[jsgirl]

I have had a look through a lot of the threads on here concerning anal. Most seem to be saying.. should i or shouldnt i...

My bf and i have decided we want to try it.

What i am looking for is some tips for before we try, how to avoid mess, how to make it as comfortable as possible for me, what works for you..... and anything we should do afterwards if anything?

Thanks in advance!

Everything (within reason lol) is welcomed!

[WildChild]

Well we've had a bunch on this but it's been awhile.

[Pan Man]

Best Anal Lubricant

The best anal lubricant we have found is Crisco or similar product. It is a biodegradable, food-grade product. It lasts a long time and is completely safe. We have tried many products and found none we like better. It is much better than petroleum jelly or other similar type products.

Pan Man

[Futureboy]

Hi JS

I have written few threads on this subject but I shall re-cap. It's nice to hear your interested in trying new things your SO is a very lucky guy:

Prep:

First time
-Eat a proper diet to keep you nice a regular.
-Go for a number 2 ealier in the day so you are not uncomfortable
-Have a shower and make sure you're nice a clean
-get him to massage your butt this stimlates the blood round the area
-use a lube like KYgelly
-get him to gently stimulate you butt hole with his finger (with lube) or tongue to relax you and excite you.
-use a small lubed vibrator or dildo to see if you are comfortable with a little bit of penetration
-masturbate at the same time

The above will probably do for the first time

next time:
-as above
-lube lube lube
-lie on your front or side and very very very slowly let him penetrate you while you are masturbating
If you lie on your side you will be able to pull away it it is painful bit it is less comfortable
-Probably dont let him cum in you let him cum on your butt or in a condom for the first few times. As you will have to get him to wipe you butt and you will run off for a cum poo

You need to be completly relaxed and comfortable with him before you do it
Get him to kiss the back of your neck

It is possible to orgasm if you mastubate. I have been told the orgasm feels good but different

It may be an idea to stick a little finger up him so he knows he needs to be gentle with you

Men can get really into anal so make sure he knows its for very special occations when he has earned a little bit of extra naughtyness

Remember its not for everyone so if you dont like it dont continue but you dohave to give it 3 or 4 times to relax completely and enjoy it fully.

On the downside your butt hole with be a bit lose the day after

Hope you enjoy it, I love girls who do

[ItsASecret]

Uh I would highly advise against shoving a food product like Crisco up the anal end of a person. There is no way that the product is deemed safe for something like that, just because something is slick does not mean it should be used as an alternative to actually tested products like KY.

[newhere808]

Uh I would highly advise against shoving a food product like Crisco up the anal end of a person. There is no way that the product is deemed safe for something like that, just because something is slick does not mean it should be used as an alternative to actually tested products like KY.

Yea that one kind of caught my eye to. If your not using a condom, which is a good idea for anal (even when clean, there is a lot of potential bacteria), you may even wish to use an oil based lube, as they tend to last longer than water based KY, which will obsorb into the skin and evaporate. From what i've been told (friend of mine loves it) there is no such thing as too much lube, and futureboys early steps are the way to go.

Make sure your guy understands that he is not to go for full penetration right off, that could be very painful. Do your best to ensure that you are relaxed as possible, tension will make it more difficult for him to enter and may cause pain.

As far as cleanliness is concerned, keep yourself regular as mentioned above, if your still a little self-concious you can try using an enema kit. After wards I would recommend him cleaning his penis well before putting it anywhere else, as the associated bacteria could cause things like urinary tract infections and what not.

Hope all goes well

[kira]

Crisco may be better than petroleum jelly but who is still using petroleum jelly for anything sex related anymore? I wouldn't use or recommend either one. There are far better products made now that lubricate better while being thinner and without leaving as much mess behind.

[Futureboy]

After wards I would recommend him cleaning his penis well before putting it anywhere else, as the associated bacteria could cause things like urinary tract infections and what not.

Good point: Top, Middle then Bottom (so to speak) NO back to front

[Millania]

Futureboy, wow you really gave her some great advice, pretty much wat I was about to say
jsgirl-Futureboy gave some great advice, just to touch up on his points..the main thing you want to remember is to relax thoroughly before he tries anything on you back there(finger/dildo etc)
and LUBE is super duper important and a MUST
I love Astroglide or KY Silky glide forumula(not the warming lubes though, just regular good ol lube)
be careful if he is going to use his finger to start with you, make sure his nails are nice and short!
What I like to do is take a few deep breathes to fully relax before he enters
the beginning is the most uncomfortable because the first 2 inches of our back end opening is extremley tight, just remember that it wont be as uncomfortable once he gets it almost all the way in, its only uncomfortable for about a few seconds while he is getting it in
Make sure he goes very slow, he may try to enter a few times and you may want to just throw him off of you but just relax, breathe, and relax your "back end" completley
Once he gets it about half way in, you should be good to go
It can be VERY enjoyable for both parties
The main thing is that you use lots of lube and relax, I think you will have lots of fun, good luck

[jsgirl]

Thanks heaps guys and girls!!

Great to get both male and female perspectives!!