[LanaBear]

Honey, I'm not sure if it would even make a difference... Not for the first time anyways.

Have fun! Let us know how it goes because I'm sure we'll all be curious!

[Texinator]

Won't he last longer if he does it a few times before?

For the first time he'll probably end up playing 'bottle rocket' either way.

[Fish]

Haha ok...That's kind of what I figured but I read online that it would help. He told me we would end up doing it several times tonight anyway so "by the 5th or so time" he should last longer. Haha we'll see about that! I will let you know how it goes...we are so excited to open up this part of our relationship!!! It has been a longgggg wait to say the least!

[alterview]

good for you

fish-

I applaud your choice to wait, that is a long time to hold out. Sorry that last weekend didn't work but the anticipation has to be great. I would recommend taking a bottle of lube with you. I would bet that he wont last long the first time but will be very ready to go again (even without a break).

Just a small bit of advice: really work on open communication. Its the best way to grow together sexually.

have a blast!

[Texasred]

So we're planning on the big night being Friday...!!! He said he was holding off masterbating but I don't think that's a good idea?? Won't he last longer if he does it a few times before?

In theory, yes, but... he's going to be pretty astounded at how much different the "real thing" feels...

OK, here's my suggestion:
Make this play - it's supposed to be fun!
If you do something silly, laugh about it!
(If HE does something silly, wait 'til he laughs before you do... )

Have fun!
- TR

[pinkdynamite]

(If HE does something silly, wait 'til he laughs before you do... )

That is an excellent piece of advice, especially for your first time. The first time I had sex, the guy was so busy trying to please me that he was actually terrified of doing something wrong. Which isn't a bad thing, it just can make you both feel a little more nervous. The best piece of advice I can give is to reiterate what the other posters have said and tell you to have fun!! You've waited a long time for this, so relax and enjoy it!

[Mitchel1870]

You can't do anything wrong, don't worry. From the male perspective it is all good. If i remember correctly the guys have the problems lasting (I have only been with one) and making it worth your while. The 'dance' takes a while to perfect between two people. It is the learning what each other liked that was fun.

[WildChild]

LOL the good old days of many repeats. Enjoy yourselves!

[Fish]

WOW!!!!!! It was amazing. No lie I almost cried because it was so special and romantic. It hurt at first, even though he wasn't too far in me, but we took it slow and eventually got it in the whole way and then the fun started!!!! Everytime we changed positions or he had to reenter, it hurt again...but the pain subsided with each try. I can't even describe how it felt emotionally; looking into his eyes while making love was like nothing I've ever experienced!! I gave him a bj first because he was convinced it would make him last longer, then while he was recovering he gave me oral...When he was ready to go (wasn't too long), I put the condom on. We were both so anxious, we were shaking!!! But once the pain went away we enjoyed each other. We went at it for 2 hours!!!!! Of course there were breaks but wow!!!! I couldn't orgasm, and I didn't expect to, not even with clittoral stimulation. It felt like there was wayyyy too much stuff going on down there and I may have been overstimulated? Like I said, I wasn't expecting to the first time! It all felt good in a different way...anyway after trying quite a few positions and finding out our physical capabilities, we had an amazing first experience!!! After we finished he said "isn't it great that we get to do this for the rest of our lives together?" sigh. I want to go at it again but he is still sleeping...maybe I'll go wake him up

oh, I bled for a few hours after but it was a strange color (light pink almost peach?). I figured with the pain and the bleeding, I did still have at least some of my hymen. Will it hurt the next time we do it?

We used ky jelly but I think we'll give astroglide a try bc I don't like how ky gets sticky.

Thank you for all of your support everyone, I'm glad that we decided to take the next step and I'm really thankful for having you all to talk to!!

[WildChild]

Congrats, sound like you two are off to a good start. You may be a little tender for a couple of days. You body was made for this but has to get used to it. The bleeding was probably pinkish because it was mixed with your natural lubrication and the lube.