I used my strap on, on him with no lub like he did to me and made it very painful. He immediatly understood what I went through and said sorry and I made him understand that I wear the pants and he needs to be more respectful. The next night I showed him what he should have done and used alot of lube and worked my way in very slow and was very sweet to him. I got amazing results and he now understands were I'm coming from . I now get the respect and have the upper hand over him which I really enjoy. I just thought I would share my experience and how it worked for me. I know i'm different and I feel kinda bad but I felt there was a need for me to do this.
Thanks everyone I just wanted to share my experience.

So basically your bf raped you? And you're still with him??

[Awoman2]

He deserved it.

HD, if it's a touchy subject going "there" for some guys, why didn't he stop to think about how she'd feel about having it done to her and especially in that manner?

I'd have gotten a really big strap on and returned the favour, then thrown him out on his sore .

But hey, that's just me.

[rcoreyus]

If you want to get picky - he raped her. She raped him. Both BAD!. If both are OK with it, then I guess they should go on with their relationship, but in general forced sex is bad - really bad - go to prison for a decade bad. Retaliation is also bad , also go to prison bad.

Of course if neither *really* wanted the act to stop, that is different. If you engage in that sort of rough play though - please please please us a safeword. (and then play all you like)

[crazyone81]

Okay I understand it was not the right thing to do. But just to clear things up we had talked about doing anal sex before and what he did was by no means "rape" we do use rough sex. But sometimes a man just needs to understand that theirs a right time for everything and yes it wasn't right what either of us did but it wasn't anything to go to prison over. It was fun and games and I wanted to show him who's boss that's all their is to it really lol. And he told me after that he liked that I showed dominance and he hasn't talked back since or tried to go back there

[Hopeless Dork]

Oh I understood completely in your post that you didn't view it as rape, that he didn't... that he probably wanted you to penetrate him.. figured that you guys role play and do rough stuff occasionally by the fact that you didn't seem freaked out by his actions, or his yours. Kind of an unspoken consent. While I gathered that, not everyone reading may gather that...

And so figured it was worth stating that some having sex with you anally against your will and while you say no is rape... and doing it back to them would also be the same ... unless you are playing some kind of sex game which the two of you seemed to be doing.